If you're single and childless what do you do at the weekend?

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Finding weekends tough.

Just faff about really.
Read, listen to podcasts, scroll, go for coffee, go to the local pool, do chores, draw, write, nap, large park/wooded area near by so sometimes go there.

Those talking about long walks on your own, do you feel safe doing that? All the murders of dog walkers etc in remote places makes me nervous of doing long walks in the countryside by myself.

Parkrun/volunteer at Parkrun
Out for coffee with a book
Museums and galleries
Reading
Jigsaws
Crafting (I like crochet, and am learning dress making)
Cooking for the week ahead
Gym
Yoga
Concerts and gigs
Lunch with friends
Borrow a neighbour's dog and go for a walk

What murders of dog walkers?! There’s not really an epidemic of it in the uk to an extend that warrants being this paranoid you’re staying home. I wouldn’t go on long countryside walks by myself but more so because of injury risk and lack of phone signal. But not because of some
bogey man lurking somewhere.

I absolutely feel safe. I take the dog to the beach and the woods - and a very large park that allows dogs off lead.

it has never crossed my mind that I will get murdered in daylight.

saying that I wouldn’t go into the park after dark.

I still occasionally do this and I’m mid 40’s. Sometimes with friends in their 50’s, 60’s and early 70’s. When are we meant to move to this adult stage of life? Sometimes it does you the world of good to just meet up with friends and see where the day ends up. We usually meet early afternoon for food and have a few drinks. It could potentially end up with dancing in a late bar or we could end up home early. There’s no age limit on going out and having fun. The hardest part is finding a time when we’re all free.

See friends, but of course you need at least a few of your friends to be single too.

What I meant was this isn’t a realistic option for every weekend! You do it occasionally - I do it occasionally too but to be honest very rarely on both Friday and Saturday nights. OP is struggling with weekends.

the poster I was referring to said -

’When I was single and childless I just got drunk Fridays and Saturdays then spent Sundays with my best friends nursing our hangovers and go out for food ready for the working week.’

What I was saying that is unlikely to be a solution for someone who is struggling with lonely and long weekends.

Or happy to be wrong - do you do this every Friday and Saturday night?

Depends where you are I suppose. I live near the Peak District and never had a problem there. There are lots of lone people walking about. There are organised walks in a lot of places too. My Nan used to go on holidays that were for single women when my grandad died. She made a friend on one of them and they did holidays and meet ups for a few years together after. Sometimes it’s just a case of finding something that interests you and finding like minded people to do it with.

Are you scared in the daytime???

Bloody hell no! I can’t do 2 nights in a row but I’ve just done 4 weeks of 1 nights in July and had a good catch up with different friends. I’m presuming that is what the other poster means. Just because you’re a certain age shouldn’t stop you going out out even if you have kids or a partner. I still make time to do things with my friends who are single and childless.

Not knowing what to do with yourself at the weekend because you don't have any relationship or parenting responsibilities sounds a bit worrying to me.

What do you enjoy doing ? Do that.

Cook
Watch TV
Go hiking
Go kayaking
Read
Play computer games
Drink wine
Do gardening
Do house work
Surf the net
Have long hot baths in the winter
Listen to music
Shop
Eat in peace

I do a mixture of things:

Gym/sauna/steam room - sometimes a yoga class but out the habit currently.
Brunch/lunch/dinner out - either with friends or sometimes on my own.
Friends over for dinner and corresponding afternoon faffing enjoyably in the kitchen.
Moderately long bike ride if the weather is good (I also find this removes any self consciousness about eating alone).
Library membership - I'm a member of a private library which has comfy chairs and good books and magazines and a cafe and is very nice.
National trust visits - often to meet a friend for a walk.
Walk to a pub and back.
Reading at home.
Watch more TV in the winter than I do in the summer.
Beach and walking/sitting and reading.

Mainly not terribly exciting but generally very pleasant.

Then there'll be weekends where I go for a proper day out - down to London or away for a weekend at a friend's or similar.

And I travel/holiday quite a lot too - usually at least 4 weeks a year which eats up 8 weekends.

Go to Ibiza and take loads of drugs.

Cycling, hillwalking or allotment or garden at home mainly. I tend not to see friends at weekends as they tend to ringfence weekends as “family time”, which I struggle with. My only two single friends work at weekends.

I honestly don’t want to fight about this😊.

as a single, childless woman myself maybe this response triggered me a little. Telling an adult women to just get drunk every Friday and Saturday night with her mates seems completely unrealistic and silly.

yes we all party occasionally - but you can’t rely on it to fill every weekend.

when you are single and childless everyone else seems to have busy, full weekends. They occasionally are able to make time for a night out - which is great. But often people can’t. OP is struggling with weekends so it’s unlikely she has the option - or maybe desire - to party every Friday and Saturday night.

and adults do usually want more from a weekend - daytime activities. But yes for some people getting drunk and clubbing and partying might be enough - but some people look for more variety. And when you are single and childless that variety is hard. Beciase people usually do they daytime stuff with their partners and kids.

but i am out now! I am clearly not expressing myself very well

Whatever the fuck I want.

I stay in bed.
Socialise.
Go walking with friends
volunteer
tidy the garden
tidy the house
get my hair done
go shopping
watch a box set
go out for meals with friends.

I hear you @Bellyblueboy

Try to find more single friends. All of mine work 9-5 like me. Doesn't mean they're always available of course, but it helps.

Yes. Lots of female walkers have been murdered in daylight. The most recent was Anita Rose in Suffolk a few weeks ago who was walking her dog.

It's totally normal.

I’m not fighting about it either. 🙂 It’s nice to have a discussion. My first post I put the things I am looking forward to doing like exploring, camping, gigs, planning where I want to go, castles, etc. I just didn’t like the dismissal of a boozy weekend when I do enjoy them too. I’d be bored getting legless all the time and it can get tedious if that’s all you’re doing.

Thanks @TheBitchOfTheVicar 😊. I would love to be able to look up cool things to do on a Friday night with a partner - plan a Saturday.

I recently tried to get some friends together to go boating on a local lake - take a picnic and have some wine! I was really excited but couldn’t get it arranged because people had daytime plans with kids and partners. Which is fine of course, but I couldn’t help but think if I had a partner we could just have agreed to do it at short notice.

its not that I am old and boring - I just want more from life than clubbing🤦‍♀️.

i think it’s hard for those on this thread who aren’t single and childless to understand this particular struggle.

And I suspect this is the problem. Weekends and Bank Holidays, and that weird week between Christmas and New Year, are very hard to navigate if you’re single whilst all your friends are married/partnered.

I am guessing that if the OP had a selection of single friends, she wouldn’t have posted in the first place.