To feel ignored and disrespected.

[BeAzureNewt]

Been dating this guy and been on 4 dates ,Last date we had sex and we have been texting everyday since then.
It's been 2 days now his behaviour is off.

He texted 2 days ago saying good morning etc and I replied an hour later then I heard nothing all day.

I tried to call him yesterday morning and he didn't pick up but 20 mins later he texts me again saying good morning and asking about my day but not mentioning the call as in sorry i cant speak on the phone.

I replied 10 mins later and again I haven't heard from him ,it'd been 24 hrs.
We have been on 4 dates but he has said a lot of things to me about not dating other ppl and wanting a relationship.
He was also travelling either on Wednesday or Thursday.

I feel so ignored and disrespected that I am about to text him that whatever this was we are done

It feels like the moment I reply he gets reassurance that I am not mad or anything and ignores again.

I dont mind not speaking to him but him not being considerate enough to send a text saying that he will be very busy in the upcoming days and might not be able to talk to me is what is upsetting me.
Why he initiates convo himself but then nothing ?
Am I overreacting?

@Catza
I had it saved on my other phone ,when I realised I decided to do what i did

In my experience @BeAzureNewt, when someone is really interested in you and respects you and wants to impress you and to be with you then then they don't play head-games, change their behaviour like the wind and keep you guessing.

I wouldn't bother!

He had already been away on holiday during the 4 dates you had ?

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon
He went away for a week for the euros before we met and used to contact me everyday ,even at the stadium.
In 3 months the longest time he hasn't texted back is 1 day,apart from now.
Before we went on a first date we were both away for the first month of talking.

He's playing you OP. He's got at least one other girl on the go.

Ah lots of talking before meeting.

@OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon
He asked to meet straight away and called me second day after we matched but I was going away for holidays.
I guess it doesn't matter now ,I just expected mature communication, for him to just tell me he no longer is interested.

@AllyMcdonald
I was not exactly conforontational and its not been 24 hrs but 4 days now.
Let's be honest here if a guy is interested he won't leave you hanging like this and won't be put off because I called him 3 days after was left on delivered.
Sex does change things and i expressed that to him,we discussed exclusivity and so on.
I didn't ring him every hour or even everyday.
I don't hookup with someone new every week and sleeping with sb means smth no matter how early on ,he knew that as I explained it to him before we slept together.

@AllyMcdonald
Because I called 3 days later ?
If I liked a guy I wouldn't find that needy at all

Think about what you wrote throughout the thread. You said you weren't going to chase him, then you chased him. You said you deleted his number and he can call you himself, then you happened to find his number and call him anyway... You said you broke up with him and yet you are still here chewing over the situation that is no longer of any relevance as you "ended it". Can you not see how it would seem needy and weird?
There is a lot of intensity and rules for a 4-date-long relationship. You asserted your boundaries, he crossed them and that should have been the end. Instead you keep going back and trying to flog a dead horse by reminding him about your boundaries. It's a lot of hard work which this thing doesn't warrant at all.

@Catza
I admit it is needy and I feel quite vulnerable but he doesn't know that as I only called him only once 3 days after being left on delivered and I politely spoke to him was not demanding or anything.

@BeAzureNewt but the problem is that he does very much know this. Things like that do come across despite our best efforts. This is why it is called a self-fulfilling prophesy - you think someone lost interest and you start acting in a manner that makes them lose interest. Calling him from a different number is quite a telling sign as well and now he knows you were trying to catch him out.
Just let this one go, OP. I predict he lied about being with other people to avoid having a conversation and the phone call won’t be forthcoming. Whatever his motivations were for not keeping in touch before this are now irrelevant. It’s a lost cause.

He was busy as people were speaking to him while on the phone call but you are right the phone call won't be coming regardless.

@AllyMcdonald
That's the thing he knew my expectations as they were discussed before in a casual manner ,so he knows very well.

Run.

He's not what you want or need.

@AllyMcdonald
He and I clearly discussed what that shag would mean more than once and looking back he said all the things i needed to hear ,so no it don't matter that it was only one shag and I did not exactly blow up his phone either so it was lack of interest since before me calling.
Communication changed was quite more considerate and attentive before so he knows what he is doing.
We live in an age where people shag with no meaning after it so you are right I might be too much for this modern concept of dating.
Naive yes but needy and intense not that much

You're talking about the neediness of the OP? yet you are constantly on this thread, desperate for the OPs attention. What a joke!

@BeAzureNewt The guy isn’t into you. I doubt he was even travelling. He’s had sex, wants nothing more. Don’t waste anymore time on him and don’t listen to some weird poster telling you you’re needy.

Nicest possible way - you've been on 4 dates - relax a bit - hassling him will put him off.

OP just leave him alone, he's not interested, if you hadn't have called him you'd probably never have heard from him again.

He doesn't care

He’s occupying too much of your time and mental energy.
Write it off as a learning experience and move on xx