To have ignored friend at this event?

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Should really say ex friend. I bought us tickets to an event on the agreement she would pay me back (£150 each). She then didn’t pay back and made excuses when I asked to meet up (I never even asked her for the money when suggesting we get dinner etc as I just genuinely wanted to see her)

I made the decision to sell the tickets, and it was the right one. I asked for the money back before selling when I knew it was her payday and she said “I’ll pay you back on pay day” and then didn’t.

The event we were going to has been and gone, she has no idea if I sold the tickets, if I went etc. Last night I went out with a good friend to a venue that has live music events and by chance she was also there. Neither of us approached each other and today I’ve woken up to a text calling me rude.

As far as I’m concerned, I no longer see her as a friend, I would be mortified to owe my friend £150 and not offer pay back in instalments or be up front that I couldn’t afford it, or didn’t want to go now and offer to help find someone else or sell it etc. So no I’m not going to walk up to her and be fake and pretend everything is fine.

My reply would be "I'M rude for not talking to someone I no longer consider a friend after she left me hanging on a £150 debt???"

The friendships over. Hence why you called her ex friend, you know it yourself. Block and move on - life’s too short!

In future you don’t pay for anything until someone pays you before you purchase the tickets. Always make sure they transfer you just before you buy anything! Life lesson

I get you think she was rude but you're not out of pocket so I'd let it go if you see her again (as well as the friendship).

Op you should say you didn't realise it was her as you had thought she had disappeared off the face of the earth

She didn't approach you either though? How can she owe (or did owe) you money AND call you rude for doing exactly what she did?! Weirdo...

Perfect!

Not unreasonable at all. And if this similarly CF is the ‘friend’ then you are absolutely right to ignore her, at the event and for the rest of your natural born lives.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5100861-to-think-friend-should-have-reminded-me

I would reply you were equally rude not talking to me, but I had a reason.

It is a life lesson but the good were selling fast so we knew of we’d waited they would be long gone.

But yes sad life lesson to learn that “friends” can do this and seemingly not give a shit because it’s not come out of their pocket.

How do you mean “let it go”? By doing what exactly?

I'd just block her tbh lifes too short, she obviously knows fine well why you wouldn't want to speak to her!

I'd just send her the final paragraph of your first post

She is not a friend, it's that simple. A friend doesn't allow you to purchase two tickets, makes no effort to pay, even when contacted makes excuses and still doesn't pay. She's made no contact to find out if you attended the event, if you sold the ticket or offer any money. Block her and walk away. If she can't see how terrible her behaviour is, then she clearly has no moral compass.

"New phone, who dis?"

Surely this is a reverse of the other side posted last month -why didn't she remind me.

And we suspected that person probably just sold them on so the op didn't owe anything and seems correct.

Anyway friendship seems over. Maybe just say you didn't see her /new contacts playing up if want to remain civil if with mutual friends

I have no idea what you’re talking about. I clearly said in my OP that I reminded her on her pay day and she lied and said she’d pay me on her pay day.

I hope you sold the ticket(s) at face value or she's likely to want her share of any profit you made! I really don't think there is any way to make someone like that understand what they have done wrong so I wouldn't waste time trying. Just block her.

OP She is accusing you of something so as to give herself an "excuse" to not pay you back, because "you are no longer a friend". That is not an excuse for not repaying a debt but I would bet she is trying to persuade herself that it is by making you out to be the bad guy. Friendship over but she ended it, not you. YANBU

And we suspected that person probably just sold them on so the op didn't owe anything and seems correct.

I think the OP in that case owed her friend an apology for her shitty behaviour.

I did sell at face value but even if I’d made a profit (I could have done but didn’t want to) it was never hers, both bought by me and I never sent her the e-ticket so she’d be entitled to absolutely nothing.

Oh yes apologies both ways in that case. Just not cash.

Potentially, but the event is long over so it’s not a plausible excuse if she did try and use it.

You’re allowed to set your own boundaries for what you will accept from a friend.
she has fallen short of your required standard and so you can treat her as an acquaintance now if you like.

And just to point out, if she’d transferred me the money after I’d sold them I obviously would have returned it. But that never happened so.