do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

[buggeroo]

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

@Choochoo21 surely the point is that if this poster is late home her DH can check where she was doing home visits in the community and judge whether something has happened to prevent her from leaving? Home visits can be risky and not everyone works for an organisation that has robust lone working policies.

Nobody needs to know where their partner is at all times.

There’s an assumption here that people with the app are looking at ‘all times’ to see where their partner is. Not in our case. I might look up where my husband is once a week, and that’s when he’s off-road cycling on his own. I might look to check he’s not stationary in a wood (this has happened before when he’s gone over his handle bars). Or if he gets up at 3am to go to Heathrow for an early flight, I might look when I wake up to see he’s arrived. It’s not for ‘checking-up’ because of some sort of paranoia. We don’t have that sort of untrusting relationship.

Why would the time of flight make it more likely to be dangerous?

3am for a flight is no different to 3pm!

Location tracking does not replace normal human interactions. It is just an additional tool. Like CCTV or dashcam. I would not need it and don't notice it most of the time, but when it is needed, it could be a life saver.

Of course I don't know my dh is safe just from knowing his location. But because he told me he was going to be x at y time (we do talk to each other 😱) or I know this is the day he goes into the office, the app will tell me if he is in an unexpected place. I will make a mental note or decide to call him or shrug it off. Or I see he is at a client location and decide to call him later. If he really was in trouble, I would have information for the police as to his whereabouts.

How utterly controlling of him! All the "I'm worried about you" is just a rubbish excuse!

Yes we do, find it very useful for seeing when other one will be home, or if they made it to destination safely

I’m single, but have adult DC on Find My Friends and they have me on it and various friends.

It is useful when meeting up, travelling etc.

Oh, and that time DD called me drunk as a skunk at 1am and didn’t actually know where she was when trying to arrange for me to collect her…

Is it good to know when they're getting home, so you can get rid of the OW or OM?

Yes

Yes we do, but part of it is that I have a job where I’m lone working in a potentially hazardous environment.

We do. It’s really useful as DH gets home at a different time every day so I can make sure dinner isn’t ready too early by checking if he’s left work or not. I imagine it would be a terrible idea if you had any trust issues or something to hide but if these don’t apply then it’s just an occasionally useful tool

This 100%.

Who has time to stalk the app 😂

I know loads of people who do home visits and don’t get tracked by their partners.

If she’s running late then her DH knowing her location isn’t going to tell him whether she is safe or not.

There’s no way he can judge whether something has happened to prevent her leaving a clients home by simply knowing her location.

If he’s that worried about her safety then it would be better for her to text him saying - arrived at Xs address and then text him saying leaving Xs address.

But I can guarantee he wouldn’t want her doing that and would prefer to spend his day checking her location instead.

I asked that earlier in the thread and oddly enough, never got a response!

No, so I can start logging off from my WFH job, or start making tea, or run round and do the tidying I said I’d do while he was out 😂 it would also be terrible for that as I don’t get a notification when he leaves places, and I think it’d be pretty boring for the hypothetical OM if I spent the whole time we were together watching DH’s location.

And knowing my location has zero bearing on whether I’m having an affair. I WFH and DH works until a certain time, so him seeing I’m home says nothing. Likewise, he could well be shagging at work. It’s nothing to do with trust.

it’s also useful if I think, I’ve not heard from DH today and the radio just said there’s been a crash on his route - I can at least see his phone made it safely to work without disturbing his day. He’d have no issue with me texting or ringing to check, but the technology means I don’t need to…

It's a really dumb question.

We do. 99% of the time I use it to see if he's on his way home from work as he often forgets to call 😂

Other 1% is usually when away and we've split up to do different things. Easier to find each other. Particularly if signal is poor.

Makes sense for us and never been any issues

Of course. It’s so handy.

"but when it is needed, it could be a life saver."

Well- my dd used to like to hack out alone-and we turned tracking on on her phone when she did that-because there was a foreseeable possibility that she might end up knocked out on the ground. But it was on for that couple of hours only and off again immediately. But those are pretty unusual circumstances. DS was never tracked.

@PoetryPlease why is it dumb?

Would you be happy if your teenage daughter was being tracked by her boyfriend?

I’d never be happy with any person being forced to do anything.

I control the money in our relationship. My husband is happy with this arrangement. I wouldn’t want any male or female forced into this arrangement.

My friends are a bit kinky in the bedroom. They both consent. I wouldn’t like to be forced into that arrangement, but doesn’t mean it isn’t a great thing for them.

My sister isn’t married. I wouldn’t like her to be forced into a marriage because it works for other people. I also don’t want to see marriage banned.

See also, religion, abortion and same sex or heterosexual relationships. I wouldn’t want ”my daughter” forced into any of those, but I do want them to be options for her and everyone else.

What a stupid question.

@PoetryPlease "It's a really dumb question."

It isn't, you know. I don't want my dd to think that being tracked is normal.