To have ignored friend at this event?

[icecrream]

Should really say ex friend. I bought us tickets to an event on the agreement she would pay me back (£150 each). She then didn’t pay back and made excuses when I asked to meet up (I never even asked her for the money when suggesting we get dinner etc as I just genuinely wanted to see her)

I made the decision to sell the tickets, and it was the right one. I asked for the money back before selling when I knew it was her payday and she said “I’ll pay you back on pay day” and then didn’t.

The event we were going to has been and gone, she has no idea if I sold the tickets, if I went etc. Last night I went out with a good friend to a venue that has live music events and by chance she was also there. Neither of us approached each other and today I’ve woken up to a text calling me rude.

As far as I’m concerned, I no longer see her as a friend, I would be mortified to owe my friend £150 and not offer pay back in instalments or be up front that I couldn’t afford it, or didn’t want to go now and offer to help find someone else or sell it etc. So no I’m not going to walk up to her and be fake and pretend everything is fine.

My reply -

'I remember you! You're the rude and miserly c@nt that wouldn't pay me the £150 you owed! Don't contact me again. P.S the dress you were wearing made you look very heavy.'

If you are going to ignore someone then tell them why. I know she has been inconsiderate but you’ve not actually called her out on it.

No reply is a response
Ignore and block

What a stupid reply.

I wouldn’t even bother to reply, OP.

She’s looking for a reaction from you. Don’t give her the pleasure. Just go about your Sunday and have a nice day.

It would be a coincidence if the other thread running, is not the “friend”… she’s getting a bashing for not paying back the money for the ticket

I'd either not reply and block or reply fuck off and block, cheeky cow.

Reply ' oh I was waiting for you to come over with the £150 quid you owe me. It was obvious you weren't going to so thought I'd save you the embarassment'.

I paid £150 to get rid of you, no way was I wasting that money by saying Hi.

YANBU to be annoyed with her, but it'd have been more assertive to tell her specifically that you were pissed off about the £150 than just to ignore her.

I’d reply saying, “No, ‘rude’ is getting me to buy a £150 for a ticket for you and then not paying for it as agreed. The money never materialised even after you were paid and I then had to try and find a buyer so I wasn’t left out of pocket. At no point have you apologised for doing any of this. So, let’s just accept that our friendship has run its course.”

Cheeky fucker.

I’d be tempted to reply 👍

And go NC - Shea no friend

😂😂

I would reply and say it's ruder to owe money and refuse to pay it.

There must be another concert she wants a ticket to!

She didn't pay! So how would she be due any profit?

She wouldn't of course. But she didn't even understand normal obligations so who knows.

She’s not dumb. She knows why. Which is why she didn’t approach me.

Plus I’ve called out shit behaviour from her before and she just gets defensive.

What?

I think I'd send back

'Rude is asking a friend to pay for a ticket and not paying them back'

I wish people would stop going on about some other thread. Having now read it the whole point was she didn’t pay as she wasn’t reminded. I have very much reminded my ex friend to pay.

Reminding someone to pay will either cause them to be embarrassed, apologetic and pay straight away or they will again lie and you have your answer that you’re never getting it back. She gets paid the last Thursday of every month, she’s worked in the same place for 10 years. I messaged her on the last Friday of that month. No apology, just a very blunt, I’ve not been paid yet, I’ll send it after pay day.

The amount is also different and the OP’s friend went to the event when I’ve clearly stated that I sold the tickets.

Sadly shit people exist everywhere. My friend paid for 6 hotel rooms for her birthday and two people dropped out and refused to pay. Clearly some people don’t have a conscience.

No need to be snippy. I still think it might be the same person. People have known to change details and also that their perspective might be different to the other person’s, and so the details wont always look identical, but whatever

I’m not being snippy. It’s just boring to have people keep harping on it. I’m also not chronically on Mumsnet to recognise threads. Thankfully I occasionally go outside.

No one was harping on about it. I mentioned it once and didn’t see anyone else mention it.
you def were being snippy and still are, but again, whatever. I thought I was being helpful by potentially alerting you that your friend may have started a thread about it but I won’t bother again

Yanbu.

Even without th ticket issue friend could have just as easily come and say hello to you so she was equally rude.

You have good reason to ignore her after the way she treated you regarding ticket.

I would want to say something to her, but i doubt she will understand or it will do any good. I can't believe she has the audacity to call you rude after not paying or explaining why she couldn't pay and asking if they could be refunded.

Your initial mention was not the first one, someone had already posted the thread and OP had responded advising not her.

So you may have intended to help but i can understand the OP trying to bring it back to her issue.