Please someone tell me.what to do

[IamaRevenant]

I'm sorry, I'm aware I've posted before.

I'm the breadwinner between me and husband, always have been. He doesn't work full tim due to mental health. Over the last few months I've not been working (my mental and physical health has gone to shit). Husband is saying he's going to divorce me as I'm pathetic. Meanwhile he's never worked more than 16 hrs and everything else is funded by me.

Aibu to expect a bit of reciprocation? I've supported him for.six years and now he's stomping around the flat screaming at me and threatening that he'll forcibly evict me (it's HA, his tenancy) because I don't have a job. And in the same breath asking for more money.

I don't know what's normal any more.

I'm renting to my brother at less than half market rate. He couldn't afford to stay in the area otherwise, and his daughters are both going to local schools.

I know I've caused this situation but I never expected it to turn out like this 😔

Oh great. So your brother is using you too.

OP, give him notice. You need your home back.

Your cutting him a deal he can help you out

Are your parents still around? Could they put your brother up while you go back to your house?
I know it will be difficult for him and his family to move out, but the alternative is you bieng homeless and I am not sure if you could claim housing benefit if you already own a house.
Don't blame yourself anymore, just look forward to a life without an abuser.

He pays me rent yes but I've never charged more than the mortgage. Market rates would be about double.

He has two kids (my nieces) and one is a daughter of his ex so I can't contemplate shoving her out of her (black painted, she's a goth 😅) room. Her feelings are my priority. Other is six and in the teeny box room. I can't take either bedroom from my nieces.

Tell him to crack on. You will be far better off than a leech living off you and then complaining about you being ill.

You've been in a physically abusive relationship and your current one is at best emotionally abusive.

You need to escape, and you own a home but are putting your brother's wants before your own needs.

You need to TELL your brother that you're moving back in for a while, and he can budge a room up for you or if he'd rather enjoy some space he's welcome to move out and pay his way.

You're a grown woman who is so used to being trampled on that you can't see the wood for the trees. You need to put yourself first, for the first time.

No, they find somewhere else as I said. It's OP's house and she needs it back, I'm sure they'd understand

If you don't prioritise your own wellbeing, noone else will, Op.

Leave.

A weight will be lifted off your shoulders as soon as you cut this abusive waste of space loose.

Unfortunately your brother might have to move if you do get divorced. Might your mortgaged house be considered a joint asset with your husband?
I'm not entirely sure so I'd seek legal advice.

Either your neices share a room, or your brothers family move. You don't trap yourself in an abusive relationship to subsidise their existence.
You have the ability to make your life so much better. Do it.

This is not true- if the tenancy is in his name then op has no rights to remain there against his will.

No I have no rights and I would never try to claim any, he was street homeless before he got this HA place and I'd never try to take it from him.

It’s your house and you need it. Someone can sleep on the sofa. This is an emergency!!!

This!

This is NOT true. It doesn't matter if the tenancy is in his name only - she acquires tenant rights when they married. See Shelter about this. I appreciate that staying in the property is not necessarily what OP wants or needs to do right now but legally he cannot kick her out