To demand to know wtf is wrong with people who play music or films out loud on public transport

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WHAT IS THEIR MALFUNCTION

They're just massive wankers

Main character syndrome, they think they are the only one whose feelings count and everyone else is just a background feature.

Selfish and stupid - the classic double

Incontrovertible twattism

They literally could not give a shit about anyone else and it wouldn't occur to them to do so.

I feel very old fashioned, expecting my children to be considerate of others in a public place, or even at home for that matter.

Deeply uncool these days.

What about the ones who have detailed conversations about their private lives on their mobiles?

Music and movies that's plain stupidity and being inconsiderate. Having full-blown conversations on a loud speaker in public, so EVERYONE would hear all the details - that's actual offence I think...

Exactly this

Yes. I agree. The default now is what people want to do and fuck everyone else

Socially inept, dragged up plebs.

There were a couple of guys watching a video on their phone at a restaurant I was at the other day. At some point, there was swearing in the video, and I saw a couple of young kids at the next table (who had been beautifully behaved) turn around and look at them. It amused me, as it was the exact opposite of the situation I see complained about on here!

A mum and her (disinterested) daughter watching an entire Disney series on full blast via laptop on 2.5hr flight beside me. I have since bought noise cancelling headphones.

It's very much on the rise isn't it? 🙄

I was paying at the self service till in a supermarket the other day, guy next to me phone started ringing with a loud tone. At least I thought! No, he was just playing music on his phone at full volume as you would if listening on headphones. For everyone to enjoy 🙄🙄. I gave him a look but he was big and tall and so I looked away quickly.

Surely it's time to make this socially unacceptable like it is for plenty of other things? You can't drink out and about in plenty of places, on tubes etc so why not this?

It's always shite music too!

To some people it isn’t a sign of disrespect or being rude, it’s how they communicate.

We have a large and diverse student population where we live and talking loudly on speaker phone or playing music isn’t meant to antagonise or upset. They wouldn’t care if others were loud either.

The problem is where you have some people that believe it is respectful in a public place to be quiet and conscious of those around you and others that are relaxed in public and are happy for others to be too. It’s a culture clash.

No one calls them out (hardly anyone) so they assume people are impressed/fine with it. But everyone doesn't think they're cool but knob heads.

The British used to have the reputation of being very reserved. With the arrival of mobile phones many of them abandoned that reserve overnight. Quite remarkable, really. Do they not grasp that the rest of us can hear every detail of the conversation, or do they not care? Confidentiality seems to count for nothing.

See also: people who conduct business meetings, job interviews and appraisals in public places. Why?

It's not really a culture clash. That's just excusing it. It's ignorance and low level bullying

It's a shame that the adjective considerate doesn't apply.

The culture of selfish arseholes.

Can I add to that builders who put music on massively loudly all day, particularly when it’s sunny and you want to be in the garden but anytime really, particularly on a terraced street where one in two people are working from home.

Thoughtlessness at best, selfishness at worse.

Where I am it’s a culture clash, but that doesn’t mean those that are talking loudly or playing music mean to upset people.
The reality is most people won’t say anything, so those on the phones have little idea that it’s upsetting.
Our student population where I live, many come from countries that don’t expect silence in public, on buses, waiting in queues.
No one is in the right or wrong, but I think it helps to understand it doesn't always come from a disrespectful place.

I don't believe there are cultures where considerate people think everyone else wants to listen to their choice of music from a tinny phone speaker. Every culture has selfish arseholes, however.

Just don’t get it - woman on a packed train out of London one Friday evening conducting a Teams call very loudly with her staff; quite sensitive information being discussed. Why?? Everyone just looked at her.

Britain is known for how quiet and somewhat unfriendly we are in public . Not all countries are like that, it would be pretty weird if it was.

Japan is completely different again in terms behaviour in public.

Every country is different, our attitude I would say is perhaps a bit too reserved in public. How many threads have been on this site about kids in restaurants or those with SN. The public has a pretty low tolerance for noise. It isn’t always helpful.