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To think only a monster would claim a reward for returning a missing pet

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OptimismvsRealism · 29/08/2024 12:59

Surely any decent human would refuse unless absolutely desperate for food or something

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DebateWithMoi · 29/08/2024 21:15

HappierTimesAhead · 29/08/2024 21:07

The irony of you questioning someone's moral compass and then using a slur against them that is offensive to people with a learning disability.

Oh give over, nobody uses div in that way you're just being problematic.

Pyreneansylvie · 29/08/2024 21:19

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OptimismvsRealism · 29/08/2024 21:33

FancyBiscuitsLevel · 29/08/2024 20:40

Actually @OptimismvsRealism - would you be more comfortable if the reward was paid directly from the insurance company to you, not to the owner and then to you?

Maybe but wouldn't it increase the pet owner's premium in future?

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SensorySensai · 29/08/2024 21:40

Someone found my lost pet after a long period of time. Losing the pet absolutely broke me and getting it back was one of the best things that's ever happened to me. The person who found him emphatically refused the reward and I feel horrible about it every time I remember. I really wish I had been allowed to thank/reward them. It feels like I haven't done the right thing by them after everything we went through and the heartbreak they saved me from. It's been over 18 months and I still think about them a lot and think about sending them something.

PixieMcGraw · 29/08/2024 21:40

I think people offer rewards when they are desperate and it is like a long shot. If you offer, you should honour otherwise you are a liar. I would take a reward and donate it to the lost dogs charity that flies drones etc to find missing pets. I wouldn't leave it up to the owner as I'm pretty sure it wouldn't happen because it isn't a priority once the dog is found.

LadyGaGasPokerFace · 29/08/2024 21:43

Nah! If someone found my lost dog, they can have the money, if they refuse I’d donate to the local rescue.

Nowdontmakeamess · 29/08/2024 21:46

DebateWithMoi · 29/08/2024 20:50

Yes she is, it's their pet not an opportunity for her to change her circumstances. You never answered my question.

But she didn’t know before she returned the cat she would be offered a reward. She did the morally right thing in catching the cat and returning it to the owner. If the owner wants to give her a reward how on earth is it wrong to accept?

Now if someone stole the cat knowing they would get paid for returning it, that would be immoral. And if they decided to torture and kill it, they would be a cunt. I think peoples scales of morality on here are way off.

Pyreneansylvie · 29/08/2024 21:52

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Jc2001 · 29/08/2024 21:52

broccolienthusiast · 29/08/2024 14:34

Right! My cats are better than most people 🤗

You're hanging around with the wrong people.

Bodeganights · 29/08/2024 22:41

Hapagirl48 · 29/08/2024 18:15

I agree! Even if it was offered, I would refuse a reward. I would just be happy to return the pet. I love animals and don't want to see them distressed so would be happy that they were home.

Even if your out of pocket?

So the buggering dog that I've found 3 times now lives about 30 miles away.
The first time I had him I had to go to the vets, it was later so no local vets. It was about 10 miles away, wait while they looked up his chip, said oh yes here he is the owner asks that you take him home. I'm (first timer, wont do this again) all, ok give me the address. Only another 30 fucking miles away.

But I said I would so I did. I finally got home about 10pm. The little fucker escaped again the next day, but we wont go into that. That's three hours of my time, several blankets to wash, a lead that I forgot to get back, and some other random stuff. Now there was no reward and I'm fine with that, I wasnt looking for one. But if there had been and I was skint, you can be sure I'd have taken it and at least pay for petrol, lead, blankets washed etc and then probably given the rest to charity. Or maybe kept it.

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 30/08/2024 00:18

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What's depressing is your utter lack of reading comprehension.

BabaYetu · 30/08/2024 00:32

Quite the collection of Holier Than Thou posters here, wanting to judge people for receiving a financial reward pet insurance policies offer as standard.

PearlClutzsche · 30/08/2024 09:27

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It's not remotely impossible to understand. Your point is clear. However what you don't get is that your position is pretty common and probably describes most of us. As I said, you're really not as special as you keep trying to convince us you are.

This thread is about the reasonableness (or not) of accepting something that is freely offered. I wouldn't accept/expect anything from anyone locally, and I have found dogs and cats before. However if I offered a reward for the return of my dog - and I would! - I wouldnt regard someone who returns him and accepts it as a "monster"; nor, indeed, a "cunt".

PuzzledParrott · 30/08/2024 09:48

If you don’t want to pay a reward, don’t offer one. Seems pretty simple really?

Pyreneansylvie · 30/08/2024 10:04

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Pyreneansylvie · 30/08/2024 10:11

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Fluufer · 30/08/2024 10:11

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You started it.

Pyreneansylvie · 30/08/2024 10:15

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Waffle78 · 30/08/2024 10:19

ZeroFucksGivenToday · 29/08/2024 14:19

Locally a cat was clipped by a car and missing. The owners were distraught and offered £500 for finding their beloved pet.

a group of 4 early teens (13/14yo) decided to work all weekend on finding the cat for the reward. They were out in all weathers, scrambling through bushes, door knocking. Do you know what, they found the poor thing in the bushes, bedraggled and slightly injured and they raced it to the owners. The kids got their reward and the owners got their cat back. Now I'm sure that people would have kept an eye out, and I've helped neighbours look for missing pets, but that cat was found purely because those teens spent hours looking. They absolutely deserved that reward, and in this case the reward did exactly what it was intended to do. I don't begrudge those teens a penny of it, and from the lovely FB post the owners later put up, there didn't seem to be any resentment of them claiming it, instead praising them for all their efforts and hoping they enjoyed spending the money they had earned.

Aww this made my eyes water.🥰

1offnamechange · 30/08/2024 11:49

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You do sound quite odd, yes, but not for the reasons you've given....

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 30/08/2024 12:51

1offnamechange · 30/08/2024 11:49

You do sound quite odd, yes, but not for the reasons you've given....

Quite. It's not about asking for a reward, that would be tacky and grabby, but if one is offered that's up to the owner and accepting it makes no one at all any kind of monster. To suggest so is not only unreasonable, it's batshit.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/08/2024 13:25

DebateWithMoi · 29/08/2024 20:46

I think the offerer should offer but I think you're vile if you accept it. Would you feel differently if you knew who's pet it was? I.e if it was a disabled person with some vulnerabilities and a small few hundred quid of savings would you still take it?

Personally, I would not accept any reward that was offered - I don’t think I have ever said that I would accept it, @DebateWithMoi.

But I don’t think someone who does accept an offered reward is a monster.

Nice to know I’m vile, though. hmm

BabaYetu · 30/08/2024 15:00

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Then don’t patronise everyone who disagrees with you. The PP was only responding in kind to your posts.

You’ve positioned yourself as morally superior, living in a more honourable world, being “very strange” for not asking for a reward and that your high minded view is “impossible to understand” to we grubby, lesser beings.

It’s straw man bollocks.

Some people would accept a reward, some people wouldn’t. No one asked for a reward. No one said they wouldn’t help unless there was something in it for them.

You’ve constructed an imaginary society of selfish money grabbing bastards that you’re far superior to. That isn’t even slightly similar to what people are saying on here.

But enjoy your glow of self satisfaction, I guess.

AllPrincessAnneshorses · 30/08/2024 16:38

BabaYetu · 30/08/2024 15:00

Then don’t patronise everyone who disagrees with you. The PP was only responding in kind to your posts.

You’ve positioned yourself as morally superior, living in a more honourable world, being “very strange” for not asking for a reward and that your high minded view is “impossible to understand” to we grubby, lesser beings.

It’s straw man bollocks.

Some people would accept a reward, some people wouldn’t. No one asked for a reward. No one said they wouldn’t help unless there was something in it for them.

You’ve constructed an imaginary society of selfish money grabbing bastards that you’re far superior to. That isn’t even slightly similar to what people are saying on here.

But enjoy your glow of self satisfaction, I guess.

Yup.

Owned, as they used to say.👏

Hmm1234 · 30/08/2024 18:28

A drug addict that stole your missing pet would be counting on the reward money