To demand to know wtf is wrong with people who play music or films out loud on public transport

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WHAT IS THEIR MALFUNCTION

I remember when it first started happening when people first started being able to have mp3s on phones, 15+ years ago and then thank God it seemed to fall out of fashion, but frustratingly it's made a comback post COVID.

The really annoying thing is that most of the time if you say to someone (and DH and I will) 'Excuse me, can you use headphones please?' they have a set on them they could have used the whole time. I think then, some of time it's just people being too bloody lazy to get their headphones out. 🙄

I was on a bus , just me and some kids at the back who were playing music out loud on their phones . So I thought I’d do the same . So I played Ace of spades full blast on my phone for them to enjoy ! I REALLY wanted them to ask me to turn it down ( I might be menopausal)

I so want to go to pound land and hand them out to everyone who does this - but am not brave enough!

so so so selfish not to use headphone

Massive self centred behaviour. However, I do find if addressed politely, people generally respond positively.

"I have a banging headache, would you mind turning that off, please?" Usually results in an apology and peace and quiet.

The temptation to starch the phone and hurl it out the window is strong, but most people respond better to gentle persuasion.

God this absolutely boils my piss.

Peoples self entitlement and lack of manners or consideration has absolutely sky rocketed.

What is it with people holding a phone like a ‘Kardashian’ having a conversation on loud speaker - so everyone around them has to listen to it.

Or listening to a video on loud speaker so everyone else has to listen to it.

Things seem to have got so much worse post Covid.

I politely ask them to put in headphones. I live in a London & am waiting to get stabbed.

I live in a poor, undesirable area of the UK with pretty much zero immigration and I see this often. I'm not sure it's a culture clash: IMO it's a rude person thing and there are plenty of those all over the world.

Maybe we can have a pact to always call it out?

(Except when the perpetrator looks extra hard)

It's got fuck all to do with British people being "too reserved". It's like you're bending over backwards to fit in with your different "cultural" attitudes.

We're not calling it out because we don't want to a torrent of foul mouthed abuse or worse flung at us. The idea that people not using headphones are just sweet innocents who don't realise they are offending others and would be upset to know they were is beyond ludicrous.

I hate it, I used to live in London til last year and never went on public transport without earbuds and trusty white noise app. Does my head in hearing other peoples second hand tinny music or shows, and the scrolling endlessly of reels so you get tiny snaps of obnoxious sound. All ages do it too I've noticed. Also this new obsession with phone conversations on speaker while the phone is held miles from head so the recipient shouts too. Grim.

Oh my god, this has become a real bug bare of mine. Recent flight to a popular holiday destination and so many people had given their children tablets to watch annoying shit on without headphones! At really loud volume too! Wankers!

Not sweet innocents but genuinely some people don’t do it to upset people.

You can choose to see it how you like. This is how I see it in the area I’m from

Got to the point where I feel like Victor Meldrew. Whenever I travel on public transport or planes I always carry earphones. There is always somebody who plays music, talks loudly on the phone or chatting loudly. Drives me nuts!

I've not cracked yet, but one day I may treat the bastards to my novelty hits playlist...

There's Klingons on the starboard now...
I do like a sing-along with gusto

I bet they wouldn't know who John Kettley is. He's a weatherman, and so is Michael Fish.

I usually say something.. god I love getting older and kickass 😂

Yep, invariably when I (railway guard) challenge someone on this, I get "well I don't see anyone complaining". Of course he doesn't pay attention to someone stopping to quietly thank me when they're leaving the train.

I maintain a hard line: "switch it off, or get off".

Where I am, it's the middle aged drunks and gobby teenagers. Oh, and mothers who inflict Paw Patrol at full volume on the rest of the carriage. The latter group are the most likely to kick up a fuss when I tell them to mute it.

Nothing to do with foreign cultures, they're almost always White British.

You could add Disco Duck, and enthusiastically quack along.

Was in a quiet carriage on train once and a man started singing really loudly when I asked him to stop one person agreed with me every one said nothing , he carried on for about an hr then made some nasty comment when he got off .

Please include that 80s classic 'Snooker Loopy' 😃

I love it when they do that and always try to join in the conversation, 😜

I was in a quiet carriage once coming back to London from Leeds on a day when Leeds had been playing at home. The train was rammed with football supporters who were all very merry indeed. The quiet carriage was anything but for several stops. Then a woman opposite me started a series of long phone conversations. I particularly remember when she rang her partner and he put their young child on so she could tell him off for some misdemeanour. On and on and on, but eventually she got off too. Throughout this period I had been as quiet as a mouse, but I admit I had eventually forgotten that it was supposed to be the QC, so just outside King's Cross I rang my husband to let him know I'd be home soon. I probably spoke for 5 seconds, and not loudly. For the first time on the whole trip the man in the seat beyond mine rose up and bellowed 'THIS IS THE QUIET CARRIAGE!' I assume I was the straw that broke the camel's back, and also the only one of the whole lot he felt confident wouldn't get stroppy with him.

I was on a long coach journey at the weekend. I was looking forward to relaxing and reading during the journey.

The coach driver decided to play a pop music radio station through the speakers on the bus and he was singing along badly, then a man two rows in front decided to watch something loud in Chinese which had animated chatter and lots of loud canned laughter in it. Someone else asked him to turn it down but he said he had to turn it up to listen to it over the top of the coach music.

My head was spinning by the time I got off!

@crockofshite I was on the Eurostar last year and this really annoying American woman was having a high volume phone conversation on her phone about various intimate relationships, including hers. The man behind started doing a running commentary. She did eventually have the sense to shut up.

Oh, and there was also the time we were put in the quiet carriage (not by choice, but it was OK with us) travelling from Glasgow to London just before a big music festival. The train was packed. Three young men in the QC were travelling together to the festival and got on with clinking carrier bags full of tins and bottles, but hadn't got seats together. They didn't let this stop them talking loudly all the way down and telling questionable jokes. Their view was that they hadn't asked to be in the QC, so they weren't going to be quiet. A golden moment I always treasure is when a small but tough Glaswegian lady said loudly and fiercely soon after we started 'This is the quiet carriage!' and the biggest and most vocal of the festivalgoers (wearing a fine kilt) said cheerfully 'Well, it's no very quiet noo!' Unarguable. That was a long journey.

A staggering lack of self-awareness