To not like anyone coming into my home?

[PontiacBanditt]

I've recently moved into a new apartment with DH and our 3 DCs.

We never had people round in our old place because it was simply too small for us let alone guests. Now we've moved and my DM, DF, Uncle and a mum friend with her four children have separately invited themselves round/asked when they can visit and I don't really have any excuse for why they can't.

The idea of people being here makes me so uncomfortable. I hate hate hate people using my toilet, especially as I know DM never washes her hands, the smell of people's lingering perfume, their germs everywhere, DF is always covered in cat hair and it'll be on my sofa etc I just can't stand it. My home is my safe space and I like it just us.

I know I sound insane. I previously struggled with OCD and had therapy and medication for it. I'm not a clean freak, I have 3DC, our place is often messy and dirty so I don't know why I feel like this about other people. I am very sociable outside our home.

DC are too small to have friends round but I'd be fine with that

Please tell me I'm not alone or do I need therapy?

I’m so glad you got help and you’re better. Postpartum anxiety is awful a
nd no joke xx well done on your amazing progress xxx

Well done for getting yourself help @PontiacBanditt , I am glad you are in a much better place now.

@PontiacBanditt
I really understand how you feel, since Covid my OCDs have got worse again if I go out, once I'm home have a shower and wash my hair and my clothes straight away, if I had a workman in for example I would bleach the toilet ect afterwards and I have a couple of mugs that are only used for tradespeople as I can't let them use mine.
Also when I am out I cover my hand to open doors or press the button to cross the road.
I look at people in the street and think how can you touch that.
I know a lot of people see it as a problem but I don't, I just look at it that I'm super clean and don't like other people's germs.

You're amazing OP! Well done on taking such huge strides forward. It must feel so much more relaxing for you x

I'm a bit like this. I have a young child and sometimes have play dates in our home as I feel more comfortable at home as I also most likely have OCD and will avoid eating or going to the loo in someone else's home or out at a soft play HOWEVER increasingly I'm finding I don't like having people over. I can handle people in the living area (shoes off) but don't like people in our kitchen or using our bathroom. We don't have a downstairs loo and I really want one so if anyone comes they don't have to go upstairs and use our loo. I have to clean after anyone has been. I can't stand anyone in my kitchen making their own cup of tea, going in our fridge etc, which DH family sometimes do.