do you and DH share your locations on your phones?

[buggeroo]

just curious really. DH and I have never done this, and I wondered if that is the norm?

Absolutely not (and I don’t think it’s ever every occurred to either of us).

Why would you even do this? Do you can track / spy on your partner?

No it wasn't me.

You are focusing on minutiae because you are straining to come up with real reasons against location tracking.

You don't get it. That bit is true.

Is it so hard to imagine that other people organise their lives differently using simple tools available which they use in a way which is not obsessive tracking that you seem to be fixated on?

No we don't have an app, but usually we are at work or if out send a picture here and there. Sometime we share a location, but not because either have asked, it's usually just to show we've arrived safely at the location.

We would both have no problem with an app however, neither have anything to hide

My adult kids are late teens. Don’t really care if you don’t want to know where your teen daughter is if she needs you late at night or if your son doesn’t want you to know his movements abroad should he get into strife or if as a group you want to know who is nearest to pick up shopping or do lifts, how far on journeys back, made trains, got meals etc. We’re a group rubbing along and looking out for each other and it suits us st the moment. It’s incredibly useful and less hassle than texting.

Your not getting it doesn’t really negate its usefulness for others. 🤷‍♀️

@blueshoes I'm struggling to come either reakxseasons not to have it

It's as simple as this...... I don't want it

That's how simple it really is.

struggling to come up with reasons! What a very funny thing to say.

@Magn01a don't act like others are bad parents with the faux if you don't want to know!

I'm sure your daughter will very soon turn that tracker off, who wants their mum to know their round their boyfriend shagging?

You're going to have to cut those strings soon.

What are you on about? I’m being attacked for having it and asked why. I have replied why it works for us.

My kids asked for it and set it up. It’s a working tool for all of us. Gone are the days when I text round, get unanswered, pull over to text, wait for reply, go back and forth etc. I just look and see who is nearest or where people are. Send out “ you are nearest, can you get “etc. My dd knows if she gets into strife if out at night we’ll know where she was, they know there is no point asking for a lift or pick up if I’ve left work….

None of us are in the game of needing to hide stuff and it’s all voluntary. We all find it useful. If that offends that’s your issue not mine.

@Magn01a I see, you've got the sort of children that don't bother answering texts, mine had better manners.

So yes I suppose it would be useful for you.

They do answer texts but answering immediately for anybody isn’t always possible.

You are unbelievable. You attack and scrutinise our choices whilst accusing me of criticising your parenting when I reply in defence and then accuse my kids of being rude.

Jog on.

What a great example of a certain kind of person who thinks they / their family are so much more polite than other people, while being incredibly rude! What a staggering lack of self awareness.

It's quite funny really.

I used to get annoyed with SIL doing this, till I realised how absurd it is to be so incredibly rude while talking about manners and it's funny to me now.

Ok, no problems. Mistook you for a deeper thinker.

@llamalines if you think a family is perfect because they don't rudely ignore messages, you've got very low standards. Perhaps taking some of SILs advice would be a good idea?

Why can't he just phone you?
I just don't get it.
All this getting dinner ready etc do you all eat the minute you walk through the door?
Does no one speak to each other any more?

I've never even considered doing this but if some people benefit from it then fair enough

@dontstopmenowimhavingagoodtime Why so nasty?

And you’re criticising people for being rude? 😂Where has she said a family is perfect?

And who knew the world has to answer texts immediately not to be classed as rude.

Would love to know how immediate text replying works when you’re working and have busy lives.

Yep, no issue at all.

@Magn01a agreed!

That's how I feel too. I don't need to be tracked to facilitate meal planning!

And there we go again, the 'if you don't have this you mustn't care about your children' jibe. What a load of nonsense. I care about their safety but as just one of many other things which are important like independence, privacy, ability to get themselves out of sticky (not necessarily dangerous) situations, and plain old growing up and acting like adults. I grew up in Ireland and people of my parents generation emigrated in their mid to late teens with just a cardboard suitcase to do hard labour in foreign countries and we are talking about people in their twenties agreeing to or much worse, wanting their parents to track them and know where they are. To my mind, that signifies a failure to launch whatever way you care to look at it.

Why bother with a phone call, which is distracting and potentially dangerous while driving, if a quick glance at your phone will give the same information with no risk to the driver or their passengers?

“Existing research shows drivers using either a hand-held or a hands-free phone are four times more likely to be involved in a collision, often fail to notice hazards – even when they appear directly ahead of them – and take longer to react to any hazards they do notice”

https://www.fleetnews.co.uk/news/research-changes-police-approach-to-hands-free-phone-use-while-driving#:~:text=Existing%20research%20shows%20drivers%20using,any%20hazards%20they%20do%20notice.

@theleafandnotthetree exactly! They put on a nasty jibe but they don't like getting it back.

Typical! I'm such a good caring parent..... like you've said, lots of other things you need to teach your child.

@Cosyblankets DH can't call me if he's stuck in traffic and going to be late to collect DS as obviously it is against the law to use a mobile phone while driving. It's not about making tea.

Yes.

Both of us have pretty dangerous hobbies that we often carry out solo, but that we can’t often get to our phones easily to update. Just means we can watch each other and if we’re moving / have been actively recently it helps with the peace of mind.

I also travel a lot for work and it makes me feel safe someone has a ‘last seen’ account of me all the time, and from his perspective he can have a quick check in to see how far from home I am if I’m driving etc.

equally- if one of us wanted to stop sharing location it wouldn’t be an issue. For us it’s a safety thing.