Day out in car with friends’ American Bully?

[WildGreenHedgehog]

My friend has adopted an American Bully recently and is and another friend are going down to Brighton on Friday for a day out and she’s messaged us saying she’s bringing the dog. It isn’t one of those XL types but I’m still concerned about getting in the car with a dangerous dog I don’t know (and she doesn’t know really) incase it gets territorial. I don’t know whether to say anything in case she thinks I’m being a wet lettuce?
AIBU?

She didn't say it is about all bully types. The poster was specifically talking about American Bully - all dogs from the American Bully class.

OP says it’s an American Bully. They were all bred from pit bulls. I wouldn’t be going near any of them.

The OP's friend has an American Bully, so the Pitbull information is very relevant here.

If she just rescued an adult dog it’s really irresponsible to take it for a day trip so soon. Rescue dogs are generally damaged in one way or another, and putting them in a stressful situation for long periods of time (car, new people, unfamiliar location), before he trusts the owner, is a recipe for disaster. You have to go really slow with rescues. Like three months minimum before I’d even consider taking rescue dog out for a walk with strangers. If I were you I’d find myself unwell on that day.

It is a newly adopted dog from a rather strong breed which is on the more aggressive side of scale. It is reasonable to consider it dangerous until proven otherwise.

Why on earth would anyone want to bring their dog on a day out to Brighton ?!!!

What enjoyment is the dog going to get from the day ?

I have no idea where you are all setting off from, but does the dog travel well ?
does it get car sick
is it quiet in the car
is it safe in the car

is it coming everywhere ? many shops will not want a dog inside, so that rules out shopping
you will be limited on where you can eat or you will all be sat outside

does it like other dogs - will it want to say hello and sniff every dog's bottom that it meets or is it going to bark at every dog it meets

it can't be left in the car, so it is with you for every minute on Friday.

whose car is it going in

and she needs to pack a bowl and large bottle of water for it along with large poo bags

I understand she may not want to leave a newly adopted dog alone at home for the day, so she should have made arrangements for it.

It is not going to ' enjoy ' the day.

Thanks for the replies. To specify it will be her driving in her car and me and our other friend as passengers with the newly adopted adult dog in the back seat.

I have no reason to believe that the dog is inherently dangerous but my concern is that the dog is getting in a small space with 2 strangers and 1 briefly known human. It could get aggressive or territorial for that reason or it might not travel well, etc.

So many reports of women killed by dogs in the UK recently - I just googled it and I'm shocked. I hadn't realised so much is happening.

It's a dog the new owner doesn't know well yet, didn't train herself, may not know the reasons behind the dog being rehomed.

Dog may have issues she hasn't found out yet.

Being restricted in the back seat of a car next to a complete stranger may upset it.

If something does happen, the owner will not be able to control it if she's driving.

I would say no to travel and meet friend down there.

So one of you has to sit in the back seat with it?

I woudn't go if the dog were going.

The dog wasn't adopted. It's not a child. It was rehomed, because for some reason it could not stay with previous owners.

But it's under 20cm in height therefore it automatically means it's not a dangerous dog according to the government.
I'm sure you have more chance of being bit by a shark then her dog at the beach.

Have fun 😀

Her information is from the daily mail which is a factual news source that we walking dead must follow
They are all Pitbull killers we must all stay away before they eat our brains
😁

Under 20cm in height? 😂

I think your friend has a screw loose! YANBU at all.

Do you know why the dog was re-homed?

Lots of well behaved family dogs still find car journeys very stressful.
If she’s only recently had it, it seems a bit reckless to be taking it on a long journey by car in the company of 2 complete strangers to the dog.

I strongly suspect that she has limited experience of taking on an adult rescue dog and hasn’t thought this through properly. 🤦🏻‍♀️

The thought of being stuck in a warm car with a huge, damp dog is making me feel quite ill. Can you travel separately?

I’m so glad none of my friends are madly into dogs lol

The idea of someone asking me to share the backseat of a car with a dog especially one we barely even know is just dire for multiple reasons.

Good luck, OP.

It is not a dangerous dog

I wonder why is humans have difficulty with the word NO? Practice it in front of the mirror and then tell her that No, you will not be bringing your dangerous dog anywhere near me. If that’s not clear enough then you will not be travelling.

Are you the owner?

I wouldn't go. Having a dog along will change the dynamics of the trip in any event.

Pathetic

I wouldn't like it - would suck it up (presumably it's her car) but would tell her I was uneasy about it and ask her the questions PP have suggested - how will it be secured, is it likely to get agitated etc.
A friend thinking of me as a 'wet lettuce' in this context wouldn't bother me tbh; most of my friends know I'm a bit scared of dogs!

I'd just say 'I'm not great with dogs so wouldn't be comfortable in the car with the dog'.

You can just decline.

Im guessing that’s a defensive no?

Just say “I don’t have a clue I’m just another idiot who doesn’t know anything about rescue dogs.”

(You don’t actually have to say this, I guessed.)

You know nothing about me nor my knowledge of dogs. You claim that you 'guessed' that I am ignorant of dogs. That's quite a talent, you should do astrology
But you obviously recieve a great deal of satisfaction by making assumptions and attacking people who comment on a forum
Well done. MN 'psychic' is alive and well

Any dog you don't know/that doesn't know you could be dangerous. The fact that these dogs have very powerful jaws is also an issue of concern.