Im posting this thread on behalf of a male friend who currently has no internet access.
His former partner has been with a guy for around 18 months and it has been discovered he has a very dubious past.
The new man in her life took illegal drugs and abused his ex and wife of his daughter.
Not just his daughters mother he met other women after his ex left him and the police got inviolved because he got violent with them too.
He can only see his daughter if a member of his family is with him eg supervised contact. His daughter lives miles away with his exes mum in esher. He and my ex and myself live in south yorkshire. He lost custody of his daughter so did his ex because he forced her to cover up his drug taking. His exes mum moved down south for a new start.
He lives with his mum and stays at my exes around three nights each week.
We have a son who is autistic and very vunerable.
When i spoke to my ex about him she said she knew about his past and he told her he is a reformed person.
Two weeks ago whilst i was at my exes to see our son he walked in and when my ex went upstairs he approached me and said i need to babysit my son more so they can get out more often he sounded really threathning.
When i said i already did he told me not to try to fu** things up for him or i would regret it.
I told my ex about what he said she laughed and said thats his personality.
He has been off work for nearly 7 months.
I really dont like him around our son.
When i told me ex she could be with a nicer man she said she couldnt because shes overweight with a disabled child.