Husband going to be difficult at family wedding if adult son of 30 drinks!

Sligomum · 2024-08-22T19:50:13+00:00

My son of 30 (family man with 2 kids) is invited to a family wedding and my husband (his dad is objecting to him drinking) as it’s going to embarrass him) I know it’s going to cause a scene , as my husband did the same when he was a teenager and and had a few at his cousins wedding ( he was actually just merry and happy) , I’m now dreading the wedding ! Is he being unreasonable?

Youcancallmeirrelevant · 22/08/2024 20:51

Why is a 30yo drinking going to embarras his dad?

Theleaveswillbefalling · 22/08/2024 20:52

Who is going to embarrass who? And why? Does your son drink too much and behave inappropriately?

Hectorscalling · 22/08/2024 20:54

What?

How is him having a drink embarrassing his dad?

or does your son act like a twat when he is drinking? Is that the issue?

KreedKafer · 22/08/2024 20:54

Sorry, what? Why does your husband think he can tell his 30-year-old son what to do? It’s none of your husband’s business whether he has a drink at a wedding or not. Your husband’s bonkers.

Gardendiary · 22/08/2024 20:56

Can you fill in the gaps? Does your son have an alcohol problem? because just based on your OP this is completely unreasonable as well as quite weird.

Everyoneisdifferent · 22/08/2024 20:57

You need to explain a bit OP as it's not really clear what the issue is.
Does your son behave badly when he drinks or is your husband being unreasonable?

Createausername1970 · 22/08/2024 20:57

More info needed. Will your son get too drunk, drop his trousers and waggle his willie in Aunty Ethel's face?

Or will he just have a few drinks and get a bit loud, like most of the other people in the room?

loropianalover · 22/08/2024 20:58

Presume there’s something missing here OP?

Your son is 30 and a ‘family man’, but does he act the maggot on the drink? Does your husband object to him being drunk, or drinking even 1 drink? Does your husband get drunk, or feel a certain way about alcohol?

BridgetJonesBigPants · 22/08/2024 20:58

Your husband drank at a wedding when he was a teenager or your husband was embarrassed by your then-teenage-son drinking at a wedding?

CraftyNavySeal · 22/08/2024 20:59

So 15 years ago your husband told off his then teenage son and you think he’s going to do the same now?

BCBird · 22/08/2024 21:00

Is it seen as a cultural no no to drink? Your son can do as he pleases

TomeTome · 22/08/2024 21:00

Facinating. Will your dh be having a drink? Are you “allowed”? Is he aware he has zero control of this?

LaurieFairyCake · 22/08/2024 21:01

Get pissed yourself 🤷‍♀️

Original poster

Sligomum · 22/08/2024 21:02

I must explain.. that my husband has always been worried about what family think, and when my son was 15 he drank a little at nephews wedding ( husband lost the plot). English wedding.
This wedding is an Asian wedding and apparently he asked the bride (whose his cousin and usually drinks) if alcohol would be served, and she said no..so Adam (my son) said I’ll have source some myself! (Probably a joke) my husband found out about this conversation and is already threatening hell if he does drink)
im just worrying about this already

OP posts:

loropianalover · 22/08/2024 21:06

Sligomum · 22/08/2024 21:02

I must explain.. that my husband has always been worried about what family think, and when my son was 15 he drank a little at nephews wedding ( husband lost the plot). English wedding.
This wedding is an Asian wedding and apparently he asked the bride (whose his cousin and usually drinks) if alcohol would be served, and she said no..so Adam (my son) said I’ll have source some myself! (Probably a joke) my husband found out about this conversation and is already threatening hell if he does drink)
im just worrying about this already

OP there is no alcohol being served at this wedding, so what’s the issue?

Unless you think your son isn’t joking about sourcing it himself? Then he might have a problem..

Hectorscalling · 22/08/2024 21:06

Sligomum · 22/08/2024 21:02

I must explain.. that my husband has always been worried about what family think, and when my son was 15 he drank a little at nephews wedding ( husband lost the plot). English wedding.
This wedding is an Asian wedding and apparently he asked the bride (whose his cousin and usually drinks) if alcohol would be served, and she said no..so Adam (my son) said I’ll have source some myself! (Probably a joke) my husband found out about this conversation and is already threatening hell if he does drink)
im just worrying about this already

So that’s a different situation.

This wedding is alcohol free for cultural reasons and your son said he would sneak alcohol in. And your husband has objects to him sneaking alcohol in.

I don’t see the issue. Your husband is right. I am also going to assume your son has more than one incident of drinking inappropriately, maybe even drugs?

Your assumption that it’s a joke is odd. It would be so disrespectful for your son to sneak in alcohol. It’s not a funny joke. And honestly, I would be worried if my adult child felt they had to sneak alcohol in anywhere.

theduchessofspork · 22/08/2024 21:09

I would just ignore them both .

otravezempezamos · 22/08/2024 21:11

Leave them to it OP. Enjoy it with the other family members.

If your son was getting blind drunk, throwing up in bushes and spoiling it for everyone else then he would have a point. But being a bit merry is what weddings are for (they are so awful otherwise you have to be a bit drunk to get through)

5128gap · 22/08/2024 21:13

That's an important update OP. Your son has been invited to be the guest of people who do not want alcohol at their wedding. Your son has two options, respect his hosts or decline their invitation. Your H is not being U as if your son does 'sneak' a drink like a naughty teen, then this is an embarrassing and rude way to behave at 30 and I'd be embarrassed by my son if he did that.

edwinbear · 22/08/2024 21:13

If it’s a dry wedding and your son is actually planning on sneaking booze in, I can see why he’d be annoyed. If your son was genuinely making a joke and your husband has got the wrong end of the stick, then your husband just needs that explaining to him.

NoSquirrels · 22/08/2024 21:17

Rude (and desperate, tbh) to drink at a dry function. If no alcohol is on offer, then no alcohol should be drunk.

So your son is wrong to ‘joke’ about doing so. And should expect his dad to disapprove if he does drink on the day. He’s not much of a ‘family man’ if he can’t respect the wider extended family’s wishes.

Charlize43 · 22/08/2024 21:18

30 drinks is a tad excessive even at a wedding... normally I'd manage around half that amount before it got embarrassing...

loropianalover · 22/08/2024 21:19

Charlize43 · 22/08/2024 21:18

30 drinks is a tad excessive even at a wedding... normally I'd manage around half that amount before it got embarrassing...

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

TheNameIsDickDarlington · 22/08/2024 21:19

Well if it's a dry wedding then it's very rude and disrespectful to the couple to sneak in alcohol and I would be very annoyed at the suggestion even in jest as it is undermining the cultural aspect.

Soccergearmissingagain · 22/08/2024 21:19

Can you talk to your son and see if he was joking or not? If it was just a bad joke then there's not much to worry about regarding the wedding.