Aibu to not want to move up north

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My dh has been offered a great job opportunity a high payrise
the catch is we have to relocate up north near Leeds
so my main concerns is the weather
I hate winter, rain and snow and up there seems to get more?
also I joined a few online community groups recently to get a feel for it and learn about the areas and what’s around
all I have mainly seen is awful things about robbery’s and car theft and violent crimes! It’s really putting me off!
we have a son who is not too far off an age to go clubbing and for nights out and even though he is 6 foot 5 he’s very striking looking mixed race (Greek) and I worry about him being a target and our eldest daughter too also very striking ,but both quite naive as we currently live in a small village and don’t often go into big cities and they are at small schools.
my dh is from a different town up north not too far from Leeds still has friends there and says it’s fine and all city’s are the same and the kids will be fine as not in any gangs and unlikely to be. I am a worrier so Aibu to not want to move?

We live in N Wales, I check our weather and sons most days. He gets much less rain in West Yorkshire. He hasn't had any significant snow in the six years hes lived there and the temperatures have been around the same.

The west coast of Britain is wetter 🥺

Nope. Don't come up north. It's dreadful. Best stay Dawwwnn Sawff... (See user name)

That's not helpful.

Well tbh there are literally hundreds of threads like this trotting out the same advice. All OP has to do is search. Budget 1/2 a million £, relocating up north. Hebden bloody bridge, Harrogate, Roundhay. All of them becoming identikit places with no diversity. You can’t visit HB without falling over artisan bakeries and expensive lifestyle shops. The things that made it unique are rapidly being replaced.

I sometimes read threads like this and wonder what planet the OP lives on.

For posters who say 'i'm used to acceptance of everyone where I live', they ain't half prejudice to the north of their own country.

Yes if you go to Leeds it will rain 365 days of the year, you will be miserable and will be raped and murdered multiple times within the first week.

Alternatively you could get off your backside, get on a train or in the car and actually go and visit the north once in a while.

It might blow your mind. We even have the odd Gails Bakery up north in addition to our staple food source of Greggs.

I can't see why it's not an appropriate response to a poster too lazy to visit the north and is so entrenched in their own southern bigotry.

Why do we want anyone who has those kinds of views coming into our communities with their hatred?

Good grief no, stay in the south where it’s nice, up here it’s cold weather, total strangers insisting on smiling at you in the street and saying hello, loads of awful open countryside, I could go on and on

Absolutely amazing parks with coffee vans and everything,fantastic little galleries and shops, loads of varied countryside, every cuisine you can think of, community projects thriving inspite of tough times.

Don't come.

I would stay where you are. Your children sound far too good looking for the North.

😂

I have to say that if I couldn't live in London, I'd live in Leeds. The weather there seems less shit than, say, Manchester and I quite like the city vibe. I worked there a lot for a few years

To be honest a lot of posters are being lazy and assuming OP is from London or the South East when she is actually from rural SW England.
So assumptions are going both ways and OP has since agreed she was initially being negative.

Do you think there really is a difference between the 2? ( genuine question)

@eggplant16 I agree it kind of makes no sense. But I had regular work trips to just outside Manchester too for a couple of years and it always seemed wet and raining or cloudy. Leeds always seemed brighter and clearer skies when I went there regularly. I rather fancied the Peak district or something made the wearher different. But it's all day trips or overnighters so this is by no means empirically sound

Yes. There are geographical reasons for this. Manchester is in a bowl weather-wise and gets a real pasting. Huddersfield has similar problems. It's all very scientific.

Its horrible I can tell you that.

Look at it just now.

Some areas are deprived virtually anywhere, that does not a "deprived city" make.

And given that I have two degrees from Leeds University, have never left the general area in forty years since, and used to work for the City Council in a fairly senior capacity, I rather think you are teaching your grandmother to suck eggs.

Absolutely 😂
and I am going to visit
and hope to be very pleasantly impressed

This is probably why our family near Manchester are always saying how bad it is

Leeds is a great city.

You’re being unreasonable! Especially as to the weather. It’s maybe a couple of degrees cooler than the south, generally.
Leeds is central for everywhere ,and some of the countryside around Leeds is beautiful. My daughter teaches in Leeds, but lives near Selby, N. Yorks) I live on the Yorkshire Coast.( I’m from Hertfordshire originally… moved 20 years ago).
come and find out . Yorkshire, as a whole ,is a wonderful area.

Could you move to a village near York and hubby commute to Leeds? York much safer for nightlife.

It rains a hell of a lot in Cornwall 😂

I feel your pain, every time I see the rain, wind, gales hit Cornwall they bounce up the Irish channel between Ireland and Wales like a pinball machine drenching us all. We've all got prevailing north Westerly winds. Gawd knows why tourists love our landscapes so much they holiday every year. They'd be better off heading east