To not know how to drive?

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That's kind of it really.

I grew up in a city, I live in a city with great transport links and 10 mins away by train to a massive city. DH drives. I have had lots of lessons and got to the point where I 'could' drive but I was crying whilst driving in every lesson, it terrified me, so stopped. AIBU to not get my licence? DH doesn't mind doing the driving.

Your decision, should be respected. Worth knowing taxi firms in case your DH cannot drive on any occasion.

Why do you think "everyone" should learn? What's it to you how other people choose to live?

For the reasons stated. What’s it to you what my opinion is? 😂

Both husband and I drive, and have since we were 21.

If we are going somewhere together, my husband drives because he is more confident and I don't love driving, although I don't mind it and he loves it.

For a couple of years, husband couldn't drive because of a now-treated medical condition and so I was the only driver in the household and it was frustrating and I felt a little resentful at the time (even though he obviously couldn't help it!). It's not nice being the only driver in the household.

@showmethephotos I meant surely you can relate to your friends' losses in the future. You never forget the grief, or I didn't when my brother died when he was a child. I've moved on, but it gives me more empathy towards those close to me who experience bereavement .

Because it's not for you to say what other people should do with their lives.

If you really want to drive, try an automatic. It's so much easier - like an entirely different skill.

I did pass in a manual but was constantly terrified and had terrible anxiety about driving, and so just never did it. A few years later we needed a new car so got an automatic, just to see if it helped. As soon as I started driving the automatic I was fine. I still avoid long journeys and motorways (though can do them if I psyche myself up), but I can jump in the car and do whatever I need to do day to day no bother. It's so freeing.

I agree with everyone who says try automatic - and if it’s an option consider selling your existing car and getting an automatic.

As someone who has really struggled with driving confidence I don’t see why they even bother to make manuals now, except for in sporty cars.

If you live in a city with good public transport you can probably get away with never learning to drive and maybe it’s just really not for you. But I do agree with others that it’s one of those life skills that is very good to have - like swimming or riding a bike. And I say this without any judgment as someone who is a weak swimmer, very poor cyclist and spent a long time avoiding driving because I find it stressful!

I tried to learn, tried different instructors including one who specialised in 'nervous' drivers. I was actually told by them that driving was not for me after I got so stressed during a lesson that my leg went into spasm around a roundabout and kept bumping up and down on the accelerator. I had to hold my leg up while they drove using dual control.

I have dyspraxia and whilst I tried to learn in a manual and an automatic it still meant I couldn't organise myself enough to cope with looking through mirrors in different places, holding a steering wheel and moving it whilst looking out the windscreen to see where I was going, changing gears, let alone looking for road signs including speed. I was literally a danger to myself and everyone else on the road.

And it’s not up to you what (non-offensive and entirely relevant) opinions other posters have FFS.

I paid for my kids licenses when they were old enough lessons they funded themselves. I did have lessons 30 odd years ago but never went for my test and it was getting expensive on 1 minimum wage and 3 kids . I do not drive its still too bloody expensive i walk everywhere or use the bus even when raining . My parents would never have paid anyway. My husband drives i don't rely on him for lifts anywhere at all or my kids. Its not killed me nearest town center 30 minutes away. I just get on with it my kids knew when younger their dad wasn't their personal taxi but they did get lifts if they asked but they didn't take the pee. Im not after sympathy just stating a fact. Do i regret it no