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AIBU to think this lady was nuts? Share your WTF interactions with strangers here

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BarbaraVineFan · 28/08/2024 22:31

In the park with 4 year old DD today and she became fascinated with a ladybird which she found near the path. We were standing by the side of the path as DD let the ladybird crawl over her arms and hands. A lady went past with a little kid of a similar age and was looking over, so I said 'we've got a ladybird!' (Not sure why really but I felt the need to explain.) Upon which this woman sort of sniggered and went 'ah..,Chlamydia!' And then just...went on her way.

Having googled, I see that apparently ladybirds carry all sorts of STIs, which they transmit to other ladybirds and not humans. So I guess that's what she meant. But at the time I was like 'What the actual fuck?' 😂 Who even says that to a stranger?!

Does anyone have any similar stories of batshit interactions with strangers to share?

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CustardySergeant · 29/08/2024 15:26

Bickybics · 29/08/2024 15:23

When DD was little we went on holiday to Dorset. We were in a park and she met another little girl and they were playing together (they were about 2).
we were chatting to the parents for a while about work etc and then they asked where we were from, we lived in Middlesbrough as DH was at the hospital there (it’s my home town it’s a perfectly normal place). I might have well have said we were devil worshipers and we were going to sacrifice their child. They changed very quickly and practically ran away.
Im still offended.

That makes no sense at all. 😕

housethatbuiltme · 29/08/2024 15:27

elliejjtiny · 28/08/2024 23:38

When I met dh's great aunt for the first time, I'd come on the train. She told me "nice girls don't travel on trains dear, get the coach next time". I've no idea why "nice girls" don't travel on trains though!

Because the g-force will suck your uterus right out of you don't you know lol.

SmileyHappyPeopleInTheSun · 29/08/2024 15:33

TiroirSousLeMiroir · 29/08/2024 14:54

My relative by marriage said this to me. Of course she didn't know that I was pregnant, and went on to lose the baby shortly afterwards.
No-one should ever comment on other people's fertility choices and plans.

It was said a lot to us when we had two then three close together in age.

I think the area we were in there was assumption we must be on benefits - where as we were married 30 year old well educated homeowning professionals interacting with our kids and usually all very happy - it was not bad moments people would say this at you.

I said to DH if we aren't suppose to have kids who is allowed.

However we didn't drive and as I was home with them when younger - we were out in local area before and after school at parks/libraries getting shopping on way back and out and about in school holidays - and I think many kids were in childcare or cars and just weren't seen out and about - so we must have looked poor and odd for being around.

Newmumatlast · 29/08/2024 15:37

SpidersAreShitheads · 29/08/2024 03:31

At the risk of unintentionally upsetting that poster even more, so did I 🤷‍♀️😂

I’m autistic/ADHD and sometimes words leave my mouth before my brain realises what’s happening. I can easily imagine seeing someone make a movement, misinterpreting it in a really weird way, and then blurting it out. If someone else did the same, I’d laugh because it’s the kind of ridiculous thing I’d do. And then spend all day cringing inside.

A few months ago I accidentally went to the chip shop wearing slippers. I never, ever leave the house in slippers. Standing in the fish and chip shop I realised and gasped involuntarily. I then proceeded to not only lean towards the woman behind the counter and whisper “I’m wearing slippers”, I then took a step back and shrieked “LOOK!!” and thrust my foot in the air, can-can style.

So I go to a different chip shop now as I can clearly never show my face (or foot) there again… 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂

In fairness, I’ve had many, many weird encounters where the other person has been the weird one, it’s not always me doing/saying stupid stuff (but it is sometimes…..). My DD says that every time we leave the house, something bizarre happens. She always says to me “this could only happen to you!” - I’m going to show her some of the responses on this thread to prove that it happens to others too 😂

Also, the fish/foof conundrum - am I the only one who thought tail first? 🤷‍♀️😂

I thought tail first and have been confused why it has thus far been a 100% consensus of head first. I also have autism and adhd so who knows if that is relevant lol

TimPat · 29/08/2024 15:40

Working in a pub years ago and a drunk man told me I gave the place a bad name because the girls who worked there were supposed to be nice and slim and that's why he drank there but I was fat, I was a size 10 but regardless of that he was a dick.

Woman screaming at me that 'you can't have food open around him!' after her out of control dog snatched an open pack of crisps out of my toddlers hand almost taking a few fingers with them while we were minding our own business on the beach.

And my favorite WTF story ever.
Was about 18, out for drinks with a mate when this older man approached us, maybe in his late 30's. He told us he wasn't from our city was bragging about how he was staying in a fancy hotel and had 10k in his pocket to take us out with if we'd come back to the hotel with him.

When we politely declined he said 'just as well really I live in insert name of rough estate and I don't really have any money just this for my dog', reached into his inside pocket and pulled out some sweaty cooked ham wrapped in clingfilm. 20 years later if I'm going out with that friend we still each other if we've remembered to bring our pocket ham!

Fortesque · 29/08/2024 15:50

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Boudica70 · 29/08/2024 15:52

Rosscameasdoody · 29/08/2024 01:24

Me too - ‘l’m bayleaf, l’m the gardener. l work from early dawn. You'll find me sweeping up the leaves and tidying the lawn’ !!

And me! "I am Constable Knapweed, and I keep law and order. I watch to see that all is well along the garden border"! Loved it!

Biffbaff · 29/08/2024 16:00

SpidersAreShitheads · 29/08/2024 03:31

At the risk of unintentionally upsetting that poster even more, so did I 🤷‍♀️😂

I’m autistic/ADHD and sometimes words leave my mouth before my brain realises what’s happening. I can easily imagine seeing someone make a movement, misinterpreting it in a really weird way, and then blurting it out. If someone else did the same, I’d laugh because it’s the kind of ridiculous thing I’d do. And then spend all day cringing inside.

A few months ago I accidentally went to the chip shop wearing slippers. I never, ever leave the house in slippers. Standing in the fish and chip shop I realised and gasped involuntarily. I then proceeded to not only lean towards the woman behind the counter and whisper “I’m wearing slippers”, I then took a step back and shrieked “LOOK!!” and thrust my foot in the air, can-can style.

So I go to a different chip shop now as I can clearly never show my face (or foot) there again… 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂

In fairness, I’ve had many, many weird encounters where the other person has been the weird one, it’s not always me doing/saying stupid stuff (but it is sometimes…..). My DD says that every time we leave the house, something bizarre happens. She always says to me “this could only happen to you!” - I’m going to show her some of the responses on this thread to prove that it happens to others too 😂

Also, the fish/foof conundrum - am I the only one who thought tail first? 🤷‍♀️😂

No, I was thinking it would be nicer for the fish if they could see out 🤣

hydriotaphia · 29/08/2024 16:01

My poor husband recently told me about an interaction he had a waiter in a cafe with our toddler son. The waiter was like "Is that your son?? No way!? He's really YOUR baby??? But... he is really beautiful??" The implication being that my husband is a right old uggo. For the record, the baby is beautiful but my husband isn't THAT bad!

BiscuityBoyle · 29/08/2024 16:04

housethatbuiltme · 29/08/2024 15:20

Happened to me a lot as a child, I have REALLY pale Irish skin with a slight blue/silver undertone so I look like I have no pigment. I also have grey eyes and I had white blonde hair as a child (which naturally became dark red when I hit puberty for some reason) but people regularly ask what was 'wrong' with me, was I sick, did I have cancer, was I dying etc... when little. Use to happen at least a couple of times per year.

It is weird to ask a child if they are 'dying' though but some people do.

Even more common adults use to often walk up to me and without saying anything put their palm on my forehead to 'take my temperature' too. It happened so commonly that I didn't even realize it was weird until adulthood. Looking back of course going up to someone in silence and ramming your hand in their face is weird but they where adults so I never questioned it.

I am very very pale, but with very dark hair. I have people stop me in the street and ask if I’m ok. On one of my primary school reports my teacher had commented that I’m pale and am I ill!

Prriorayingly · 29/08/2024 16:11

I used to work in theatre, where everyone wore those stupid paper hats. A patient said to my colleague “even a pretty nurse wouldn’t look good in those hats”. Rude!

Georgethecat1 · 29/08/2024 16:12

I was in a coffee shop queue with my DS he was probably 7-8 months old. An older lady was behind us and asked how old my daughter was, not to correct her that he was a he I just answered his age. She then pressed me further and asked want her name was.

I had to come clean and say he’s actually a he and not a girl.

She then got very confused and asked if I was sure he was a boy as he was far too pretty to be a boy. I told her I was quite sure he was a boy but she was very instant that he couldnt be a boy. And he looked like a girl.

I must add he was in more boy associated colours too not sat in a dress 😂

hereismydog · 29/08/2024 16:14

Biffbaff · 29/08/2024 16:00

No, I was thinking it would be nicer for the fish if they could see out 🤣

This has me wheezing 😂😂😂

viques · 29/08/2024 16:16

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 29/08/2024 12:32

I'm loving all the Herbs references on here - I grew up watching The Herbs, Trumpton and Camberwick Green, so I am enjoying a lovely nostalgia-fest.

I can't think of any experiences I've had, that would fit here - but I do have one from a friend. She was walking round the shopping centre with her twin babies, one boy and one girl, in their buggy, when an elderly lady came up to coo over them. "Ooooh - are they twins?" - "Yes" said my friend. "A boy and a girl?", "Yes". "Hmm - are they identical?" My friend - <<baffled>>

A friend used to do fostering and specialised in babies. One weekend she ended up with three ( one long term, one dire emergency placement and one was just for the night) all unrelated but around the same age. She had to get some petrol, went in to pay and when she came out there was a cooing crowd around her car looking at the triplets! She didn’t want to go into a huge explanation so smiled and nodded .

PinkyGold · 29/08/2024 16:19

Bickybics · 29/08/2024 15:23

When DD was little we went on holiday to Dorset. We were in a park and she met another little girl and they were playing together (they were about 2).
we were chatting to the parents for a while about work etc and then they asked where we were from, we lived in Middlesbrough as DH was at the hospital there (it’s my home town it’s a perfectly normal place). I might have well have said we were devil worshipers and we were going to sacrifice their child. They changed very quickly and practically ran away.
Im still offended.

There was a scandal in middlesborough in the late 80s with around 100 children being removed from families because a doctor at Middlesbrough hospital wrongly reported them as having been sexually abused.

She may have heard of it which may have prompted her reaction?

Bickybics · 29/08/2024 16:29

@PinkyGold my mums friend was involved in the aftermath.
They were much younger than DH and. I suspect they were only born in the 80s.
I always assumed it was snobbery.

Redannie118 · 29/08/2024 16:42

@CustardySergeant her jaw dropped about 6 feet and she couldn't hand me my change quick enough. Me and DSD had a bloody good laugh about it though !

ncforcatquestion · 29/08/2024 16:44

I was walking with my sister in the high street when a man came up and asked her to race him. She did and I was just standing there like why is this happening

meatyryvita · 29/08/2024 16:44

I was about to walk across the road to our local park recently when a car pulled in on the far side of the road, indicating that it was doing so. As I was crossing, he decided to reverse. He reversed SO fast that I was terrified that it was deliberate, that he was psychotic and was trying to kill me. It was only due to my unusually (for me!) fast reactions that he didn't kill or seriously injure me.

Naturally, I was furious. When he got out of the car, he tried to blame me for it, despite me having already been walking across the road, him evidently not using his mirrors, AND him carrying out an illegal manoeuvre on a main road. He then berated me for 'being impolite', I was apparently 'abusive' because I was naturally cross, asking him what the hell he was playing at etc. (I didn't swear) that he nearly killed me and tried to blame me for it. Obviously he was a massive ar5ehole but it was truly a WTAF moment.

Sharontheodopolodous · 29/08/2024 16:44

Namechangeforcheese · 29/08/2024 10:25

My 16 yo daughter was doing work experience in a local nursery in very multi cultural area. She was part of a trip to a local park with 2 small children in a double buggy and two others holding on to either side of the buggy. A middle aged man looked at her and the 4 ethnically diverse children and told her she was a fucking slag who needed her tubes tied.

DD drew herself up to her full 153cm and told him in very RP tones that they weren't her children, she worked in a pre-school. To which he responded 'oh, no offence meant love'!

What he would have said if he had intended offence I dread to think.

My dd was about 16 at the time and had taken her 3 younger siblings to the shops to buy me a birthday present and card

They where standing there,trying to choose when an older lady marched up to them,poked dd in the face and started snarling at her 'it's you fucking young sluts who pop out babies and expect the taxpayer to pay for you!it's disgusting and you should have kept your fucking legs shut!'

Dd looked down at this woman and shouted 'THEY ARE MY SIBLINGS!EVEN IF THEY WHERE MINE,ITS STILL FUCK ALL TO DO WITH YOU!'

The woman shuffled off,but made a point of following her round the shop until they left

Noyanever · 29/08/2024 16:47

NC for this because I've told people irl this.
At a holiday park when my child was 4ish, and I was early 20s.
Go chatting with parents of children my child was playing with. I have no idea how they twisted the conversation to sex ed, but told me they had 'educated ' their 4 kids (early teens- 5ish) by SHOWING THEM! Actually having sex on the sofa.
I made my excuses and didn't allow my child anywhere near them again.
This was a very long time ago, and I was alone before anymore piles on & asks why I didn't call anyone 😔

Blueberryjamming · 29/08/2024 16:52

@Noyanever

I feel that’s on another level, it’s not what I’d even call “batshit” , it’s more horrifically abusive, reprehensible and utterly vile - and obviously criminal. Those poor children 😢

WheresMySupportCat · 29/08/2024 16:53

Sharontheodopolodous · 29/08/2024 16:44

My dd was about 16 at the time and had taken her 3 younger siblings to the shops to buy me a birthday present and card

They where standing there,trying to choose when an older lady marched up to them,poked dd in the face and started snarling at her 'it's you fucking young sluts who pop out babies and expect the taxpayer to pay for you!it's disgusting and you should have kept your fucking legs shut!'

Dd looked down at this woman and shouted 'THEY ARE MY SIBLINGS!EVEN IF THEY WHERE MINE,ITS STILL FUCK ALL TO DO WITH YOU!'

The woman shuffled off,but made a point of following her round the shop until they left

Good on your DD. I wish I had the presence of mind even at my aged age (51) to respond like that when faced with utter arseholes.

YellowphantGrey · 29/08/2024 16:59

ForeverDelayedEpiphany · 29/08/2024 11:55

Not really sure this is a similar thing (or relevant to your comment or this thread completely 🤔) but this reminds me of a van that I saw yesterday in a car park, with the company name on the side - "M&S Female Decorators", which I thought was rather 🤔 I mean, do people really need to know the gender of their tradesmen (women/people?!) before they use their services? Is there something about female decorators that some might find (whispers) less able and competent? 😳😑

I suspect it's for other females who don't feel comfortable having a male tradesperson in the house.

OhMaria2 · 29/08/2024 16:59

budnode · 29/08/2024 07:16

Having read this and your reactions to other comments - which I agree are all good examples of odd things random strangers have said, its pretty obvious you take things far too literally and have a tendency to overreact.

How about lightening up and seeing the strangers as probably a bit odd and just pitying them for speaking before thinking. Or perhaps they might have been trying to be humorous. The sauna comment almost certainly referred to that smell saunas often have. He probably realised afterwards how it might've been construed and felt mortified about it. And I can imagine my dad making the comment to the PP who to him looked weighed down by her two children (I know just carrying one and pushing another isn't a big deal, I did it too but to some, in the moment it's what occurs to them) Anyway I wouldn't deduce from any of these interactions that it proves men are c#nts.

I found I used to run into strange characters a lot more when I lived in London. They're colourful characters on the whole and if instead you smile a ask what made them say that, you might end up having a chat and feel better in the long run about humanity rather than writing everybody off as weirdos.

Just smile. They never ever take this as encouragement to continue...