To leave baby crying if…

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It’s before 7am and you’ve gone in to settle a few times but they won’t stop? Not needing anything, just wanting to get up. They’re 21 months. I’ve left to cry for ten mins and they did eventually stop but now I’m wondering if that was wrong?

No, don’t feel terrible. If they’ve gone back to sleep they obviously were still tired x

At that age, if I was keen they get more sleep, I’d go into their room and lie next to them to see if that helped. If not, it’s time to start the day tbh. My 3 yr old is regularly up before 6am, I try to compensate by going to bed before 10 when possible so I get enough sleep!

This.

Mine would have climbed out of their cot, and over any gates, by that age and come to find me. I'd have scooped them into my bed and gone back to sleep cuddling them.

Don't feel bad OP, being left to grizzle won't harm them and they almost certainly won't remember when they wake up later.

And, definitely leave them to sleep now!

Op don't feel guilty, it was 2 hours before they normally get up and after 10 mins they fell back to sleep.
I never let my children cry it out but even I think what you did was ok.

My son is a 7am waker and always has been. I would have left him too after checking he was ok if he tried to get up at 5am 😵‍💫

Could it have been a night terror? Or was your child actually awake? My son gets night terrors and nothing will wake him when he's crying. He doesn't even register that my husband and I are there and he's still fully asleep. Very scary when it first happened but we read that the only thing you can do is leave him to it until it passes 🙁

Why do you need to re-settle at 7? Toddlers get up at that time

Ignoring for two hours is cruel and a lot of babies and toddlers can do periods of waking early
some good suggestions above
I used to get up with mine give them a cup of milk downstairs and put tv on low and then snooze on the sofa! We had periods of 5am starts for a while at times around the 19-24 months stage

At this age and upon waking early, I wish mine would have happily come into my bed and had a snooze. All of mine would’ve been wriggling, on and off the bed, getting themselves caught in the door / radiator / whatever innocuous object was to hand, wailing, basically raring to go!

10 minutes would be too long for me.

Any resettle attempts after 5am (including getting into bed with them) are generally less likely to work and if they don't then we get up. Thankfully my toddler normally wakes around 7am, but we have gone through phases of earlier wakes.

My first born rarely made it to 6am. Very high energy and an early riser (he still is at 20)!
I never let my babies cry. A couple minutes to see if they self settled, if not I'd go in.

If it was 5am I absolutely would give resettling a go first. And 10 minutes of crying, then back to sleep shows baby was obviously tired and not ready to start their day yet. Waiting a couple of minutes to see if it’s resettling grumble vs. a proper wide awake scream was always what I did too. More often than not they’d go back to sleep.

But it was 5 am not 7.

I would've probably just hauled them in with me fro the off rather than spend time settling but it's hardly that terrible they were left to cry to 10 mins. Certainly wouldn't be getting up with a child at that sort of hour. No way would I reward and encourage such early morning waking

After 6 you get up surely…. Your baby was crying for you and you just ignored them?

Who has been ignoring for 2 hours? Dis you read something different to me?

Gosh lots of arsehole posters on at this time of the morning, 50 years ago people used to park the pram at the bottom of the garden and even 20 years ago people advocated cry it out to get your child to sleep.
OP I think only you can judge how to balance your needs and your child's, many random strangers on the internet will loudly tell you all child's needs trump all parents needs but that's not the case.
Having said all that you're child's distress won't damage them but it is telling you something important so use that information and if it starts happening more often then consider solutions. Eg blackout curtain, later bed time, change nap time or length, buy books about sleep and read them together, put an air bed in their room for early mornings for you, etc etc.
Good luck and I'm sure you're doing your best parenting (which is better in the long term than "perfect" parenting

Not ‘maybe’- you should have got them up. It’s not early and they need you. Selfish.

She didn't ignore for 2 hours, it was 10 minutes and the toddler went back to sleep.

@johnd2 thank you, I was quite upset about some previous posts x

The title? To leave crying? From 5-7
been in to settle a few times over two hour's”

is pretty ignoring ,I think I would feel I’d ignored my child if I’d only been in few times and left them crying for two hours
sorry but that is my opinion from what I’ve read , if yours is different your entitled to your own opinion, that’s fine of course , but mine won’t be changed and is formed from what I’ve read

Why before 7am? They are probably just ready to start the day. Totally normal, what are you hoping they will do? Sit there till you are ready?

My 21 month old has got up at 5 since he was tiny. I wish it had have been a phase😂

Agreed.

So why is the title
The title? To leave crying? From 5-7
been in to settle a few times over two hour's”

is pretty ignoring ,I think I would feel I’d ignored my child if I’d only been in few times and left them crying for two hours
sorry but that is my opinion from what I’ve read , if yours is different your entitled to your own opinion, that’s fine of course , but mine won’t be changed and is formed from what I’ve read

I’ve been trying to treat anything before 6am as night time. The only suggestions I can make is maybe looking at their daytime sleep, if they even have any now? Making sure bed time is at the right time and they’re not getting over tired.