..to unfriend a friend for not paying up?

[Sinderalla]

This is a long story but to cut it short.... in my opinion there are two kinds of people in this life, givers & takers
I'm a giver, I get more satisfaction from giving than receiving.
However, I let myself get used. Despite the warnings from several other friends, I guess I felt sorry for her.

Anyway, booked a holiday, an agreement was made that everyone would pay what they owe no matter the circumstances, if for any chance someone couldn't go they still had to pay what they owed.
That said, the one person money had to be chased off relentlessly is the one that can't go due to childcare, She owes over a hundred pounds, which she's promised to pay numerous times and the date came and went and she didn't pay.
I've messaged today asking for it, if she doesn't pay it the other passengers and myself will have to.
AIBU to go my separate ways from her?

I’d stay friends, kill her with kindness and understanding about cancelling even offer to help set up a payment plan and then once I have all the money. Drop like a hot stone.

No
It's a package holiday for a group and price was shown in "per person"

Even the payment plan would take a lot of chasing.
I'm going to just pay it- AIBU tho to put her out of my life

YANBU. She's been unspeakably rude.

@gardenroombeauty
Some of your questions are irrelevant to my question.
Like I said. She has never not paid.
I can't remember what else you wrote and I'm not sure how to get back to answer all in one message

That amount is only a balance

Yes adult woman sharing an apartment.
What is PGL?

In other words, you have let her use you as a doormat for the past 15 years.

Okay, was only trying to be helpful 🤷🏻‍♀️

@gardenroombeauty
Most of the answers to all your questions are in this post if you want to start from the start.

What are the cancellation T&Cs? If the prices were per person then surely you should be able to cancel one person and not need to pay for them not going.

Things happen that people cancel holidays, you've a month to go it's not like a last minute thing that you use holiday insurance cover.

i’m guessing this isn’t a luxury break!

What does that have to do with literally anything?

This.

It would be better to check with the travel agent before repeatedly demanding the final outstanding amount, she may only have to lose the deposit and this could just be a lot of needless stress and drama.

Jesus! All the trying to pick on OP’s holiday plans. WTF?

OP - Agree with others that checking whether her spot can be canceled without putting more costs on the rest of the group would be the most appropriate first step.

But generally, if someone doesn’t pay you back money you’ve had to pay out because they had promised to pay then didn’t, of course it’s not unreasonable to no longer consider them a friend. But it’s also fine to do so simply because you realise they’ve been treating you badly for years. You don’t have to have a line in the sand.

It’s worth asking yourself what has kept you friends for that length of time? Will those factors still be around? And how can you extricate yourself from them so that you have more freedom to better choose who you are friends with without putting up with years of bad treatment?

@Sinderalla So it's not clear - but has the whole package holiday now been paid for and the friend still owes £100? If so, perhaps it would be helpful to contact the Travel Agent who you booked through and see if any refund can be given for one person, or whether that would affect any of the rest of you? If you can and it doesn't affect anyone else then go for that.

If not, then no, I wouldn't cut her off until she pays you the balance of the cash. You've said she has never NOT paid before, so I would at least wait until you have the £100. What you do after that is up to you and how you feel about the relationship over all. 15 years is a long time to have to deal with someone like her, but only you can say how you want to deal with it. IMO - either staying friends or not would be reasonable, depending on your own feelings about the matter

yes she should pay, that's not in question.
Sadly, what people should do is often not what they actually do and all the shoulds in the world won't make her pay up.
Small claims court might, if you can prove she owes it.

Perhaps you should explain why you think it's relevant to know how much she's already paid? Seeing as you're the only one who thinks it matters. The friend owes the £100 whether she's already paid £200 or £2000.

Thanks so much everyone.
Easy jet charge the price of the holiday as cancellation fee.

She paid the money.

I feel so sorry for her, again.
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