Go Fund Me

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AIBU to question why so many people set up Gofund me pages when someone dies?

I get it they died overseas with no insurance or if the family are broke and can't afford a funeral but what's with the raising tens of thousands for no hardship reasons?

Is this a peculiar trend?

Give it a rest.

It's a big part of the reason I left F'book.
Every birthday, illness, death, sponsor etc.
I was also struggling with money worries myself and felt overwhelmed by them popping up almost daily.
I felt guilty when friends and family made donations yet I didn't because I couldn't afford to.
I can see why people set them up. They help a lot of people.
I know you don't have to donate but the guilt you feel when you can't is immense.

Exactly & the big charities (especially the cancer industry) prey on this & encourage grieving relatives to 'do something in their memory' which means begging on go fund me so they can give bonuses to the bosses.

I've had a direct funeral plan in place for years. Once I'd had it for a year it would be paid out in full. It will be paid off in a couple of years I can see why people would feel guilt about not being able to donate to Go Fund Me pages

Heard of sarcasm hun?

There is.

No need to question it. People who want to or can donate will others won't. Don't get the issue.

Why? Funeral plans are available.

With everything else we taxpayers need to pay for, (NHS, education, building social housing) you think that funerals should add to our tax burden?

It's not something I have noticed ....have you seen lots?

I would totally understand paying toward a funeral if there are no funds available.
And charitable donations are obviously common in memorium.

But I don't normally support the overseas ones unless there are extenuating circumstances....if you could afford to go abroad you can afford insurance.

Basically a huge outlay that couldn't have been forseen is fair enough. But if there are others that are just grabby that's not on.

I always thought this but my daughters friend has just died.
14 years of age. Who plans for that?
The family consist of mum who does a lot for others and a sibling.
The most practical thing those of us who aren't really close, but are thinking what a terrible, earth shattering event this must be, can do is relieve some of the financial pressures that they will be facing.

I honestly cannot understand the notion of knowing someone has lost a person very close to them, and begrudging the community around them helping them at this time.
Sure, there are government funds, but you know what? I'd rather no one actually had the misfortune of going through the process of applying whilst grieving, instead isn't it kinder for the bereaved if people who loved them and the deceased helped out?

@Sondheimisademigod from your post, I imagine yours not talking from experience? My dh died 4 months ago. Fortunately, I had the funds to support myself through a career beak from work and also pay for everything. Not everyone has. We had insurance etc & 4 months on my husband’s company has still not paid the death benefit. The pension took 3+ months to resolve and the private mortgage insurance we’d paid for 17 years would not pay out without a Grant of Probate.
Maybe this is why people resort to GoFundMe?
My friend’s mother died and it took 17 months to access her inheritance. She was lucky that the funeral parlour waited for payment.
you assume life insurance will pay quickly when somebody dies, I have not found this to be the case at all 😕

I am not your hun, dearie

I think it helps with funeral costs and also sometimes helps the family left behind. If someone dies without life insurance and they are the main breadwinner it’s bound to be that extra bit harder for their family, sometimes the money can help keep the bereaved family afloat for a bit.
Ive only ever donated to people I know.

That’s a very harsh and simplistic viewpoint. Not everyone can afford to plan for their own death and also insurances aren’t guaranteed to pay out. If they were guaranteed to pay out the insurance companies would be bankrupt because they make a lot of their money by not paying out.

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whoops I was looking for a 'that's not my problem' gif and clicked post too soon

❤️ The bench will be lovely because his friends will think of him when they sit on it.

Sorry for your loss @Downtoyou.
Sorry for some of the bitter comments too ❤️

Funerals don't have to be all singing all dancing though. We e just been conditioned to think that the only way to grieve correctly is to pay thousands and have all the expected bits. Maybe as we become less religious as society, we'll come up with new ways to grieve?

A very close family member died a week ago and I have to plan the funeral this week. Budget isn't really an issue but even still I considering not doing what is most expected 'saving' some money as a result.

I'm not sure that doing things The Proper Way is what is best for our remaining family, but I know that if I veer off from it, I'll be judged.

My sisters’ close friend died suddenly last year. He was living abroad at the time. A friend of his set up a go fund me or similar to raise money to bring his body home. Dsis donated quite a bit of money and told us about it in case we wanted to contribute. There are several things that really confuse me about this sort of thing. Firstly, this account was set up by this guys friend even though he had parents and siblings and I had a strong feeling they hadn’t asked the friend to do it and quite possibly didn’t even know about it. Can anyone set you up for anything they want? And secondly, it costs a lot of money to bring a body home. This guy didn’t end up raising anywhere near enough money but it was still several hundred quid. The body didn’t end up being repatriated either in the end. What happens if you raise enough money for a specific purpose and then don’t use it for that? Can you give people who donated back their money? This guy didn’t. Can you get done for fraud for doing this?

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I do that a lot!

I hate Go Fund Me. It's glorified begging.

I thought it would be a related to my query gif!

My fingers often work independently from my brain!

Funerals are REALLY expensive. The cost of my Dads funeral which was as basic was still nigh on 8K. We still havent got him a headstone as we cant afford it.
The guilt I feel about that, and the fact he has buried somewhere I cant really get to, totally changed my mind on my own death. Although I am lucky that I have death in service that would pay for a funeral, I have already said that I want no fuss - cremate and scatter me somewhere beautiful and never feel the need to maintain a plot of dirt. Def gone get into debt for it.