Guess what he thinks is wrong with me....

[SafeMouse]

So met a guy online. Date 1 - very average but thought I'd give him time to come into himself. Date 2 boy did he come into himself.....

I'll tell you about me. Early 40s, reasonably fit but no gym bunny (size 10 - 5'1). Successful career wise, live in the centre of a popular historic city in a beautiful converted flat. No kids, 2 cats. Average undergraduate degree. Divorced 6 years.

Let's guess what this Prince amongst men (hes not. Really really not) thinks is the problem with me when incredibly drunk on date 2.

So if he paid, did he have the right to insult her? Or should op have accepted /tolerated some insults if he paid both dates?

We don't even know that he did but how does that change things?

I am glad you are still attractive for your age.
I ''must have been attractive, once''

Why? Does it make a difference?

If you pay for dinner that means you get to sit there and insult the other person?

Just when I wonder whether I might ever entertain the idea of dating again (also post-divorce, also have a cat) threads like this remind me why I don't bother!

I wonder if anyone has told him why he hasn't found anyone?

I bet he goes on Reddit to complain that women never go for nice guys like him.

No I was just wondering if her made her pay for the privilege of his company.

I’m 5ft 3 and lived in a flat when I met my now DH.

I had a hamster and not a cat, so maybe that is where you are going wrong?

He sounds a great catch, I’m so surprised you haven’t started changing already.

I got put off OLD when my date was apparently according to his profile a non smoker, my profile was non smoker and he spent the entire time outside smoking or moaning he had to go out of the pub alone to smoke.

Although the offers of casual sex if I got a train to London were hard to turn down.

@SafeMouse sadly, despite my many shortcomings, I already have a DP and a house. I really can't make him leave after 32 years together, not even for a man of such quality and wit😂

It seems that negging never stopped being a thing. Actually I read some misogynistic shite from the 1960s that advocated it although it didn't give it a name.

The "single cat lady" stopped being a stereotype round about the mid 00s when cats became the official animal of the Internet (anyone remember lolcats?) and people had a brief tizz about single men owning cats, got over it because of all the funny cat content and then it just kind of stopped being a thing as such. Seems someone lives in 2006...

A shame you didnt say as you left that the cats are better company than him.

OP why did you not reason/argue with this man?

I'm the same height as you Op, and I never feel short. It's a lovely height, imo. And my DH is 6ft 3.

You sound amazing. I think he was intimidated by you, and the best way to deal with that for him, was to try to bring you down a peg or two. And it didn't work, because you know your worth. Well done!

I hope he managed to get home alright fighting his way through all those women who were throwing themselves at his feet.

She'd get more intelligent conversation from the cats.

Asperger's?

Too drunk?
Don't want kids?
Too sober?

Well he’s right you prioritised your career over kids and are an old cat lady. Surely you realise that and can laugh it off?

Purrfect! 😸😸

(I type this lying in bed in my tiny unit with one cat snoring under the bed and the other sitting on my bedside table giving me dirty looks because I'm not petting her. Negging from cats is the only acceptable kind.)

DazedNotConfused1 · Today 10:27
Well he’s right you prioritised your career over kids and are an old cat lady. Surely you realise that and can laugh it off?

Thought it wouldn't be long...
You are getting far too much attention, OP.

His conclusion the reason I'm divorced with no children is because I prioritised my career. No where did I say that.

I prioritised the cats ;)

Honestly, this book needs writing! 👏👏👏

Actually, have you… err, posted a cat pic? I think we know each other well enough now on this thread to start sharing cat pics. It’s kind of obligatory at this stage, right? 😻
I’m here for it! Single batshit cat ladies unite!

I am single these days. If I ever feel sorry for myself, I log on here and read about the awful husbands, partners and dates and then feel thankful for my drama free life.

I can’t stand all this ‘for your age’ malarkey.
Do we do it to anyone else other than women of a certain age. And I have no idea what that certain age is but it’s absolutely tedious.
Just imagine parent’s evening:
Little Johnny is good at writing, for his age.
Little Johnny is quite good at spelling, well for his age.
Little Johnny is good at PE, for his age.
Little Johnny is good at maths, well for his age that is. Of course compared to a 15 year old he is absolutely shit.
Actually compared to a 15 year old he is a complete looser.

What does he live in? His mum’s garage I bet..