Would your Dh bring you a gift, would you expect one?

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Dh has been working away for two weeks (first time doing this)
He brought gifts home for Dd-a teddy, books, sweets, nothing for me, would it bother you?
Would yours bring something for you?

I would get something for a partner, it's a nice gesture that shows you were thinking of them.

I work away a lot and have never brought gifts. I'm working not on a jolly!

He doesn't ever work away but if so no, I wouldn't expect a gift. Maybe something for the kids, but not expected on a work trip.

It wouldn't cross my mind nor would I think to get him something if I was away (unless I saw somethings local I know he would like but I wouldn't go shopping for something to buy just because).

No, is it your love language? Might not be his. In which case, you need to communicate that to him.

We both travel for work and wouldn’t think to bring back a present! Not everything has to be materialistic

Had 30 years of this
No gifts unless on a massive cash retainer and cant take out of the country
Token gifts for children when very young

I do like a fridge magnet, but generally no, unless he’s at a big conference, when the house is filled with water bottles/hats/tote bags from every tech company you can think of.

DH worked away a lot in his last job. He used to bring me things like perfume from duty free. If he went to the US, he generally also brought back levis etc but at my request, so not a gift, per se. He's in a different job now with no travel worth mentioning , but if he ever has to go away for a day or two, he'd bring me back a Toblerone or box of chocolates or something like that.

Depends where he’s been. Working in the UK where everything he could buy is available for me to buy from local shops at any time? No he wouldn’t fetch stuff. Working abroad where there’s duty free and stuff you can’t get here? Yes he’d probably bring chocolate and wine etc.

No.
But sometimes if he's been at a decent hotel, he brings us the biscuits.

My DH did when he was travelling for work. I never expected presents.

He wouldn't bring one. I wouldn't expect one.

Wouldn't expect anything at all as he's working. However he did often (not all the time) bring me back some Korean cosmetics.

DH has always travelled for work. He'd always bring something back for the DC but not usually for me unless he'd been somewhere particularly interesting or exotic and happened to see something he thought I'd like. I certainly wouldn't expect anything.

Very rarely brings something for DC and not for me (and I don’t expect it). My DH travels a lot and it’s all about efficiency for him- squeeze as many meetings as possible and minimize time at airport. Often he’s through security and straight to boarding as he doesn’t want to wait around the airport/ lounge. Do shopping and browsing isn’t on the agenda.

I think it’s a dated concept. Travelling for work is now so commonplace (as is travelling for any occasion) it’s just another day at the office but with extra stress. Not sure why the non travelling partner needs to be treated.

If my dh is passing through an airport I always casually ask him to pick up some Tom Ford perfume.

He then rings me to ask if I know how expensive it is. Of course I do duh that's why I've asked you to buy it for me.

If you want something ask for it. Otherwise no I wouldn't expect a gift.

I didn’t expect a gift

No, but once you saw your child received one you felt a bit put out. I’d say grow up.

My husband does when he goes abroad, but nothing extravagant. Just some sweets or a snack for me to try that I wouldn't be able to get here, or a silly magnet for my increasingly ridiculous fridge, or something else small.

For me it's just a nice little gesture to tell me he was thinking of me at a random moment on his trip. I think it's sweet.

But this is Mumsnet and anything other than taciturn stoicism within your marriage is seen as immature. I'm sure you'll be told to grow up shortly. We don't even do birthdays for adults here, didn't you know? 🙃

No why would I?

He has never brought me a gift. We both rarely travel for work these days, but always try to get dd a small souvenir from the city.

@MonsteraMama how is a birthday gift remotely comparable to the need for a gift from some who’s been away from their home for 2 weeks working?

You’re right about the fridge magnet, but that’s a household gift

If my DH passed through an airport without bringing me a massive toblerone, I’d be asking why he didn’t love me anymore.

I wouldn’t expect anything but he always does bring back presents for me and the DC. It isn’t tat though or souvenir stuff, he got back from a trip recently and it was a bag from a shop who has its main branch in that country. The time before it was perfume but the time before that some special chocolates. But no, I don’t expect it.