in not making Dh's packed lunch for him every day?

[pedilia]

He will do it and doesn't ask me to but makes little comments that suggests he thinks I should be doing it, as in 'everyones wife at work makes them a packed lunch'

that's the thing in our house the normal male things i do aswell, not all of them but a fair few IMO, I paint the house if we're decorating, i take out the rubbish, clean the car, garden(sometimes!) build the flat pack furniture etc. We mix roles really, which works for us. He likes looking after the dc when he's off work so I then do house things(DIY etc) that's why I object to the 'x's wife makes his lunch' and 'x'x wife irons everything' and 'x's wife cleans alot more often than you' I know i'm not housewife of the year but I do alot of things and so does dh that aren't necessarily what 'everyone else' does. So yes i do believe in doing things for others and others doing things for me, i just don't see why they should be the wife makes the sandwhiches and irons the clothes

I think with this sort of thing if you are happy to do this then do but if you aren't then don't.

I usually make my DH's luncH and I don't have a problem with this.

DH has been home for 3 hours and has gone back to work taking DS2 with him so I made them both lunch for tommorrow and snacks for later on.
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When I was on mat leave and DH was working - he made my lunch. Although he was going out to work, he felt that I was doing work at home and he wanted to do something to help out with that, even when he wasn't there. Now we're both working DH makes his, mine and DS's packed lunch.

In many ways doesn't really matter who makes what, as long as you both feel happy doing what you're doing. I think it's the oblique comments that would bother me more. As other's have said, it does remind me of "Everyone else's mum lets them [do x, y and z]"