Would you feel embarrassed if a friend turned up right now?

[Sunshine22224]

A friend? Family? Colleague? How would you feel if someone you know just showed up randomly at your house? I leant an old colleague / friend some party bits for their kid, I leant it probably about 2 months ago and I didn’t want to chase it up as I’m not in need of it right now, no rush. Anyway, today she just shows up at my house unannounced with the bits to return, is it just me or would you not have dropped a text beforehand?! Or just popped it round the side of the house. We aren’t close friends and I leant the party bits to help but I feel really awkward as my house is a mess, I look a mess, it just caught me off guard and now I’m worrying what she will tell my other colleagues that she’s still friends with? She was dressed up super glam and there to chat, I just felt a bit thrown off guard. I don’t know, me personally I would never just show up, at least a quick 10 min warning text?

Nope, I don’t live in a show home, take me as you find me.

Well, I'm washed and dressed, and I've just hoovered the communal parts of the house so that is about as good as it gets for me, so, no, it would not be a problem if someone turned up unannounced.

I'm not a great one for socialising, and keep pretty much to myself, but even I think it is a bit OTT that you would expect someone to text prior to dropping something round. What has the world come to?

They not going upstairs so im safe.

No because I am what I am what I am

sometimes the house is immaculate - other times it is a right mess.

my friends don’t judge me. They understand that I’m disabled and sometimes I can do more than other days.

On a bad pain period - they see the mess and chaos and don’t judge but know I’m struggling and many would offer to help .

I have no space in my life for people who will judge me for the state of my floors or how much washing needs putting away.

I am blessed that I have people in my life that care and understand me.

I would never judge someone by the state of their house - anyone with kids knows that in 1/2 hour it can go from ‘show home’ to bomb site… it’s just a snapshot in time and all of us get behind at times with cleaning or tidying etc! Decent people won’t judge you.

I wouldn't be embarrassed. I think even if someone's only seen me 'done up' previously, they'd have a pretty good idea of what I look like when I'm not.

Would you think badly of her if you turned up at her house unannounced and she was dressed casually?

No not really.

My house is not guest ready at the moment but as the sun is out I’m sitting in the garden enjoying it.

If someone drops round then they’ll think I’m entirely sensible and are welcome to join me.

Wouldn't bother me! I'd have to say hang on a min let me put me bra on! But you'll probably get posters saying why did you even answer the door you mad thing 😂

No, my house is my safe place, I don't care what other people think of it.

I’d hate it. I can’t imagine anyone just turning up like that or doing it to someone else!

I'd hate that. I'd only turn up unannounced at someone's house in an emergency.

How long does it take to send a quick text so as not to catch people unawares or make them feel uncomfortable.

I would feel the same as you OP.
Different if she was a close friend or relative.
The fact she was so dressed up and not just wearing casual gear would make ne suspicious that she was wanting to feel a bit superior.

I wouldn't have let her in. I'd have taken the stuff at the door and said thanks. Door shut!

But that wasn't your question. No I wouldn't be happy if someone showed up right now

I've just finished tidying/ cleaning the whole house so that's nice to look at...me on the other hand not so much. I'm still in sleep wear and not showered. In my defence I'm nightshift so this is pretty normal when I'm nights

No, wouldn't be embarrassed but they'd be disappointed as I'm working so wouldn't be able to invite them in! I tend to send (and receive) a text in advance for this reason but an ad-hoc visit wouldn't bother me, they'll just have to take me as they find me!

House is always clean and tidy, that's just me!

But I'd have to put a bra on 😫

I'd prefer a 10min warning just because I'm wfh and often in meetings. Other than that, though, they can take me as they find me.

Social media offering pictures of peoples show homes really have done a number on people. These pictures are staged!

Hate to burst a bubble, but most people do not live in a show home. Especially if they have young kids/pets and working and whatever else life throws at them.

Just take the things at the door say thank you (and goodbye), a bit busy at the minute, just getting ready to go out, see you soon.

Been caught like that once old friends just passing by thought they'd knock on the off chance. Lovely to see them but..they were on their way to a 'do' dressed up, I was gardening, muddy and wind swept, house looked like a bomb dropped, still makes me embarrassed thinking about it.

Right now I’m in the middle of a huge clear out plus emptying suitcases full of holiday stuff (4 large suitcases, 2 large cabin bags) so I wouldn’t be happy. Plus I need a shower. I hate unannounced visitors! I like to have my house in a reasonable state.

No but anyone I know at all well would check by text first that I wasn't working or out somewhere so I'd have at least 15 minutes notice.

I would never turn up unannounced if it really was something I had to just pop over for I'd still call to check and I would not go in I would just drop what ever it is at the door.

Downstairs of the house is reasonably tidy. Tidy enough to not bother rushing around before answering the door. But, I am in shorts, and a bra sat outside in the sunshine with an hour left before the school run, so I hope nobody knocks as I may just ignore it 🤣

No, it’s rude. I wouldn’t even just turn up at our DS’s house without ringing first.

No. The carpets need hoovering but I would just corral a colleague in the front room if they came round and friends can take me as they find me.

I’d feel the same. If it was one of my friends then that’s ok, but a work colleague then no I wouldn’t just drop round without it being arranged.