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AIBU to think this lady was nuts? Share your WTF interactions with strangers here

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BarbaraVineFan · 28/08/2024 22:31

In the park with 4 year old DD today and she became fascinated with a ladybird which she found near the path. We were standing by the side of the path as DD let the ladybird crawl over her arms and hands. A lady went past with a little kid of a similar age and was looking over, so I said 'we've got a ladybird!' (Not sure why really but I felt the need to explain.) Upon which this woman sort of sniggered and went 'ah..,Chlamydia!' And then just...went on her way.

Having googled, I see that apparently ladybirds carry all sorts of STIs, which they transmit to other ladybirds and not humans. So I guess that's what she meant. But at the time I was like 'What the actual fuck?' 😂 Who even says that to a stranger?!

Does anyone have any similar stories of batshit interactions with strangers to share?

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BiscuityBoyle · 29/08/2024 14:01

Nocameltoeleggingsplease · 29/08/2024 10:54

Our house is currently for sale.
We had one woman come round 3 times (she didn’t make an offer but that’s another story). First time she came on her own, second time with hubby, last time with daughter.
We have a walk in cupboard in the bedroom. Just big enough to keep stuff in, not a dressing room or big enough to make into an en-suite or anything.
First viewing, she opened the door and said ‘oh it’s a glory hole! I love a glory hole!’. I thought I might have misheard but DH confirmed.
Second viewing, she showed her husband the ‘glory hole’ and they both agreed they loved a glory hole!
Third viewing, glory hole discussion with daughter and they also described the loft as a glory hole!
😂😂

Nothing wrong with glory hole. It’s just another name for a storage space. (As well as a place some men like to put their willies).

housethatbuiltme · 29/08/2024 14:04

lilacmamacat · 29/08/2024 13:53

They don't need to be fed, they're perfectly capable of finding their own food. And wouldn't you rather let them do that, than feed them stuff that will make their health suffer (nalnutrition, stunted growth, underveloped wings)? If you have to feed them, use sweetcorn or porridge oats instead.

The advice to not feed bread is pretty outdated and has caused a lot of bird deaths.

Unfortunately the ducks in parks are basically semi domesticated and over populated they do not find enough food themselves.

They also rarely eat the other food thrown which sinks and goes off, our local bird park is a mess with uneaten foods thrown for the ducks and swans who only ever go for the bread to the point non bread items are causing a far bigger issue.

You can lead a duck to sweetcorn but you cannot make it eat it.

3luckystars · 29/08/2024 14:12

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Waspie · 29/08/2024 14:13

This one was many years ago but still makes me think - WTF? My friend and I were leaving the supermarket. The entrance/exit was one of those enormous revolving doors which just moves at a slow, constant pace. We exited and started to walk to my car with the shopping.

A man run up behind me, pushed me in the back and accused me of trying to kill his mother in the revolving door! I was pissed off having stumbled and nearly fallen when he pushed me and answered that I was not the God of revolving doors and he should back the fuck off. He stormed off saying he was going to call the police and speak to "management". Good luck with that. Bonkers.

Veryoldandtired · 29/08/2024 14:14

Many moons ago my then boyfriend and I needed some directions when we were driving in a new city. It was way back before everyone used Google maps. We saw an elderly gentleman and thought we’d ask him how to get there. So instead of telling us, he just got in the back of our car and proceeded to tell my boyfriend where to go. For 10 minutes or so we weren’t entirely sure whether he would try to strangle us or take us where we were going. Once we got to our destination he just jumped out at the traffic lights without saying goodbye

Duparsisoverrated · 29/08/2024 14:17

HeySummerWhereAreYou · 28/08/2024 22:40

I'm not kidding you, this 100% happened to me the other week. I'd got my rain coat on because there was a bit of a shower and I needed to post a letter in the postbox 7-8 minutes walk away...

My raincoat comes down just past my bum at the back, and I was lifting it up slightly to get my phone out of my jeans pocket. This man - around 10 years older than me, (early-mid 60s,) was walking towards me on the opposite side of the road. He said 'I thought you were going to squat down for a piss then. Haha...' 😆

Who in the name of holy hell thinks it's okay to say this to a random woman that they've never met before? 'I thought you were going to squat down for a piss?!!!' (Just because I was lifting my jacket up slightly at the back, so that I could get my phone out of my jeans pocket!)

'What an absolute weird perve,' I thought. Never seen him before or since, even though this was in my village about 5 minutes walk from my house. As I said, who thinks it's OK to say something like this to a random woman he doesn't know?

I didn't say anything back by the way, I just looked at him for about 3 seconds like >>>> Hmm and carried on walking.

Fucking weirdo.

!

Edited

I think you overreacted. I’d have laughed at that and said something like, “no not today”.

CustardySergeant · 29/08/2024 14:20

GratitudeGrump · 29/08/2024 13:38

I was walking along with small DD running ahead near my house. DD tripped and fell and a woman walking past said 'I could see that was going to happen' and walked on. To be fair to her I think it was a case of speak first think later but I was frazzled and ended up saying 'Thanks for the help' as she walked away. Her shoulders went up as though I'd hurt her, which made me feel bad. I hope it taught her to just say nothing in similar situations.

What did you expect her to do to help? She could hardly have grabbed your child's hand to stop her from falling or did you think she should have helped your child to get up?

WoolySnail · 29/08/2024 14:21

WheresMySupportCat · 29/08/2024 12:57

Thanks. TBH my mother had a severely abusive upbringing that involved familial sexual abuse so her abilities to respond to things was and is flawed.

I am 51 now and she is 75 and she still prioritises her 'family' (abusers) over anything else. I think of as an abused puppy trying to curry favour from her abusers. I don't understand it, and it is why I have refused to see my various aunts and uncles now for more than a decade.

That's awful 😢 I hope you are in a better place now, even though she isn't. I think you're spot on with the abused puppy anology and completely right not to engage with your aunts and uncles in any way x

GratitudeGrump · 29/08/2024 14:22

CustardySergeant · 29/08/2024 14:20

What did you expect her to do to help? She could hardly have grabbed your child's hand to stop her from falling or did you think she should have helped your child to get up?

I was saying that her comment ('I could see that was going to happen') wasn't helpful. I didn't expect her to do anything.

MostRidiculousDilemmaOfModernParenting · 29/08/2024 14:25

housethatbuiltme · 29/08/2024 11:54

I got the 'go back to your own country' the other day, my name is not common so they thought 'name I haven't heard before = must be foreign foreign'. I pointed out that we are from the same city and his name (David) was Hebrew so not remotely 'English' either.

I don't want to pick on you but there have been several posts like this, ie where someone who was obviously from the UK was told to go home.

Can I just point out that even (or maybe especially) when you are obviously not from this country it still is pretty rude and upsetting to be told to go home.

I've been told to go home and the fact that I'm an immigrant, speak with an accent and I'm not white does not make it any more pleasant to hear.

Namerchangee · 29/08/2024 14:32

Standing in a cafe queue with my then 8 month old DS. A woman behind me tapped me on the shoulder and asked if she could hold my son. I wasn’t in any way struggling to hold him, we were cuddling away and waiting in line. Not knowing this lady at all, I said no, sorry.

She then left the queue, went back to her table and loudly declared to her friends sitting there, whilst pointing at me, ‘that woman wouldn’t let me hold her baby!’

Who gives their child to a random woman to be held?!

housethatbuiltme · 29/08/2024 14:40

MostRidiculousDilemmaOfModernParenting · 29/08/2024 14:25

I don't want to pick on you but there have been several posts like this, ie where someone who was obviously from the UK was told to go home.

Can I just point out that even (or maybe especially) when you are obviously not from this country it still is pretty rude and upsetting to be told to go home.

I've been told to go home and the fact that I'm an immigrant, speak with an accent and I'm not white does not make it any more pleasant to hear.

I don't think ANYONE is saying it acceptable to say to anyone.

We are pointing out that racists are morons who don't even know their arse from their elbow most of the time.

The sheer irony of assuming I'm 'foreign' due to my name when his name is originally middle eastern is just funny and shows that no one should give this mans 'opinions' the time of day.

I would personally far rather deport racists than migrants or asylum seekers but unfortunately we are stuck because no other country wants our village idiots either.

Runsyd · 29/08/2024 14:42

'Ah...chlamydia.'
'I'm very sorry to hear that. I hope antibiotics clear that up for you.'

Illegally18 · 29/08/2024 14:46

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Redannie118 · 29/08/2024 14:47

Was in the supermarket a couple of years ago. Started to put my shopping through the checkout and remembered I had forgotten to pick up bread, so asked DSD who was with me to nip and get it. I had a full trolley so knew she would have time. Cashier shook her head and gave me a very disapproving look and said " Well you're braver than me letting her go off on her own like that, I wouldn't if she was mine. Still, I suppose she's just old enough "

At this point DSD had returned with the bread. I asked her to tell the nice lady how old she was as she was concerned for her well being. DSD burst out laughing and stated " I'm 22 !! Do you want to see my ID?" 😂

CutthroatDruTheViolent · 29/08/2024 14:50

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Plus - the poster said she didn't say anything and just looked at him.

So many people champing at the bit to get their thoughts across they apparently didn't even read the whole post.

CustardySergeant · 29/08/2024 14:51

Redannie118 · 29/08/2024 14:47

Was in the supermarket a couple of years ago. Started to put my shopping through the checkout and remembered I had forgotten to pick up bread, so asked DSD who was with me to nip and get it. I had a full trolley so knew she would have time. Cashier shook her head and gave me a very disapproving look and said " Well you're braver than me letting her go off on her own like that, I wouldn't if she was mine. Still, I suppose she's just old enough "

At this point DSD had returned with the bread. I asked her to tell the nice lady how old she was as she was concerned for her well being. DSD burst out laughing and stated " I'm 22 !! Do you want to see my ID?" 😂

How did the cashier react?

TiroirSousLeMiroir · 29/08/2024 14:54

VivienneDelacroix · 28/08/2024 23:04

When my eldest were aged about 1 and 2, I was going into the local post office. One in a pushchair, one in a sling on my back, both asleep, neither bothering anyone. I held the door open for a man who was coming out as I was going in and he looked me straight in the eye and said "Don't have any more children". Such an odd thing to say to a stranger - it wasn't like I had hoards of kids running rings around me and causing mayhem.

My relative by marriage said this to me. Of course she didn't know that I was pregnant, and went on to lose the baby shortly afterwards.
No-one should ever comment on other people's fertility choices and plans.

AsTreesWalking · 29/08/2024 15:03

Whatafabulousoaktree · 28/08/2024 23:48

'I'm a rather fat feathery owl called...Sage'
Yes, I too am THAT old 😂

'I'm a dog called Dill; I'm Dill the dog.'
You're not alone, Whatafabulous...

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 29/08/2024 15:06

Springadorable · 28/08/2024 22:36

Was out with my dog and picking up her poo...a lady stopped to tell me not to bother as it would breakdown naturally.

I was on a busy narrow paved footpath...

There was a big dollop of shit outside my Daughter and SILs house that I removed yesterday. It was probably from her dog. The dirty bitch, and I’m not talking about the dog.

GeorgesMarvelousCalpol · 29/08/2024 15:09

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A Stranger in the train??? 😕
The posts on this get more and more ridiculous.
I really don't understand why people are not allowed to have a different opinion for this one particular post.

As for calling a poster "stupid " - pretty sure that's against guidelines.

DPotter · 29/08/2024 15:09

I’m singing songs from The Herbs now 😬

I've graduated to Roobarb & Custard - da da da daa, da da da daa

AsTreesWalking · 29/08/2024 15:16

MammaMiaPizzeria · 29/08/2024 00:47

A complete stranger in a shop to me and my then 6ish month old - "oh wow, he must look so much like his father". As though my baby and I are completely different species or something 😂

It's been 8 years and I'm still not even remotely over it.

(Yes, he does look an awful lot like his father - but that's not the point! The guy had never even seen my husband)

My mother used to tell the story of our ndn saying (of me) "it's a good thing she looks like her father"!
Rude any way you take it...

housethatbuiltme · 29/08/2024 15:20

Fedupdoc · 29/08/2024 00:26

Oh another one

I was once stood in a coffee shop queue with my very blonde, fair skinned daughter. A woman was staring at us and making us feel uncomfortable. She then asked me if there was something wrong with my daughter. Does she have cancer? As she’s very pale…. We sat on the opposite side of the coffee shop to her

Happened to me a lot as a child, I have REALLY pale Irish skin with a slight blue/silver undertone so I look like I have no pigment. I also have grey eyes and I had white blonde hair as a child (which naturally became dark red when I hit puberty for some reason) but people regularly ask what was 'wrong' with me, was I sick, did I have cancer, was I dying etc... when little. Use to happen at least a couple of times per year.

It is weird to ask a child if they are 'dying' though but some people do.

Even more common adults use to often walk up to me and without saying anything put their palm on my forehead to 'take my temperature' too. It happened so commonly that I didn't even realize it was weird until adulthood. Looking back of course going up to someone in silence and ramming your hand in their face is weird but they where adults so I never questioned it.

Bickybics · 29/08/2024 15:23

When DD was little we went on holiday to Dorset. We were in a park and she met another little girl and they were playing together (they were about 2).
we were chatting to the parents for a while about work etc and then they asked where we were from, we lived in Middlesbrough as DH was at the hospital there (it’s my home town it’s a perfectly normal place). I might have well have said we were devil worshipers and we were going to sacrifice their child. They changed very quickly and practically ran away.
Im still offended.

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