To be sick of outdoorsy men on dating apps

[Latoureiffel123]

I'm sure they're just trying to seem more interesting/exciting and I can't criticise them for that, but has anyone noticed that 99% of men allegedly climb a mountain every other weekend and are always camping?

I like going on walks, and I have climbed a couple of mountains. I'm a sporty person I guess but I also like just sitting in and watching Netflix!

I don't like camping at all, give me a hotel any day (not saying I'm made of money, it's usually a Travelodge or similar)

It just puts me off a little. I like a balance, but majority of men on there seem to live for the outdoors, and large swathes of them also claim to have been to 50+ countries with only a backpack and staying in various hostels, again not my idea of fun.

Not sit on their arse but there are hundreds of other hobbies and activities that don't involve physical activity. I can't actually remember what my now DP put on his profile but we go to castles and antique shops, museums and plays. He reads and plays a lot of board games, D&D etc. I don't think any of that was on there.

I think balance is key. Sitting in front of the TV isn't desirable; however, an obsessively outdoorsy person might not have other interests and that doesn't work for me, personally. I like sport but I also like reading, films, art etc.

Sorry, off topic but this made me chuckle

If I was single I would be very interested in that kind of man, but we're all different.

Nah.
Laughable 💩.
But then, I'm in a position where I don't need
to "date" anymore and couldn't be happier for that.

It’s been great for my friend who is ridiculously outdoorsy. She’s met a few blokes and had good relationships, now in a long term one, they have a lot of hiking and wild camping weekends.
not for me though!

I often think on this when I read this type of post.

The number of DWs posting that they are run ragged with no time of their own because their DH needs 20 hours a week and most weekends for his hobby.

oh unclench. You are dating anyone and everyone just because they accept your invitation? Or you pretend you do on an anonymous forum only 😂

Of course people have different standards and interests.

The point of the thread was not even about "outdoorsy" people, but about men LYING about being outdoorsy.

Nope. I accept invitations only from those I'm interested in but I didn't start threads slagging off thise I didn't like.

In fact my partner of 18 months and I liked each others profiles due to the hiking pictures on each and we go hiking together.

My biggest deal breaker is men with children. That's non negotiable.

You'll probably be rejected multiple times due to your annoying kids but outdoorsy men is a deal breaker.

Of course I am rejected for many reasons, that's what I wrote earlier. I am being judged probably a lot worst than I judge others.

So what? I don't need pity dating. I am happy with my job, hobbies and interests, I couldn't care less if they put off some people. Some men find me very attractive, other men.. really don't 😂

Sounds like we touched a nerve because of the "outdoorsy" element. Why could you possibly care if random strangers are not interested by such profiles, or by your own profile?

But, you're allowed to be judgemental and discriminatory when it comes to dating and relationships!

A 50 year old backpacking is a bit sad too, by that age you should have the finances to support a better lifestyle.

It's nothing to do with finances. We could afford to stay in hotels or go abroad but we both love camping. Its not a financial decision. Its the change in pace, the peace, the people, the freedom... I don't do backpacking nowadays (also 50) but I don't fair well in the the heat/sun so don't go abroad and a 'luxury hotel' would be my idea of Hell tbh!

People do just like different things but it's not a reflection on the individual or their financial status. And nothing to look down on people for.

OP, now that you have all these replies you'll be able to go through all those profiles and do some matchmaking!
I've never used online dating but if I did, I would prefer an outdoorsy man over one who preferred cars and nightlife any day.

My ex-DH recently started online dating. His immediate impression was that all the women on there are only interested in guys who abseil, cold water swim, or fly light aircraft. He prefers to eat and watch TV!

Surely, most people are attracted to a fairly active lifestyle? I can't imagine dating someone who just wanted to sit on their arse.

I think men and women have specific ideas about the sort of relationship they want 'next' that are very much informed by the relationship they had last.

If a woman was married to someome who she perceived as being dull, no get up and go, always at the office, lazy, couch potato, always at the pub, whatever then they think next time, they'd like someone different. Hence, your ex's perception of all women wanting active men.

Men are the same. Their perception is that they've dome the wife and kids bit, weekends dominated by children's activities and birthday parties, ferrying teens around etc. That relationship clearly didn't work and so they are looking for someone they perceive to be very different to their ex wife and so they say what they think is going to attract that sort of woman.

The reality is that most people want aomeome who enjoys a range and variety of things and most people do.

You are sat reading words typed into a computer screen by a stranger. Looking at pictures they deem to be the best representation of themselves (man or women).

Surely 99% of it must be taken as bullshit and only proper conversation can lead you to any meaningful conclusions.

Basically, it boils down to liking their pictures and hoping that one or two have are able to hold a reasonable level of conversation. After that you might be talking to a 50yr old, 18 stone virgin with hygiene issues.

Surely, most people are attracted to a fairly active lifestyle? I can't imagine dating someone who just wanted to sit on their arse.

reading a lot of threads on here, I don't believe most people actually like a fairly active lifestyle. How many threads about women (usually women) miffed because their partner has no interest in spending an evening watching tv together?

How many posts from people enraged because their partner want to exercise several times a week, while they have no interest in doing similar ever?

How many posts about people who want to spend their weekends in their pjs doing nothing with their kids?

How many horrified comments because other children are "too busy" and how they should just spend their free time at home doing nothing?

How many posts about people having "no time" to exercise, but plenty to be on MN 😂

Love this! What they clearly don’t realise is that a photo of them cooking or doing DIY would probably get more swipes.

FWIW my DP had a hiking pic as his main one, some other outdoors ones and one of him eating crisps at work - it was the last one I was drawn to, and it turns out he does much more crisp eating than hiking!

I would swipe past anyone who showed themselves in Lycra on a bike, or at the gym. Probably missed out on lots of lovely fellas for that, but I’m plus size and don’t want someone whose main hobbies are fitness related, mainly because I don’t want to be judged, but also because my ex was a keen cyclist and it took over his weekends.

DP does still go for a big hike maybe twice a year with friends, and runs in the mornings but he does it quietly and without fanfare 😂

@Latoureiffel123

Please bore off with your bitchy replies. Thanks

You seem confused. You have said that he chose not to continue seeing you. That's ok. That's allowed. No one has to date someone else. There is nothing you have said to suggest he was rude in any way.
You have then decided that this is evidence that outdoorsy men are somehow flawed

I'm not the bitchy one here.

Do any women actively seek a man who has caught a large fish?

For me a big fish photo would be a hard no.

Men on dating apps:

Criticised for being lazy
Criticised for being too adventurous
Criticised for being independent
Criticised for being reliant
Criticised for being too aloof
Criticised for love-bombing
Criticised for being unfit
Criticised for too much exercising
Criticised for not being ambitious
Criticised for working too hard
Criticised for having been married
Criticised for not settling down

OK...

Where are you seeing these men? I bloody love camping and a good hike, even better if there’s a pub at the end for a good roast. And dog owners, yes please. Don’t want anyone with pots of money and a flash car, those do nothing for me.

you can say exactly the same about women

I wouldn't necessarily put off by somebody with a fish photo. It would likely mean that they aren't allergic to mornings, don't clump around with the TV on at 98dB and have at least some degree of physical dexterity and ability. They're also less likely to be fond of getting shitfaced and off their tits on coke in clubs every weekend, preferring peace, quiet and fresh air - or be too squeamish to cook or clean up, as if they can stick three maggots or a lump of spam and a piece of sweetcorn onto a hook, use a disgorger and return a Tench unharmed, they're not likely to have conniptions over shoving a packet of Paxo up a chicken's arse and putting it into the oven and won't want to replace the front garden with tarmac and the back garden with Astroturf because of mud and bugs.

Perhaps they enjoy it and it's a choice. I'm 54 and about to go "back packing" with DH in a remote location for the first time since our back packing honeymoon 23 years ago. We've spent the last two decades raising kids and now we're starting to do our own thing again.

Our first trip without the kids was to a smart hotel in a European city, it's possible to like both camping and a bit of comfort. Generally I'm not interested in luxury accommodation, it seems like a waste of money.

Not the last one, presumably.

How unpleasant

Are you always so judgy and smug ?