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To be shocked this isn't getting more coverage?

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Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 08:51

Women in Afghanistan are now forbidden from speaking when not inside their homes. A simple "hello" to someone in a shop is now against the law. https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/article/2024/aug/26/taliban-bar-on-afghan-women-speaking-in-public-un-afghanistan

AIBU to think this is some of the most horrific news I've heard in months? I can't wrap my head around it and I can't help thinking - activists/newspapers/politicians are loud when campaigning about the gender pay gap or the state of child care or a woman's rights to her own body but somehow on this topic no one wants to criticise too often or too loudly.

Is it because religion is mixed in? Or guilt over the war? Or do politicians in particular only care about women's rights when it's a vote-winner in their constituency? Or is it just that it's so terrible and we all feel so powerless to prevent it that we just prefer to ignore the situation?

I'm feeling v v shaken.

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Gedoverit · 28/08/2024 11:14

Ivehearditbothways · 28/08/2024 10:31

What are you taking about? Afghan women were allowed to go to university, they walked around wearing mini skirts. In the 60s and 70s, they were gaining ground with women’s rights.
There was still tribal society and all the issues with difference in culture and marriage and everything but it was nothing like it it now.

The taliban didn’t exist before 1994. And they only exist because of the west, because of our invading in and war. The level of extremism from them happened because of the west. We left Afghanistan in a worse state than we found it.

Bollocks

Busybeemumm · 28/08/2024 11:17

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 10:47

I'm honestly curious - do you think (so-called) Christian beliefs pose the same level and scope of danger to women worldwide as (so-called) Islamic beliefs?

I'm saying "so-called" because imo extremists are co-opting religion and twisting it into something it's not.

Edited to add: this is part of what I find so frustrating. If I say I find the treatment of women in Afghanistan (and Saudi Arabia etc) horrific then someone somehow claims it's racist to criticise only Muslim countries and the Christian ones also have problems. Yeah sure, but afaik Afghanistan is the only country where women are forbidden from speaking in public. Sticking up for women's rights is not racist

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It is racist to stoke violence and make suggestions that Muslims will overtake the UK by 2050 as @Blondiebeachbabe did. It's doesn't have to be one or the other does it? Afghan clearly has major issues in how it treats it's women and girls- as do other countries! This fact doesn't detract from Afghanistan in anyway.

kublacant · 28/08/2024 11:19

Does anyone know if a protest is planned outside the Afghan Embassy in London?

my idea is that women all over the world stand outside the Afghan embassies and sing - raise their voices in a way that the Afghan women can’t .

MorrisZapp · 28/08/2024 11:19

Times Radio currently covering it.

TooBigForMyBoots · 28/08/2024 11:19

RAWA was the leading women's rights group in Afganistan prion to the US/UK invasion. As well as international campaigns, they ran underground schools for girls. I'm not sure if they're still going, but if they are, they're worth donating to.

angeldelite · 28/08/2024 11:19

Octavia64 · 28/08/2024 09:03

There isn't a public outcry because there is very little we can do.

The U.K. has invaded Afghanistan I think three or four times in the last 200 years.

The soviets, the Americans and us have all tried to drag them out of their backward tribal culture which oppresses women.

Ultimately the men in Afghanistan are prepared to fight for their country and their right to do what they want in it which includes treating women terribly.

All of the invasions were fought and ultimately the Afghans won.

So no, unless you want to suggest that a country invades Afghanistan and puts it's soldiers lives on the line (and lots of them will die) to protect the women of Afghanistan then there is nothing to be done.

Oh please, neither the Brits, Soviets or Americans gave a shit about Afghanistan or Afghans.

It’s heart breaking what’s happening there but let’s not try and rewrite history to portray the West as liberators.

LightDrizzle · 28/08/2024 11:23

PaminaMozart · 28/08/2024 09:10

Please consider helping Afghan women and girls by donating:

https://lindanorgrovefoundation.org/

Thank you for this. I’ve set up a Direct Debit after reading through their site. They are doing such important and practical work. What a brilliant organisation.

angeldelite · 28/08/2024 11:23

Blondiebeachbabe · 28/08/2024 09:53

Until 1972, women in this region dressed exactly like we do today. Can you imagine the horror, of being there at the time that these new laws came in?

It is predicted, that the UK could be majority Muslim, by 2050.

Let that sink in.

Except silencing women has no basis in Islam.

BustyCrustacean · 28/08/2024 11:24

I have an Iranian friend who left Iran over 20 years ago due to the regime

She's blindsinded by the apathy in this country towards Islamist regimes worldwide- (at least among the media/chattering classes)- I'm ashamed, frankly

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 11:25

Busybeemumm · 28/08/2024 11:17

It is racist to stoke violence and make suggestions that Muslims will overtake the UK by 2050 as @Blondiebeachbabe did. It's doesn't have to be one or the other does it? Afghan clearly has major issues in how it treats it's women and girls- as do other countries! This fact doesn't detract from Afghanistan in anyway.

Ok, but is it racist to be concerned that the Taliban ideology (that they claim is the one true interpretation of Islam) and others like it might spread?

Even in small ways. I'm a teacher and often see things e.g. some Muslim parents refusing to send their girls on school trips but happy to send their boys. Is it racism if I say that that is anti women and I don't want those views to spread?

Of course, it is perfectly possible to be Muslim and support women's rights. Just like it is possible to be Christian and support women's choice re abortion. Unfortunately, the ideology where religion and women's rights are mutually exclusive seems to be spreading.

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Thurien · 28/08/2024 11:28

wonderstuff · 28/08/2024 10:51

They moved millions of pounds worth of weapons into the country and then walked away effectively arming the Taliban to the teeth. They had effective control of the cities, casualties were low, they could have stayed until a democratic government could be fully established.

They left because a democratic government could not be established.

Regardless of whether the Taliban have a single AK47 or enough equipment to arm ten battle groups, the way women are treated in Afghanistan is squarely down to religious practices.

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 11:28

MorrisZapp · 28/08/2024 11:19

Times Radio currently covering it.

I'm so glad it's at least getting some coverage. It really seemed as if it was just being ignored by all the major news outlets. I hope they continue reporting on it

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whyNotaNice · 28/08/2024 11:29

eff rubish. Jesus was the first Man to give voice to women and historically christians are the only ones who did anything for the less privileged.

poppymango · 28/08/2024 11:30

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 09:26

But for example when the US rowed back on abortion rights, there were loads of articles about it in other countries, loads of discussions here in Europe, and UK politicians made their positions clear.

We didn't just shrug and say we can't do anything about the US and change has to come from within. I mean, I agree that it has to be American voters pushing for change but that doesn't stop the rest of the world from having an opinion.

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Agree. It feels like everyone has just given up, It's so upsetting.

Can't talk in public, can't read in public, can't so much as glance at a man in public unless he's a relative. And we know full well that those in charge would run the world like this if they had a chance. It's horrific.

EI12 · 28/08/2024 11:30

Fluffyelephant · 28/08/2024 10:48

The Soviets certainly didn't 'try and drag Afghanistan out of 'their backward tribal culture'. That's ridiculous. Afghanistan was quite a progressive country until the Soviet invasion and then the Taliban managed to take over. If you google 'Afghanistan 1970s' you'll see photos of women in mini-skirts going to University.

It was shameful how the UK left Afghanistan, especially after encouraging so many to take on jobs and responsibilities which could put their lives at risk if the Taliban returned to power.

Brilliant piece by David Greig - Miniskirts of Kabul,

David Greig (dramatist) - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Greig_(dramatist)

Puzzledandpissedoff · 28/08/2024 11:30

Octavia64 · 28/08/2024 09:03

There isn't a public outcry because there is very little we can do.

The U.K. has invaded Afghanistan I think three or four times in the last 200 years.

The soviets, the Americans and us have all tried to drag them out of their backward tribal culture which oppresses women.

Ultimately the men in Afghanistan are prepared to fight for their country and their right to do what they want in it which includes treating women terribly.

All of the invasions were fought and ultimately the Afghans won.

So no, unless you want to suggest that a country invades Afghanistan and puts it's soldiers lives on the line (and lots of them will die) to protect the women of Afghanistan then there is nothing to be done.

Exactly this

Of course it's heartbreaking, but it's what too many Afghan males wanted and continue to want, which is largely why the Taliban swept back in so quickly

Nobody pretends the way our forces left was ideal, but the result would probably have been the same no matter what we'd done, and unless we're prepared to return to the colonialist approach of running others' countries we just have to accept that they won't always govern themselves in a way the west cconsiders appropriate

whyNotaNice · 28/08/2024 11:30

I come from a small EU country where men tend to be a bit chauvnistic sometimes. My father did all his best possible to educate me and give me a chance to earn my own money, to want a career and be an equal earner, all this being Christian.

now, come and tell me this about your muslim men.

DogInATent · 28/08/2024 11:31

Is it unreasonable to be shocked that there's not much coverage of this? - of course not, but sadly most people in the UK don't care about anything that doesn't directly concern them. They've swallowed the anti-foreigner rhetoric that a very large part of UK politics has descended into. If it's happening half-way around the world in someplace ending in -stan, they just don't GAS.

We have an appalling standard of international news coverage in the UK now. If it's not happening in or to a country that has English as a first language, it's not considered newsworthy by the public or the media. You only get any real international news coverage on the Channel 4 evening news now - and even that tends to be over-focussed and thematic.

babyproblems · 28/08/2024 11:31

I saw this and thought the same thing. Apparently a female voice is a vice!!! Unbelievable. Dire news in 2024.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 28/08/2024 11:33

Of course people are appalled, but exactly what do you think we can do about it?

I don’t think the Taliban are going to take much notice of mass demonstrations in Trafalgar Square.

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 11:34

DogInATent · 28/08/2024 11:31

Is it unreasonable to be shocked that there's not much coverage of this? - of course not, but sadly most people in the UK don't care about anything that doesn't directly concern them. They've swallowed the anti-foreigner rhetoric that a very large part of UK politics has descended into. If it's happening half-way around the world in someplace ending in -stan, they just don't GAS.

We have an appalling standard of international news coverage in the UK now. If it's not happening in or to a country that has English as a first language, it's not considered newsworthy by the public or the media. You only get any real international news coverage on the Channel 4 evening news now - and even that tends to be over-focussed and thematic.

I do take your point, but isn't there a lot of coverage of Israel/Palestine etc? Or today an article in the guardian about how China doesn't allow same-sex marriage.

So there is coverage of non-UK news but only if it's somehow "trendy"?

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Vintago · 28/08/2024 11:34

Bump. Everyone on MN needs to read this.

GinnyPiggie · 28/08/2024 11:34

The majority of our local refugees are Afghan women. This is a big part of the refugee crisis.

Busybeemumm · 28/08/2024 11:34

Sugarcoldturkey · 28/08/2024 11:25

Ok, but is it racist to be concerned that the Taliban ideology (that they claim is the one true interpretation of Islam) and others like it might spread?

Even in small ways. I'm a teacher and often see things e.g. some Muslim parents refusing to send their girls on school trips but happy to send their boys. Is it racism if I say that that is anti women and I don't want those views to spread?

Of course, it is perfectly possible to be Muslim and support women's rights. Just like it is possible to be Christian and support women's choice re abortion. Unfortunately, the ideology where religion and women's rights are mutually exclusive seems to be spreading.

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Of course we don't want those awful views to be spread but we also don't want to be alarmist and suggest that this is a 'Muslim problem' inciting islamophobia which the UK already has as seen recently in the UK.

It's sad to hear that girls are not allowed to go on school trips unlike the boys. What as a school are you doing about that?

ChallahPlaiter · 28/08/2024 11:36

Busybeemumm · 28/08/2024 11:12

@Zebedee999
Do you know anything about how women in traditional Jewish households are treated? All behind their religion eg no touching anyone during periods, sleeping on the floor, having to wear wigs etc.
@Blondiebeachbabe it is racist to imply the Muslim invasion is coming to the UK by 2050, by implication that their laws will come with them hence stoking the kind of ignorant racists mobs we have been on the streets of the UK in recent times.
@AInightingale I didn't state anything about Islam and race as I was stating that Blondies comments are racist and alarmist in reference to her thinking that UK will be overtaken by Muslims by 2050 not proven by any facts.

Everything that you’ve said about Jewish women is either inaccurate or plain wrong, FYI.