to feel quite shocked that DH has PTSD from teaching?

[FunnysInLaJardin]

Its feels pretty awful tbh. He has just today received this diagnosis and has been referred for priority EMDR.

He has taught for 25 years in a secondary school, and got out last year due to clinically diagnosed burn out.

I knew it was bad, but I never realised it was this bad.

How can this be allowed to happen?

My Dd has adhd. She’s never rude or insolent or bad mannered.

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@FunnysInLaJardin I only taught for a few years and the horrific nightmares I still have from it… Really hope DH is ok.

I hope your husband recovers well. Three years ago I left FE and HE teaching after 20 years and I still feel like I’m recovering.

All I have said is always put your health and your family first above any job I don't understand how me saying that is part of the reason your all have a bad time at work

the thing that I am so angry about is actually that my lovely caring DH who gave so much to his 'kids' at school has been forced to stop teaching, take a lower paid job, deal with the loss of status and loss of earnings that that necessitates, just because the system in which he worked was untenable.

He recently completed a MH assessment in order to obtain his therapy and he said in the questionnaire that he felt he had let his family down.

That kills me. Really kills me

Just stop @Differentstarts . I get you have your issues, but please stop

He tried so very hard

Stop what, I genuinely have no idea what your talking about.

It’s you’re since you genuinely have no idea

.???

Oh sorry iv offended you because my spelling isn't perfect I didn't go to school much so my spelling isn't the best. I'm not trying to offend anyone I just struggle with spelling and punctuation. Sorry

Trust me. You don’t want to hear it I know. I’m not trying to be rude but you really ARE part of the problem. Do you know what a twat is? By the way? Disgusting language.
Shouldn't you be very much in admiration of a strong confident assertive professional woman at the top of her game!!? She speaks her mind because she knows she is right and it’s too important not to say anything!!
You should read a book called:
“You couldn’t make this up!” by
M MacDonald published last year. About teaching in UK schools in the 21st Century.

Are you calling me a twat. Are you serious right now

I think you may be on the wrong thread.

Me? I'm on a thread about mental illness that is full of teachers that are so stressed out at work due to behaviour of management, children and parents. Iv shared my experience with mh predominantly ptsd and what helped me and iv been called a twat, my spelling corrected and told I'm the problem. I think some of you all need to look at yourselves to figure out who the actual problem is as I've always stuck up for teachers but I think some people's true colours are beginning to shine through.

Good grief.

I don't have to be in admiration of a woman who has wittered on on social media about her behaviour policy being based on the concept that all children are cursed with original sin.

It's not about you.

OK I thought she was calling me that 🙈 thankyou

I am do sorry about what he / you are going through. You are not alone.

I stopped teaching 18 months ago - early retirement. I was utterly burnt out and yes, have spent the time since leaving work coping with PTSD. Schools are shit-shows. As someone said, no-one actually cares about the teachers. The kids can be challenging but mostly rewarding. It's management that screw you over. Big time. I was actually good at my job, turned lots of lives around, but I was micromanaged, under-mined and rarely given any credit.
I never want to walk into a school ever again.
No-one outside teaching really has the first idea about how broken it all is.
All the best to your husband.

Another ex-teacher here: during my career 32 years) I saw quite a number of colleagues suffering from what I now would recognise as mental health issues; some battled on, some left. I worked in a large number of schools in different areas of the country (England), so I’m pretty sure it’s endemic. Unfortunately I have no easy answers!

Best of luck to your husband, Funnys.

They can clarify but I think that comment was indeed directed at you, and I suspect the other poster means it’s not about you as in - this thread isn’t about you.

You’ve tried to be helpful no doubt and given your opinion from the perspective of someone who has struggled with MH but you haven’t experienced teaching.

I don’t think it’s that helpful to keep repeating the “just leave” message, considering multiple people are saying it’s not that easy to leave for various reasons and even leaving itself has ramifications for their mental health.

For example the OP has shared the impact leaving teaching had on her husband despite the fact he did have to leave for his mental health.

It truly is a tragedy for all parties concerned. A lot of us get it. As I said before; the more you care about doing a good job in a system that fails you, the bigger the blow to your MH. Forgive firststarts because her intentions are good but she doesn't really understand what we are talking about. All my sympathy to you and your family.

But it's irrelevant whether it's teaching, health care, the police service ect. It's still the same if it affecting your mental health to that point my advice would be the same. But her husband left after it happened that is the point don't let it get that far. But to be honest if I'm being called a twat and the other things that have been said to me on this thread just by saying a person's health is more important then their job which is what every single person should be saying and I'm getting these reactions I think teachers need to be looking at themselves because that's not a normal adult reaction. It's just showing how highly sensitive the people in this profession are which means the reality is you would all struggle in any job.