Thanks to Mumsnet users for helping me see sense!

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Sorry I don’t know where else to post this to hopefully reach the people that seen the post about me! I joined as someone messaged me on tik tok and told me there was a thread on here about me! I had a public tik tok account with some very dark humour on there and photos and videos of my kids. Well I have actually deactivated that account so thanks the people that were harsh to me and said what I probably needed to hear. Thanks to you my kids are no longer being shared on social media, no sharing my life with the world and no viral videos that a lot of people found offensive especially as my kids were in the videos.
i promise I’m not a bad person. Just a mum with a disabled child and find life hard and use dark humour as a coping mechanism but I have never started that account with the aim of going viral and making money etc. it’s just not worth it though I have to think about my kids and their privacy etc so thank you.

Nah, you’re trying to make out your “dark
humour” is something special. It isn’t, it’s just grim.

And it’s a big enough site that there will be someone impacted by whatever thing you are being casually humorous about.

We are rape victims, autistic, mother-in-laws, women with no/massive/uneven busts, childless, enduring an unwanted pregnancy… we’re all here.

I accidentally offended a Swede yesterday. Really! But she explained and I explained and we’re good 😊

It’s defo not special at all I don’t disagree honestly! But it exists and I like it. I know it’s grim tho honestly and I do not find all dark twisted humour funny. I’ve heard comedians joke about things that I can’t laugh at all all

Gallows humour among the desperate is hardly unknown. Don’t scare her off. Let her stay around and find a better outlet for her stress.

Are you the woman who posted a video about shaking her normal kid?

Wait. I don’t even know what granny shoe is 😂 what is it? In real life I call people out for all those things you said. And there are 2 words that start with S and R about disabled people. My sons been called both of those and let’s just say those people probably never dared say them words again

Is that you Katie Price?

In terms of posting my Facebook account only has people on it that my DD knows so close family and friends and sharing on there is no issue as they are likely to have been with us anyway but when she got to the teen years she asked me to stop / or to ok the photos I put up and largely I use it as a photo storage as much as anything so I did, never post anything negative about her, and if things come up on my Memories that are embarrassing now I deleted them. I don't use other social media.

I once worked with a teen girl whose mum used to post things about her all the time, she found it s upsetting and hated going home.

You will find al sorts here, high flyers on six figures salaries having six holidays a year, to those desperately trying to make their paycheck stretch. There is a good community for SEND mums that you might benefit from too.

Oh my god like when you say it like that I’m so angry with myself for ever posting something I thought was a ‘joke’. I don’t wanna be that mum but yes I am 😭

Good lord no 😂😂😂

Thank you honestly I expect to get backlash for it but I have took myself off tik tok completely now so it really did sink in the last time everyone said it and now I definitely won’t be doing it again but I gotta admit I feel a bit lost now. Not from posting the offensive stuff but just my normal posts sharing my daily life. Because I felt a lot of support from my followers so I do need to find a better way to cope!

What about carrying on posting, but focused on yourself not the DC?

I tend not to be too specific on SM. I’d post a bit vaguely so people who knew me well would know. So I’d talk about ‘stormy weather’ in my house, or say ‘the littlest has been really poorly so I’m short of sleep’, rather than being too specific.

You can post about difficulties you face, but film from behind so the access issue is visible but your DC isn’t.

Basically the rules here are that you can't say anything that may be offensive or not compassionate to anyone with ADHD, autism, and so on.

And if your post is complaining about someone, people will say that person probably has ADHD or autism even when they obviously don't.

But you can be as nasty as you like about trans people, because apparently according to mumsnet they aren't people, they're just rapists who are going to shag your kids or granny if they see them in a public toilet.

And as a PP says, the send boards here are supportive.

my teen and pre teen were shocked I removed my account but i think they are happy. Don’t think any of their mums do what I do. I did all the dance trends and stuff as well. I need to grow the fuck up

@sunseaandsoundingoff is talking about how robust MN is about women’s rights. It’s one of the few places where women’s rights can be discussed openly where they conflict with the rights of transwomen.

@sunseaandsoundingoff as you know, transphobia should be reported so it can be deleted.

What the actual fuck?! Is that a joke? This doesn’t seem the sort of place that would be nasty about anyone to be honest and that’s transphobia!

Have a look at the different boards OP, there's some fab posters on here and a lot of support offered if someone should need it. Obviously there's the odd arse here and there but such is life.
I tend to go between here, mumsnet chat, the relationship board and mumsnet classics but there's loads more. I've learned a lot and I think some of what I've learned has changed me as a person in a positive way. I probably spend far too much time on here tbh 😊

I’m gonna have to Google this 😭 I don’t know what the issue is with trans women’s rights. I feel so thick here 😂

Sorry I don’t mean to say thick as offensive! It’s how I describe myself sometimes

So I’ve left tik tok to become addicted to mumsnet! It’s a bit like social media then but it’s all anonymous? Does anyone arrange mum meet ups ?

Do you have friends in real life?

Possibly! 😆

Yes it anonymous, not sure if meet ups are ever arranged. Someone else might be able to answer that.

Yes but not loads! I would say 4 friends that are real friends. Ones I trust my life with! Plus a few more that I meet for a coffee now and again but not really close. And then childhood / family friends.

And 1 of those friends is one that also uses dark humour and we both have been through a lot of trauma and we do joke together. Not going to stop that but that’s in private with my friend. One other that is sort of like me but not as bad and the other 2 it wouldn’t go down well with so I don’t speak like that around them. If that makes sense.