Thanks to Mumsnet users for helping me see sense!

[verityrosa]

Sorry I don’t know where else to post this to hopefully reach the people that seen the post about me! I joined as someone messaged me on tik tok and told me there was a thread on here about me! I had a public tik tok account with some very dark humour on there and photos and videos of my kids. Well I have actually deactivated that account so thanks the people that were harsh to me and said what I probably needed to hear. Thanks to you my kids are no longer being shared on social media, no sharing my life with the world and no viral videos that a lot of people found offensive especially as my kids were in the videos.
i promise I’m not a bad person. Just a mum with a disabled child and find life hard and use dark humour as a coping mechanism but I have never started that account with the aim of going viral and making money etc. it’s just not worth it though I have to think about my kids and their privacy etc so thank you.

This is a very nice thread to read. Good to see that our collective moaning has had a good impact on you and your children's lives.

To answer your question, I don't have photos of DC on any social media. I only share with family and friends via WhatsApp individually or to my family group, maybe once a week.

If you want to do a private online journal you could look at Moment Garden (or other similar private apps)

I share about my 2 DC on Moment Garden and only invited people can see what I post. It's very private.

Have fun here. It's brilliant. I learn stuff all the time.

but I’m pretty sure my rape case didn’t make court because of the way I am. I don’t come across a good victim. I was making ‘jokes’ in the police interview videos. I can’t explain why it helps me but it does but that’s the worst example I can think of. I was even laughing at some points of it. But it’s not funny at all which will make no sense to most people!

I understand. I cope with things by detaching. I look all brave and capable, able to laugh, but it’s just a front that makes it easier for everyone else. Social oil, if you like.

💐 for all that you’ve experienced and all you’ve managed to achieve against the odds. I hope you find a a happy place here, where you can be honest and have fun and find support.

I have private instagram and share loads of pics as I only have family and close friends on there. No different to WhatsApp if your settings are right

I never post at all.

I don't share a single photo of my daughter online. She might be a child but she has as much right to privacy as anyone else. I find it quite disturbing that so many children are reaching adulthood having their whole lives played out online for god knows who to look at.

It’s so true! And I think deep down I’ve always known this too so I know how bad that sounds, I know it’s bad but still did it for no one else but myself. Sometimes it was sharing my disabled sons journey because most of the worst stuff happened during the first covid lockdown and I was alone in intesnsive care with him. I felt like I always had someone to talk to and the people that followed our blog that I had at that time I called my virtual support group. But he can never ever consent which makes it worse really. Now I’ve stopped I’ve saved my 11 year old and 5 year old from having their lives shared to the world and hopefully the things I posted in the past won’t affect them 😭

No they never say that but I know I’m not the best because I’ve had to have a lot of help if I’m honest!

I think sometimes people can deliver a dark sense of humour' in a very neat way and it works- kind of Ricky gervais. Sometimes people just aren't clever enough to pull it off.

The difference is RG seems to start with insult and turn the joke into satire - where he ends up poking fun at society.

You probably laugh at things that others find offensive. That's ok in the privacy of your own home but when you tried to deliver that humour you haven't quite got the skill. That's why comedians have IQs of 170 etc.

You’ll fit in just fine!

This is really gracious, @@verityrosa. I read the thread about your TikTok, though I don't think I posted. I believe you've done the right thing - and it sounds like your daughter's relieved!

Welcome to Mumsnet. Stick around if you can stand us all

Well done op. I have found mn to be amazing, very educational and some of the posts are very funny. There are a lot of interesting intelligence people on here who have a way with words that I can never do being dyslexic but I appreciate and admire these posts. There are some people who just want to pull anything you say down but I just ignore them or report to mnhq if they being nasty to others. There's a lovely post on aibu at the moment...sons exam results made me cry. Just made me feel so proud of the mum and son who I don't know and never meet. It's such a positive post to read. Look at the classic section of mn...

I love dark humour between friends because we KNOW each other. If someone I don't know would talk like you did I would be concerned because some people actually do shake their babies or do crazy stuff do how to tell it's a joke? And some crazy woman out there might not get it and follow your advice and deliberately try to make a healthy baby disabled.

I had 1,657 comments think that it was funny and it was also liked by 125k 😅 but I also had 54 comments that found it offensive, and upsetting and I honestly did care about that which is why it’s now been deleted. In real life I’m the joker of the family and my friends but I appreciate things come across a lot better in person. I love RG 😍

Thank you everyone for all comments, whether positive or not, I really appreciate the honesty, seeing as it’s a group where people can be anonymous, but no one seems to be trolling and that’s surprising!