To be in daily contact with an ex colleague

[realham]

... and ex crush when with a partner for five yearswith a baby and engaged?
I do not think that partner knows the level of contact.

Tell them then, and ask them if they think you're being unreasonable?

You know its wrong!

Would you be happy with your fella doing this?

How does it relate to you?

I do not think that partner knows the level of contact

That's emotional affair territory and was the beginning of the end for marriage. You know this is wrong.

If it’s you, then yes, you are. You know you are. It’s dishonest and disrespectful. And you’re playing with fire.

as long as no lines are crossed then its just friends at the moment