To never trust my HV again?

[sosocross]

And to demand a new one?

I am so angry and feel I'm being made to feel like a bad mother by someone who knows f all about me. We have never gotten along and she had issues with me questioning the Jabs and also her advice on weaning.

She once called round unannounced. DP had taken the DC to his mums for a couple of nights and I had a friend round. She was horrified that we were drinking wine but it was 4pm and why wouldn't one, when you have a rare child free night? She really grilled me about where the children where and told me I had to bring them into clinic every two weeks.

I have done so, though it has been annoying as I've often had to cancel plans with friends. Last week I called to tell her it was DP's birthday so I would go to clinic the following week. She insisted we don't change the plan so I went out for lunch with him and our friends, collected the children from my mum and went to clinic.

She was all smiles while we were there and I told her our plans for that evening and how nice it was to have a babysitter. Also that we had been for lunch and I'd had a glass of wine.

Then this morning I received a letter from Child services telling me concerns have been raised that I am using alcohol whilst in charge of the children and they need to speak to me. I called her first and she said 'I'm sure the children are alright, but it's my job to raise concerns and I feel you don't engage with me'. Surely if she had any concerns she should talk to me first, is that not their job?

Anyway the good part is I called them and they said there is no reason to visit us, but they will keep the referral on file and if anything else comes to their attention they will take it seriously.

But in all, I am so angry. What if I have to take them to A&E after an accident? I've heard the horror stories of social services getting involved over innocent injuries, so how would it look for us that we now have a 'file' with them. ffs.

I am wondering if I can report the HV to anyone, or if there is another way to remove this file from their register. I have nothing to hide, they can come and inspect us and our medical records if they like.

That is awful. She sounds like she has taken a dislike to you in a big way!
DH manhandled a HV out of our house when we live din lossiemouth. Evil old witch she was

Thanks for that link, it's interesting o read, and I very much agree she has been unprofessional.

I am starting to question myself now, maybe I was stupid to take the DC to clinic when I would clearly smell like a drinksop?

Sosocross i am genuine and for you x

Come on, you hardly walked in singing rugby songs and starting a fight did you. We're parents not bloody nuns, we are allowed alcohol. You had a reasonable explanation (which you didn't need) and you attended which is more than I would have done.
By the way, I am a nurse in A&E and we are honestly not trying to catch parents out. You get to know whats 'normal' and when somethings not right. Kids have accidents, it happens.