Over sensitive?

[spanieleyes22]

So I was at a wedding over the weekend. I didn't know anyone except the bride. In the bedroom next door was another single mother. Have to tell you boring background so as not to drip feed! Anyway long story short I think she sensed I was a bit
Nervous and she said don't worry I'll introduce you to everyone etc etc. just to say she abandoned me first chance she got on the wedding day. It was fine I talked to people etc etc. Then this morn there was a brunch at 11 and me and my ds were up and awake before her and her dd so we waited for them as we could hear them getting up. So we set off for the brek. It was buffet style so we both got some
Food and drink and sat down and I was ready for a chat but almost
Immediately she got up and took her plate and drink and said I'm
Going to sit over there. And she just went over to some other people and left me
Sitting there alone. I was hurt I can't lie. I had been kind to her over the couple of days-I gave her hayfever pills I listened to her talking about her recent illness and how difficult
She is finding her dd who's 15. I finished my brek and went back
To my room. Really wanted to have a little
Cry but didn't allow
Myself
To. Had been hard for me to talk to so many people I didn't know etc. anyway. I won't prob see her again for a v long
Time
If ever!!! AIB oversensitive

I was replying to your post where you agreed with the pp post. It can be seen as a chain if you click on the ' quote history'.

OP did engineer the meeting in the morning.. she was already up but she heard the woman getting up so she waited and left at the exact same time.. I'm not sure why you are getting upset about the wording?

I think it was a bit rude to sit with you for breakfast then run off to another table. She could have just sat with the other people, or asked you to join, even if she found you too much.

The thing is not to get too emotionally invested in people you have just met. It’s very brave going to a big social event so well done for navigating that.

@sandyhappypeople think that's a pretty harsh assessment but take your point . I guess I'm not used to being snubbed like that. Nobody I know would
Have done that. I'm lucky to have not come across people like that woman. I really don't think I'm that obnoxious to deserve that treatment . But then I'm pretty polite.

She knew a lot of the family members and had known them for many years and had also socialized with the whole crowd the night before. There was only about 30 there after family . I honestly thought I was being nice waiting for her for breakfast. Obviously I'm a stupid idiot!!!!!!!!

Just to explain as well that the reason I gave her the hayfever tablets was because as we were getting ready she came out and asked me did her face look red. It was scarlet. She had had an allergic reaction to a new serum. Her whole face was burning up. I got her ice and water and a bowl and a facecloth to bathe her face in. I ran and got my zirtek. I sympathized with her and helped her cover it with concealer. I thought I was a nice person
To her. She was in bits worrying as it was literally half hour before wedding started. I then took lots of photos of her and her daughter for her. I really don't think I did anything to deserve what she did on the Sunday. I didn't go near her once we got to the ceremony and she sat away from me. I certainly didn't stick to her . Just fyi. Anyway I'm home now and will keep the good memories and not give her any more space in my head . She doesn't deserve it anyway. She's not a nice person.

I'm confused, you said in an earlier post that she didn't know any others either

Yeh I was just looking at the photos and was working out how many were there. There was only about 30 non family and she didn't know any of them. But she had met a lot of the family members of the bride over the years and they seemed to know her too. Her dd seemed to know the brides nieces very well. I hadn't realized .

its a little all over the place. You thought you were being nice waiting for her, so doing it for her, but then are so very upset she didn’t wish to sit with you and you felt she should habe introduced you to others. The latter doesn’t sound like you were waiting for her for her sake, but your own.

look, it’s horrible being socially anxious and at a social event not knowing anyone. Everyone gets that. And it was lovely you helped her out. But it doesn’t mean she owed you I’m afraid and she wanted to spend time with others before everyone left. You weren’t her responsibility I’m afraid.

well done on going, it’s hard even at the best of times if you don’t know anyone. Never mind if you struggle socially, but you got through it and your child had a great time. Count it as a win.