If you're single and childless what do you do at the weekend?

[Britishsummertime22]

Finding weekends tough.

I've always lived alone

My bank holiday plans are probably boring to some but my health conditions mean I need rest!

One day will be cleaning, some DIY I've been putting off, general house stuff so the place is clean and tidy which always makes me feel better that it's done
Second day I'm meeting some of my netball team to do a bit of practice and then going for an outdoor swim
Third day is my "rest" day so long bath, sort my nails out, box set, got a new book to start

I'll also do some spin and weights at home and probably some cooking ready for the week ahead
Just enjoy sitting down on a Sunday knowing the place is clean, tidy, work lunches are prepped, freezer is full of batch cooking and I'm organised

*After being called a not proper adult and being quoted several times by a certain someone on this thread I left it alone. But have spoken to my friend who is single and does not have children she has said my ideas of renting a cabin/house somewhere sounds amazing and she is doing exactly that now for the bank holiday and she’s going to do it with wine and cheese and have a bloody wonderful time.

Other suggestions/ things she does were …..

• Decorating the house and moving all furniture around

• upcycling items she already has and going to charity shops to find other items to upcycle

• stained glass window painting, candle making, pottery making and jewellery making and selling it on Etsy

• walking group which she has made friends at and low and behold they do events outside of walking with alcohol and have a great time

• geocaching (google it if you don’t know) she said it’s like Pokémon go for ‘proper adults’

• pamper nights - she said she does a foot spa, facial, nails, long bath WITH WINE and has a night of relaxation every weekend or so

• yesterday she said she went to the park with a picnic, sat down and drew the trees and flowers and other things around and she is so crap at drawing but it was a fun challenge. She’s also trying to write a book

• home workouts off YouTube aswel as she is in an aerobics group and a Zumba group and she has made some friends there and to be honest they all just go so they can have a drink/coffee afterwards and a chat

• reads most days a chapter at a minimum

• she said she tried new skills. Bought an electric scooter and rides it on her land (granted she has a big patch of land) she also bought roller skates and gave them a go

• she goes to the theatre, ice hockey games and she joined the golf club. She is rubbish at golf too but says it’s fun and relaxing

• crochet and learning to sew clothes, curtains, pillows etc

• she has an indoor cat that has no back legs and was going to be put down but she has him for company and he’s adorable and just wants cuddles all the time

• she used to volunteer for a mtnal health charity and made lots of friends there she quit to take up horse riding which she does every weekend and helps muck the stables out and loves it

Hope you can find something on this list that will interest you op

In fairness I didn’t say you weren’t a proper adult now - I said the weekends you described were for much younger people at a very different stage in their lives. I said OP was probably now a proper adult. I do think she will be in her thirties at least.

I do think I’m right though - the getting drunk every Friday and Saturday night with a big group of friends was something you did when you were no older than 22 or 23?

I didn’t say drinking was the problem at all - I absolutely drink. I said OP might not have a big group of friends to get pissed with two nights every weekend ( whethe run her home town, at the beach or in a cottage) I have also said she may want more out of her weekends. Just like your friend.

I didn’t mean to discuss it to such an extent - you responded then others responded and I explained myself over and over and over and over and over again😂.

@Britishsummertime22 I hope some of the suggestions on this thread have been helpful? And in particular, knowing that lots of posters understand how you feel?

My trick for planning good weekends is to know about lots of things I could do and only a few that I'm actually committed to do.

First of all, I look out a group walk on the ramblers website, though I do use the app so can't easily link here. They are always very friendly, happy to chat while walking if you prefer and equally to leave you alone to just walk with the group. There is often (it will be mentioned in the description) either a break for a quick picnic type snack together or for longer morning walks an option to lunch together at a pub afterwards.

This is something that I can usually decide only last minute whether to join.

I usually leave dome washing running, ready to be hung out on my return, so that's another chore out of the way.

Yesterday I had lunch with school friends (yes, in touch with classmates from 1978), did some 'fun' food shopping on the way home and relaxed the rest of the day

Today woke up too late to join the walk but plan to go out this afternoon instead.

I've taken up a new hobby for 'later life' and make good efforts to spend at least an hour on some practise.

Also fit in yoga #yogaeverydammday and have a once a month membership at a spa with lovely facilities for a Saturday evening once a month.

Monthly Bookgroup meetings have helped me meet other women locally so I have company for the events which are held in the local village hall, usually live music (a cover of popular bands, ABBA-lite was a sell out which involves hopping the night away.

Usually skip any walk the next morning after those unless there is something really special I want to do.

All very enjoyable. I don't hate Monday mornings but not do I long to get back to work. Hope you find what works for you.

Generally, doing things in groups works well

My trick for planning good weekends is to know about lots of things I could do and only a few that I'm actually committed to do.

Thats a good idea. When I was between marriages, I had a part time job in retail at weekends, working 12 noon til 4pm Saturday and Sunday. It was a godsend in keeping me sane and feeling purposeful as I dreaded weekends, but there were occasions when I got the opportunity to do something socially , and then the job got in the way