..to unfriend a friend for not paying up?

[Sinderalla]

This is a long story but to cut it short.... in my opinion there are two kinds of people in this life, givers & takers
I'm a giver, I get more satisfaction from giving than receiving.
However, I let myself get used. Despite the warnings from several other friends, I guess I felt sorry for her.

Anyway, booked a holiday, an agreement was made that everyone would pay what they owe no matter the circumstances, if for any chance someone couldn't go they still had to pay what they owed.
That said, the one person money had to be chased off relentlessly is the one that can't go due to childcare, She owes over a hundred pounds, which she's promised to pay numerous times and the date came and went and she didn't pay.
I've messaged today asking for it, if she doesn't pay it the other passengers and myself will have to.
AIBU to go my separate ways from her?

If she agreed to pay before she should pay. But surely with enough notice of cancellation there can be a refund?

If she agreed to pay before she should pay. But surely with enough notice of cancellation there can be a refund?

I'll ring and see about a refund but would it not affect the rest of us?

Ofcourse she should pay. That being said I always try to avoid these situations by collecting money before making bookings if I dont know the people well.

YANBU. But also, if she's not going and able to get a refund how would that impact you? We're people sharing rooms?

Obviously the refund potential depends on what are you booking. Individual rooms? Shared rooms? Whole villa? Some transport?

I’d say unfortunately you’ve learnt an important lesson here. 1) if others tell you she’s a CF, she most likely is 2) if you purchase anything make sure you get the money beforehand

'Despite the warnings from several other friends....'

If no refund and she doesn't pay up then it falls on your shoulders to supplement her part of the holiday as the others warned you about her .

We go in a month

I've known her for over 15 years 😭

Yes
All same booking, all same room.

About her using me over the years as I was always doing things for her, she would let me down when I asked her for something

Warnings were about how she treated me.
Has never not paid what she owed, took some chasing but always got it.

I’m guessing it’s a situation where you pay for the accommodation/room not necessarily the amount of people?

Say it’s £500 and sleeps five, there’s five of you going so you’ve worked it out between yourselves it’s £100 each. If I’m right and this is the situation, I doubt you’d get a refund of £100 as you’re not really paying pp you’re paying for the room. So two people could go and pay £250 each, if they wanted, three people could go and pay £166 each, and so on (again, I’ve just made it up that it costs £500, but you get my drift). What I mean is, it’s not like you’ve all booked an individual per person deposit, it’s a group deposit, so I doubt you’d get anything back. If she doesn’t pay, it now means the rest of the group will have to pay more to cover her £100, is that right?

She sounds awful. I would keep hounding and hounding and hounding until you get this money. Be prepared to let the friendship go, you can’t be friends with someone who thinks that’s an acceptable way to treat their friend!

"I'm a giver" lol