..to unfriend a friend for not paying up?

[Sinderalla]

This is a long story but to cut it short.... in my opinion there are two kinds of people in this life, givers & takers
I'm a giver, I get more satisfaction from giving than receiving.
However, I let myself get used. Despite the warnings from several other friends, I guess I felt sorry for her.

Anyway, booked a holiday, an agreement was made that everyone would pay what they owe no matter the circumstances, if for any chance someone couldn't go they still had to pay what they owed.
That said, the one person money had to be chased off relentlessly is the one that can't go due to childcare, She owes over a hundred pounds, which she's promised to pay numerous times and the date came and went and she didn't pay.
I've messaged today asking for it, if she doesn't pay it the other passengers and myself will have to.
AIBU to go my separate ways from her?

I think Pitty kept us friends.
I feel sorry for her. I think she's a good person but not possessing many friend qualities.
I'm sad that I think this is the end of the friendship

@gardenroombeauty
I'm lead on the holiday, I know exactly what everyone has paid.
I've been conscious not to disclose many details.
Which is why it's vague, however. You have as much info as you need to answer the original question.

It sounds as though the friend has previous form for being flakey about paying and commitments. Knowing that you should all have got the money out of her hot little hand before booking.

leopards don’t change their spots, and flakey friends don’t change their ways.

delighted to hear she has paid up.

If I'm arranging for other people I only ever book for those who have already paid up - giving plenty of notice - so if I don't have the money in advance I don't book for people who still owe.

I think she will pay you, at the moment she is strapped for cash and avoiding you but will pay up.

Glad the troll has been rumbled. Enjoy your holiday OP!

If @gardenroombeauty wasn’t the banned maniac from yesterday @headpillowhit who laid into OPs across multiple threads, I’ll eat my shoes. 😂

I think that is very sensible but I would also expect the people I did know well to pay before booking.

One person booking for friends is a great convenience for everyone else and ensures they are kept in a group for travel, seats, rooms. It can be time consuming and their friends should be grateful for that and not expect them to effectively lend them money too.

Sorry OP, I know that’s a bit too late for you this time but if you ever feel kind enough to organise something in the future keep these posts in mind.

I hope she does the right thing and pays you what she owes you.

Of course she needs to pay.

I find your idea that people are either givers or takers absolutely bizarre however. What unpleasant people you must be meeting.

I just wonder, if you do decide to cut her off how would that go down with the rest of the group? Do they feel the same or would she continue to be part of the group and make it awkward for you?
Personally I think she should pay up, she agreed to do that, so she has an obligation.

That's great she paid, but for future reference, the holiday company may say the price is "per person" but that'll be based on eg 4 people sharing an apartment, taking up seats on the plane etc. So, if one person drops out, those costs still requires to be paid

That's sad that she took all that chasing and so it feels like she's using you.

To avoid the awkwardness of having to drop her as a friend altogether and a change to the group dynamic, just stop messaging her individually and in a group situation be polite and pleasant as if nothing has changed.

Then never agree to be lead on a holiday booking ever again.

Definitely time to step away op.