Instinct … first OLD video chat ..

[Loocheeyar]

A man video called me this evening after a quick hello conversation on a dating site .
polite and respectful ish but it was tricky fighting my corner that I didn’t want to meet up tonight ( it was 9 o clock and he lives in north London about 40 minutes away. He’s good looking enough and didn’t ask for dodgy photos etc .
my tummy is saying no just block him as I had to give so many reasons why I wasn’t being spontaneous tonight and meeting for a film or something .

im so new to all this having been married for 18 years . He’s a bit younger than me and seemed cool compared to most . I’m just scared .

He had the raging horn. It's very unusual to want to meet immediately.

It did feel pushy so I was wondering and thinking that would translate to in the bedroom also. My instincts are all way off I’ve been out of the game and only with two prowieowie in over 20 years and felt so safe with them .

He was after a shag. If that’s not what you want, move on.

Listen to your instincts they are there for a reason. Move on someone better for you will be out there.

@Loocheeyar

He was hoping that you would stay overnight.

With other guys, I would suggest that you meet up for coffee and cake or a pizza; something you can do where there are other people around in the middle of the day at the weekend.

Always go for that, initially.

There are probably lots of nice places which would be perfect in the area where you live.

Message and let him know you weren't keen on how pushy he was to meet and you won't be taking him up on the offer in future, block and move on!