How many sleepovers will your 8-12 have this holiday?

[Dino11]

AIBU to think the amount of sleepovers expected these days is a bit much?
how many sleepovers (at your home) will your 8-12 year girls have this summer holiday?

just wondering if the amount we do is ‘average’ now?

DD12, loads. But her closest friends have been her friends since age 5 so are very much part of our extended family. I don't behave any differently around them and they know us all well enough.

She had her next door neighbour over for one
She'll go over there for one
Unfortunately I've never had any success with other parents/kids coming over for play never mind sleepovers. Which i find a bit sad really

Maybe 1-2? I have boys of that age

Probably 3 or 4

None. So far anyway. Eldest is nearly 14, youngest is 8. One in the middle. No plans to change that any time soon

I used to have loads at that age. My ds9 has never expressed any interest in having any. I wonder if it's to do with the fact that his dad and I are divorced so he goes between houses enough as it is!

My dd 9 had had one this summer she won’t sleep elsewhere and shares a bedroom with dd14 so can only have a sleepover when her sister is doing something else.

This summer none other than with grandparents. We’re massively busy tbh so don’t have any free weekends so struggle to fit in. We’ll do one at some point between now and October half term for my 8yo’s bestie and there is a sleepover party coming up post summer but we’re definitely not at the point where we’re inundated.

We probably averaged 1-2 per week with our older girl at that age. We split custody one week on one week off with their mum and I think she did about the same on her weeks. I was the same from age 7/8 on, so it seems perfectly reasonable to me. They don't get the full "slumber party treatment" for regular sleepovers - normal dinner, normal bedtime, normal behavior expectations - so it isn't hugely disruptive for anyone.

But I also think it's very household, child and friendship specific and there isn't one right way. Our boy didn't start having regular sleepovers until he was in secondary and it's never been as frequent, and we have friends & relatives whose girls (or their girls' friend groups) aren't big on sleepovers.

I have no idea how anyone is voting since you haven't said in your OP what your idea of the average amount is.

Sorry just realised you asked about girls!

3 in the last 5 days!! Not usually that many, but I'm going to say probably 2 - 3 a week averaged across the hols

Ds aged 12 has had 1 so far (here) and I imagine maybe will have 1 more. I think the girls his age are more into sleepovers though than the boys.

He has also been away on an organised kids holiday, stayed at my parents with his cousins and will probably have 1 more sleepover at theirs and we are going away with a friend and her dc of same age for a few days. So quite a few overnights with other DC one way or another.

Also same as @cadburyegg that he goes between my house and his dads already so doesn’t tend to want too many sleepovers at others.

None, as it’s not a thing where we live.

I find all these responses so strange. My kids have had regular sleepovers since they were around aged 6. Possibly younger with my youngest.
They are teens now and most weekends during term time we either have an extra child or 2 or have lost a child or 2 to another house.
In the holidays it is several times a week.
It’s completely normal in my area for kids to sleep at each other houses.
It is so routine that it doesn’t tend to mean staying up too late or any raucous behaviour. It just means having an extra person to remind to brush their teeth before bed.

Fucking hell. My ds is 10 and won’t be having any sleepovers. Why is this a necessity?

Mine has had 1 so far. She’s 11. She might have one more, especially if someone else invites her. But I’m not well at the moment (awaiting cancer treatment) and she is away on holiday for 2 weeks towards the end.

Personally, I hate sleepovers. They used to be fun. Now they all have a phone and other parents just leave them to stay up all night on their phones. Or if they come to my house, I take phones away and then I have to deal with kids sulking and parents messaging me at all hours because they can’t get in touch with them.

None. Ds isn't bothered at all which I am very relieved about.

None. We don't allow them.

None.
Dd (oldest of 3dc) is 10. Never been mentioned in her friendship group. hosting other children overnight regularly would ruin my summer. We do our own family things.
I am minding their 2 cousins until 9.30 on Friday night and toying briefly with the idea of letting them stay but honestly it just sounds like a whole load of hassle that would ruin the weekend as we'd all be tired and cranky.

None

Who called it a necessity? It's something many children & teens enjoy and get something out of. Others don't, or it isn't something that works for their family regularly.

My children like them, they learn about hosting and being at other people's houses, and my DH and I get to know their friends better. It also tends to ease some natural sibling friction during the holidays by way of a distraction. But if it's not for your family then that's perfectly ok too.

I don’t think it’s a necessity. It just tends to be when the kids have been together during the day, get invited to stay for dinner, then kids are having a nice time and rather than pick up or drop off, it’s just suggested they stay the night.

Not a fan of sleepovers for no real reason. My girls are teens now but at that age it was no more than 2 or 3, if that, for the whole summer.

None at our house, as we also have an autistic child who is up half the night so I can’t manage them. 10 year old won’t go to any as she doesn’t like them. 9 year old has been to one at her best friend’s house, and might stay there again over the course of the holiday. That’s it.

None for DD(9) here but she is planning one for her birthday later in the year