Am I unreasonable to be annoyed with partner?!

[annoyedatpartner]

DP, teen DD and I have life 360 app on our phones. For various reasons but it's practical and useful for us as a family to know where each other is. Everyone js happy with it, everyone is an adult and has consented to location being tracked - before anyone asks about that.

Anyway - to the point, DP left for night shift half an hour ago and I have just received a notification on the app that he had a "dangerous drive" - never seen that pop up before, so clicked on it. It tells me his top speed going to work was 104mph!? I'm annoyed about this as I think this is unnecessarily reckless. He was clearly late and rushing but still, surely there's no need to do that sort of speed! Am I overreacting?

It isn’t accurate. I’m a driving instructor and it’s clocking all my journeys including with learners, and coming up with very strange criteria as to what constitutes a safe drive. It’s recording me driving perfectly well sometimes and not recording a safe drive. This is after me passing driving qualifications, I know what’s safe and what isn’t.

I’d like to find out how it’s concluding these journeys but not being mugged by this driving info into paying a tenner a month.

me an my family track each other to and it’s so useful to be able to see what we are all doing all the time and where we are so we can make drinks for each other and then get annoyed when they get cold before they get home and also I like to see what speed they are all doing and when they are on the toilet for too long so I can get annoyed at them and they do it for me because we all like to control each others every move all the time because THE WORLD IS NOT SAFE it scares me alllllllll the time what could happen if we didn’t have trackers on did you know that you can track your child and see immediately if they are being attacked and use this feature on the app that instantly kills the attacker it’s so safe OMG

I don't see 104mph as fast tbh.

Sorry this made me chuckle 🤭.

The legal limit is 70mph. As said, here in the UK, 104mph would get you a driving ban and a fine.

Haha I love this 😂

It's so practical for us as both DP and I are non contactable at work, for the most part. I could be in one of 3 or 4 offices, and DP doesn't have an office base so he is less contactable than I am. Neither of us can have our phones physically on our person at work; they get left in our cars. So DD can go onto the app and see straight away who is at work (by the location of the phone in our work car parks), and who is available for a lift etc. Thus negating the need for her to call 3 or 4 different office numbers to find me or DP and ask "where are you, can you pick me up?" etc

But yes.... it's purely about "control" 🙄🤦🏼‍♀️🤣

Oh wow. I suspect you're in a small minority there 😬

I have a real thing about speeding and how absolutely bizarre it is that not only do people not care that they are endangering people’s lives but actually brag about it. In fact, it’s always the ones who point out that it’s illegal that get the stick.

If my husband did that I’d be fuming and depending on his explanation and promise of not doing it again I’d be rethinking our relationship. I wouldn’t want to be with the type of person who would do that and think it was ok. (I’m not saying you should OP, I’m purely saying that’s how strongly I personally feel about it).

I'd ask him about it, that app told me my daughter was apparently going 150mph on her push bike a few weeks ago.

Yes I guess so, but I'd imagine the demographic on here isn't confident & competent high speed very experienced drivers.

I'd be annoyed. Does he not care if you lose him? Speeding is just selfish on many levels.

😂 Big bollocks you have there. 🙄

I do feel people are getting hung up on details that aren't relevant.

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