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Neighbours keeping hold of parcels

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Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:17

AIBU to think it’s a bit rude to hold onto your neighbours parcel when it has been incorrectly delivered to you?!

Royal Mail have delivered my parcel to someone else - all I’ve got to go on from the photo is a pair of feet. I’ve posted on our local FB page but no one has responded so I’ll be knocking on all the neighbours doors until I find it but I just find it so odd that people don’t drop it round ! I see so many people posting on FB asking if people recognise that door or those feet so I’m definitely not alone. I always drop parcels & post off if it’s not mine, surely it’s just a nice neighborly thing to do?!

Also just to add it’s taken me a while to find the tracking details but I can see it was delivered a week ago!

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SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 17:01

I'm sure I've had a GPS location supplied for a misdelivered parcel before. It was delivered to the same house number but one street away.

it's worth asking if they can provide this.

Cheeesus · 10/07/2024 17:02

They’ll presume that you have a card saying where it is.

You then need to keep trying them to see if they’re in, not the other way round. They’ve done you the favour by taking it in.

mrsm43s · 10/07/2024 17:02

For every person whinging that a neighbour is holding on to their parcel, there's another person whinging that a neighbour hasn't come to collect their parcel.

The problem is that delivery drivers often do a shit job and don't put a note through the door.

On the whole, though, if it's YOUR parcel, I think it's up to you to do the legwork (including contacting the delivery company if necessary) and go and get your parcel, rather than further inconveniencing the neighbour who is already doing you a favour by taking your parcel in.

jessycake · 10/07/2024 17:03

It is possible it was misdelivered much further away , most delivery drivers only go a few doors away . But your contract is with whoever you ordered the item from .

SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 17:03

If you find the photo on the tracking page, there might be a map underneath. This is from a delivery I had earlier today.

Neighbours keeping hold of parcels
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Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 17:04

@Debinaround yes exactly that !! If I knew where it was I wouldn’t be sitting around waiting for them to come over, of course I would have gone to get it.

I just think it’s sad nowadays that there seems to be no neighborhood spirit anymore - when I was a kid everyone made far more effort with their neighbours and helped each other out.

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Boomer55 · 10/07/2024 17:07

If I take in a parcel, the intended recipient can pick it up. I’m not running around the neighbourhood with it.🙄

Redglitter · 10/07/2024 17:07

Your thread title is a bit misleading. Your neighbours have taken a parcel in & are waiting for you to collect it. Its not their fault you didn't get a card

mrsm43s · 10/07/2024 17:09

Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 17:04

@Debinaround yes exactly that !! If I knew where it was I wouldn’t be sitting around waiting for them to come over, of course I would have gone to get it.

I just think it’s sad nowadays that there seems to be no neighborhood spirit anymore - when I was a kid everyone made far more effort with their neighbours and helped each other out.

But they don't know that you don't know where the parcel is as the courier is supposed to leave a note.

So they think that it's your parcel and you should come and collect it. And on balance, it's really up to you to do the legwork.

The issue you have is really with the courier for not telling you where the parcel is as they are supposed to do, not the neighbour.

Scaredycat259 · 10/07/2024 17:12

Perhaps all those jumping on OP should maybe think that Royal Mail have delivered to the wrong address and OP has no idea where to collect it from! However the person who has it has the address on the front of the parcel to be able to find OP. I've seen many posts recently on sm of people looking for incorrectly delivered parcels due to Royal mail.

TwinCheeks · 10/07/2024 17:16

Scaredycat259 · 10/07/2024 17:12

Perhaps all those jumping on OP should maybe think that Royal Mail have delivered to the wrong address and OP has no idea where to collect it from! However the person who has it has the address on the front of the parcel to be able to find OP. I've seen many posts recently on sm of people looking for incorrectly delivered parcels due to Royal mail.

The people it went to may be waiting for OP to come round. They dont know that the OP didnt get told where it was. But yeah theres loads of this on facebook, posted with a pic of someones slippers or dressing gown. Why dont royal mail record where it was dropped off!

SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 17:19

Do people really prefer to have someone else's parcel cluttering up their hall rather than thinking "oh, maybe they didn't get a card..." and dropping it round? If it's not been delivered miles away it's hardly a huge chore.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 17:19

SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 17:19

Do people really prefer to have someone else's parcel cluttering up their hall rather than thinking "oh, maybe they didn't get a card..." and dropping it round? If it's not been delivered miles away it's hardly a huge chore.

Could be a huge chore. OP doesn't know which neighbour it is. They might have a disability or triplets.

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 17:21

Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 17:04

@Debinaround yes exactly that !! If I knew where it was I wouldn’t be sitting around waiting for them to come over, of course I would have gone to get it.

I just think it’s sad nowadays that there seems to be no neighborhood spirit anymore - when I was a kid everyone made far more effort with their neighbours and helped each other out.

Go and knock on your neighbours houses and make some neighbourhood spirit. Chat about the football or something.

Bluebirdover · 10/07/2024 17:22

MollyJustMight · 10/07/2024 16:34

Entitled OP, go and get your parcel!

But she doesn't know where it's been delivered!! She's only got photo of someone's socks!!

🤦‍♀️

SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 17:24

whathasitgottodowiththepriceofoliveoil · 10/07/2024 17:19

Could be a huge chore. OP doesn't know which neighbour it is. They might have a disability or triplets.

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unlikely to be the case for every poster that has said they'd never take it round because it's not their job,

Lucienandjean · 10/07/2024 17:25

Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:29

@CandiedPrincess love the community spirit 😂

Your neighbour has already shown community spirit by agreeing to take in the parcel for you.

Now it's your turn to show community spirit by going and picking it up so the neighbour isn't tripping over it for the next week. They won't know you haven't got a card telling you where it is.

Time to go out looking at your neighbours' front doors!

Debinaround · 10/07/2024 17:27

If I had accepted a parcel for a neighbour and they hadn't collected it a week later then I would think that maybe they didn't know it was at mine. I'm not the sharpest tool in the box but I could work out that there is probably a reason that no one had come to collect it, especially if the actual owner didn't have form for leaving parcel's at mine and expecting them to be dropped off. It's not exactly rocket science.

It would take nothing for most people to nip round and drop it off. Mind you @Bride2Be25 this is Mumsnet so maybe they are worried that you won't answer the door 🤣

Bluebirdover · 10/07/2024 17:28

@Lucienandjean how would looking at neighbours front doors help?

greenpolarbear · 10/07/2024 17:29

Bride2Be25 · 10/07/2024 16:29

@CandiedPrincess love the community spirit 😂

Sorry why is it you think people should be unpaid delivery people for you? People have better things to do.

Lucienandjean · 10/07/2024 17:29

Bluebirdover · 10/07/2024 17:28

@Lucienandjean how would looking at neighbours front doors help?

She has a photo of the parcel, feet, and - in the background - the house and door.

Bluebirdover · 10/07/2024 17:30

@Lucienandjean no, she has a phot of the recipients feet, no house or door in the background....

You made that bit up.

Bluebirdover · 10/07/2024 17:33

@Bride2Be25 it seems that @Lucienandjean has decided that you've got a photo of someone's feet and in the background the house and door.........

Not that you've put that!

So apparently you can go round looking at doors and find it easily.

HTH!

Caffeineislife · 10/07/2024 17:35

This is a courier issue, they should have updated you either via sorry we missed you card or a message/ email saying parcel is at x. As a rule it is on the person the parcel belongs to to retrieve the parcel. I do think some people get neighbours parcel fatigue. I know we did with one set of neighbours we had a few years ago. They had 3 young adult daughters who seemed to live on ASOS/ pretty little thing/ shein ect. Some days we could get 4 parcels a day for them, they had selected leave parcels with a neighbour. The parents were at work and the daughters at school/ college/ work so no-one was ever in. The amount of deliveries we would get for them was obscene. They never collected them or said thank you for taking them in. At one point I had 16 parcels in my hallway for them. We started to refuse delivery for them and eventually they put a box out the front for parcels before they moved. I had a small baby and the amount of couriers ringing our doorbell was so disruptive to our family life and DDs naps.

SoupDragon · 10/07/2024 17:36

greenpolarbear · 10/07/2024 17:29

Sorry why is it you think people should be unpaid delivery people for you? People have better things to do.

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Then they shouldn't accept the parcel.

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