do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

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just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

I would say that the current riots are an awful reflection on society.

Tracking loved ones I would say is sensible.

How many teens do you know who would dump their phones?… More likely turn location off and come up with a bullshit excuse

I was referring to the additional quote that your replied to

I loved seeing where my ds was when living and working abroad.

@Magn01a I can totally get on baord with this, long distance is hard enough & if this makes things easier I think it's a good thing

My kids do figure things out. Brilliantly. Fat lot I can do when my son is abroad however the fact is we live in a far more global world with youngsters having far more access to strangers at an earlier age via Snapchat etc, Ubers, food deliveries….

My kids requested it and I think it gives them peace of mind if something difficult should ever happen. I’m far too busy to follow their every move or asleep. Travelling son also has air tags in luggage. He had to sort all sorts of problems out when travelling abroad and coped admirably. I was always asleep and he’d be far too busy to update me with an issue anyway.

Was so lovely seeing him move round NYC in all my favourite places. He’d FT sometimes too. 😊I feel for our youngsters growing up in this tech era but there are some wonderful things to it too.

No. I don't tell him everywhere I go and vice versa

Jesus, I don't know how my parents coped when my only sibling and I lived in New York nearly 30 years ago and one phone calk a week was the extent of our contact. We got on with our busy lives and they with theirs. If my children were abroad working/living I would assume more contact than that given the means at our disposal now but would absolutely not want to know where they are at any given time or vice versa, how intrusive and inappropriate. You become an adult, you live your own independent adult life which most assuredly does not include anyone else knowing where you are all the time, I cannot understand anyone wanting otherwise..

Yes and with DS too. We don't use it particularly often but it comes in handy. DS can see how far away we are if we're picking him up and driving. We can estimate the cooking of tea if one is on their way home from work. I go out walking a lot on my own so I like the security aspect.

I have Life360 with the kids but DH has chosen not to join. I respect his choice. If either of us is going on a long journey we may offer or request to share location on WhatsApp as it is only for a set time.

It’s not about coping. I’m more than able to cope thanks,ditto my son. My dad was always working abroad and unable even to phone when I was a child. Big deal. Not preferable to what we have now I can assure you.

My son requested the app for security in an emergency. I most certainly do get on with my busy day at work and wasn’t able to track him all day. It was just nice to dive down and see him walking around familiar landmarks I love now and again. We like each other and he missed us sometimes so he FaceTimed. He also did a bit of shopping for me and I got to pick what I wanted from the shelves. Tech can be amazing. 😊

No. I do with my daughter though, not my son (though it would have come in handy when he called me at 2.30am lost after a night out)! I did manage to track his phone down using 'find my phone' when he lost it out shopping. It was handed in to M&S which he didn't even go into!

I did with my controlling and abusive ex.
I don't with DP. it's never really come up, if we need to know where the other is we ring and ask. I can't really think of a reason we would need it tbh. We know where eachother is or if we don't it's becuase we don't really need to.

I used to use it to make sure dinner was ready for the second my ex got thorugh the door, or his bath was run etc. He used it to know my every move. Turned out he also used to watch my dashcam footage aswell. And still tracked my car after we split.

My DP doesn't expect dinner ready as soon as he gets in, becuase our household doesn't revolve around him.

@theleafandnotthetree I don't think it's about not coping or tracking them every moment while they're away but more a case of a connection, say before bed or whatever, it hadn't occured to me before @Magn01a mentioned it about her kids & their dad

My son is 7 so I've a way to go but I like to think that when, inevitably, he decides to travel, I could see his dot on the map if I'm having a wobble, like The Marauders Maap in Harry Potter

No, I wouldn't agree to this as I was in an abusive relationship previously and the idea that my partner felt the need to track my whereabouts would trigger anxiety in me. Likewise I don't feel the need to follow his.

@oObyeOo "How many teens do you know who would dump their phones?… More likely turn location off and come up with a bullshit excuse"

You make my case for me!

The implication underlying yours and some others posters is that if this is some kind of measure of how much you like, love, care for your child's wellbeing. It really isn't. It's just a tool, not one I or anyone I am close to would ever want to use but not because I don't care enough or am not interested in broad terms. Though honestly, the minutae their everyday life I wouldn't be interested in.

That’s ridiculous. We’re simply replying to the quite unpleasant accusations that because we use modern day tech which works and gives advantages to us as a family we’re in crap marriages and are over protective/ over invested parents.

Thanks for explaining. I had read that but it is not relevant to location tracking. You are taking a side swipe at the poster just for the sake of it because presumably you have no better argument to make on location tracking.

So essentially a luddite.

You and other posters have never used the technology so why should anyone else. Detractors of location tracking would rather think up all kinds of sinister reasons and insist that location trackers deluding themselves as to their marriage and trust than accept that they are simply behind the times and people are increasingly finding location tracking a practical tool for everyday life.

Hence they spend an inordinate about of time and energy casting doubt on its practical benefits and insisting the olden ways are good enough and dissing our marriages and parenting. It is almost laughable.

I am sure they would be able to save mankind singlehandedly by not going with the tide and adopting this technology.

King Canute comes to mind.

@oObyeOo

"How many teens do you know who would dump their phones?… More likely turn location off and come up with a bullshit excuse"

We have Life 360 on a voluntary basis but on the understanding of "if I can't see where you are then you can't see where I am "

DD initially refused to share location which I was perfectly fine with. But after having missed the school bus a couple of times and having no idea where I was to collect her or what time I would be arriving and no ability to call me as I was driving and getting massively panicked, she backtracked on her decision, which was equally fine.

@blueshoes was it you who admitted that you do it so your husband won't huff and be miffed if you've not dove your "chores"?

That's not a good reason to have it!

Well honestly, I do think that anyone who uses this with adult children are over-invested, over-protective and it is not a dynamic I would ever want or encourage. I literally don't get it, why would you want or need to know where another adult that you're not responsible for is at any given time, just why?