Please someone tell me.what to do

[IamaRevenant]

I'm sorry, I'm aware I've posted before.

I'm the breadwinner between me and husband, always have been. He doesn't work full tim due to mental health. Over the last few months I've not been working (my mental and physical health has gone to shit). Husband is saying he's going to divorce me as I'm pathetic. Meanwhile he's never worked more than 16 hrs and everything else is funded by me.

Aibu to expect a bit of reciprocation? I've supported him for.six years and now he's stomping around the flat screaming at me and threatening that he'll forcibly evict me (it's HA, his tenancy) because I don't have a job. And in the same breath asking for more money.

I don't know what's normal any more.

This is beyond ridiculous. Why are you with this man? Surely you can see that you're clearly not being unreasonable?!

Got any family or friends you can stay with ? I would not stand for that at all . You’re better off without him.

It's obvious what you should do. Leave.

I'm sure someone will come along with more long winded practical advice, but mine is short and sweet.

Divorce the prick.

Leave

End the relationship. That is exactly what you should do and to do anything else is self destructive and pointless.

leave. Why would you stay and be treated like that?

Have you any family you can stay with whilst you recuperate?

Once you are feeling better you can leave him, he sounds like an abusive asshole.

Honestly, you need to leave him.

probably better to do while you aren’t working.

You are married so it doesn’t matter if the tenancy is in his name. It’s still the marital home.

You will probably feel much better with that arse out of your life.

Leave. I imagine your mental health will improve when you don’t have to live with an abusive bastard anymore. Also it’s usually not allowed for a married partner to be evicted from a housing association property even if they are not on the tenancy, so check that out if you do want to stay

You have the right to stay in the tenancy even if your name is not on the agreement because you are married. Very important. Essentially he can't kick you out - only a court order can do that.
Relationship doesn't sound good. Please get some support/advice from Women's Aid

Contact women's aid for some practical advice and speak to friend/family for moral support. Gather your strength. Then get out. Take all your stuff and go.

He’s a toxic abuser and cocklodger to boot. Nothing to offer you.

This is not normal - you have one life. Please live it.

You have been and continue to be financially abused. Do you have DC with this gem of a man?

It is extremely likely that you will experience an upturn in your emotional and even physical health, when you remove yourself from this abusive marriage. Is he out of the house for his 16 hours of work? If he is, this will give you the breathing space to make a rapid plan. Ring Women's Aid or your local DA service for support.

Your mental and physical health has gone to shit because of him. Make plans to leave and if you feel physically threatened phone the police. Tbh you should have gone long ago.

Make plans and leave him

Take him up on his offer and leave. You will feel infinitely better!

This isn't quite answering your post but if you've been employed why isn't your company paying sick pay?

Well I can tell you that's not normal, in a loving and supportive relationship.
He's angry because he thinks he's lost his gravy train.
I guarantee your mental and physical health will improve dramatically when you leave him. Which I hope you are able to do x

If your company only pays statutory, it’s slightly over £100 a week. It’s nothing.

Could you afford to rent on your own, being a lodger in someone's house might be cheaper. Do you have DC together. Don't waste another day with this worthless shit.

Do you have anywhere to go and anyone to look after you @IamaRevenant ? Even if it’s not forever but you won’t get better with him shouting and making threats.

Bizarrely hoping you don't have a work pension for the shitty fucker to come after.

Reciprocation is 100% to be expected in a supportive and healthy marriage. Unfortunately for you OP this is not what you are in. This is not a supportive, happy partnership. I suspect your mental health will be much better without him.

He is being pathetic by expecting you to provide for him and bullying you into giving him money he has not worked for. He is panicking that his source of income (you) is not there any more and is trying to bully you back into work.

Stop giving him money and give it to a solicitor to help you out of this mess. Maybe start off with women's aid for some pointers

Honestly, I don't know. I was in a physically abusive relationship for my entire 20s before this, financial abuse seems better than that.

I think my perception is just screwed 😬