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Being disgusted now about dating a smoker

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apeo · 08/07/2024 07:03

We've been together a year. I wasn't bothered at the start by smoking. I'd dated someone who smoked before but they were impeccable with oral hygiene

My partner is not at all. I absolutely hate the smoking now. He stinks all the time. I refuse to kiss him. I hate being in the cars with him when he talks. I don't mind smokers breath it's the fact he doesn't clean his teeth/mouth well enough and it becomes horrendous.

He doesn't drink water only full fat drinks which makes the situation so much worse.

He's 28 with only 4 back teeth and are all black and tiny. He constantly gets fillings and toothache, I've never known of teeth to be tiny especially back teeth.

He wonders why I won't kiss him yet I've said so many times his oral hygiene isn't good enough. We don't live together so when he is here, he appears to brush his teeth but you could not tell he does even minutes after brushing. I know for sure on days he stays at his own house he does not brush. His tooth brush doesn't move from the spot he left it in

I can't tell my in life friends about this because I'm beyond embarrassed.

I've asked multiple times for it to get better but he won't do it.

I miss being able to kiss someone without the fear my mouth will be infected with cavities (I read they pass on via saliva) and just not wanting to.

It's so embarrassing for me to think he just cannot commit to cleaning his teeth etc. but it's been so long anyway could he ever have a clean healthy mouth?

I know who his ex is and she's exactly the same. She was an all day all night weed smoker and her mouth is the same with black unclean teeth

I can't stand it and I dunno what to do

OP posts:
HungryLittleCrocodile · 18/07/2024 08:17

@apeo

You lost me at 'He's 28 with only 4 back teeth and are all black and tiny.'

He sounds utterly repugnant. I would rather kiss a dog's arse to be honest.

Why were you even with him in the first place? 😖Your update from 20.50 yesterday, 17 July - (where you say you finished with him) put me right off my breakfast to be quite honest! Shock

Aroastdinnerisnotahumanright · 18/07/2024 08:25

Genuinely, why did you stay with him so long?

Imbusytodaysorry · 18/07/2024 08:33

Smoking is the least of your problems !
hes 28 hardly any teeth. He’s a slob your post says it all

Does he even work ?
I’ve never read a post with such a deal breaker .
You just can’t stay with this guy . How can you ?

JMSA · 18/07/2024 08:35

Life's too short for this. Come in OP, you know what you need to do 🏃‍♀️

Imbusytodaysorry · 18/07/2024 08:39

JMSA · 18/07/2024 08:35

Life's too short for this. Come in OP, you know what you need to do 🏃‍♀️

Just read the update . She had ended it

OP your getting caught up on his bad breath etc when I think it’s yourself your actulay annoyed with for going there in the first place .
Definitely work on your self esteem .

You deserve better

AutumnFroglets · 18/07/2024 08:53

Being in the car with him was horrific. He stank out his car.

That would have done it for me. Horrendous body odour because he didn't shower but you ignored that red flag and got near enough to kiss the mouth full of rotting teeth. Then you ignored THAT red flag and stayed around for a year.

It's nothing to do with him smoking. This is about your lack of self worth and zero boundaries. You need to think hard about why you think you are worth so little.

CovertPiggery · 18/07/2024 08:59

Aroastdinnerisnotahumanright · 18/07/2024 08:25

Genuinely, why did you stay with him so long?

I do think you need think about why you put up with something so disgusting.

You're worth more than that OP.

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