I found a thread on this subject but couldn't post because it was too old so I'm making a new threat long story short a girl I went to school with bullied me yes later she contacted me on social media and was sorry and we have met up a couple of times for coffee on the Old thread people were advising not to pursue it even if the person has changed and a person who bullied me has got some quite awful health problems and she said to me that she was a buddy because she was bullied but by the same token I was bullied but didn't make me turn out into a bully so I think when she said that it was just an excuse adults we have fairly sling Common so I don't see how a friendship can be pursued