Why does his Google history show he was at an industrial estate at night

[Nachosanddips]

Last night I was on Dh’s phone-not snooping…initially at least. I was turning lullaby music off that he and our dc had fallen asleep to.
It showed the travel history of where he’d been/been driving etc. I just thought it was quite interesting at first, don’t think I have it on my phone or if I do, no idea how to access it! I started looking and it was all pretty boring-travel to work, certain shops, cafes etc, a friends house. One entry from last Sunday shows him going out in the evening driving for 30 minutes, it says here no location/location not shown. Then from around 10.30-11.30 pm, it shows a location and when I looked at it, it’s an industrial estate. This is really strange isn’t it?! Making me so paranoid, what would you make of it?

How do you fo from lullabies to Google maps in the Timeline section? You must really have been snooping...

You’ve mentioned that you alternate putting your DD to bed & sleeping with her. Does that mean you & your DP don’t ever sleep in the same bed. If so I’d be more concerned he may be straying.

Apologies, haven't RTFT, but apparently swinging clubs are often sited on industrial estates. In order to avoid causing disturbances with their comings and goings in residential areas,

Hate to tell you this but a friend of mine is having a casual (sex only) affair with a married man. They meet on an industrial estate and have sex in his car. I’m sorry

A trailer parked up with a sex-trafficked woman being forced to service local men?

Doesn’t have to be prostitutes or dogging. Could be meeting up with someone with an other half who has also gone to bed or had made an excuse to go out, in an area where no one’s likely to see them. I.e the start of an affair.

You say you’re paranoid OP but is this something recent, like your gut telling you something? You said you’d snooped a month ago, what prompted that do you think?

I wouldn’t ask him as he’ll think you’re ‘crazy’ to be checking his location history or try to be more careful if something’s going on.

Keep quiet and look for any other signs for a bit. If he was up to something, he wouldn’t let you have access to his phone or he’s got another one he uses for whatever he’s doing, if anything. Obviously if you are able to keep checking his location history without him knowing, keep doing so until you see any patterns, like another trip to the industrial area this Sunday night. Quite a way to go if it’s 30 mins drive away but I’d probably end up putting sleeping DC in the car and checking it out if there is a pattern if you don’t have someone nearby who could pop over and sit in the house with them.

Google timeline does get it wrong. One I might not have believed had I not seen it myself was on Mum’s timeline. On that day we had been into Cardiff for the day and ended up getting stuck overnight due to bad weather closing the railway line, and during the time she had gone looking for where she thought the Premier Inn was, Google Timeline was placing her at some random hotel somewhere between Bath and Bristol. She wasn’t out of my sight for as long as it would have taken to get there, so I knew that was rubbish. Maybe your husband wasn’t at this place either.

Sorry I didn’t say/mean I looked also on his phone a month ago, when I looked, I went back a month on the history, looked at the entries for around a month ago

I can ask him obviously but then I’ll have to say what I was doing looking and also it it is dodgy, he might then switch it off and I’ll never know

Had he ever shown an interest in skip/bin dipping?

There's currently a man showing up late at night on our office cctv going through our industrial bin once a week for the past couple of weeks lol

Perhaps it's your dp 😄

Yes you'll have to explain and apologise for snooping.

It's called communication and relationships do not survive if both of you don't learn how to do it.

If you don't trust him and think he'll lie to you, it's already over.

When I say I’m paranoid, I mean that just the way I am, have seen far too many friends be cheated on/affairs etc

In some areas it is where prostitution can take place unhindered by locals.

No don't do that. I love a bit of peace when DH goes out for a few hours. TV to myself etc.

Talk to him. The relationship is done for if you say nothing because it will fester and come out in anger during a row. The communication and trust are gone.

Google the industrial estate and press the news tab. There might be some local news reports on drugs/hookers/furries prowling the estate at night.

Does he like driving? Does he like listening to loud music or podcasts? Is your house quite noisy in the daytime?

I've driven to random parks and just sat in the quiet for half an hour or so before. Not at night, but I'm a woman and there's no way I'd do it at night, he's a bloke though.

Yes, of course you hate telling OP this and are definitely sorry.

Sorry OP, but I'm afraid it sounds like the sort of place he might take a girlfriend, where they're out of the way, and unlikely to be spotted by someone who knows them. Whether or not it's a suitable place for a shag at that time of night, only you will know, but that's what it sounds like to me.

My money he's gone there for a bit of peace and quiet for an hour with no wife asking questions or a child wanting attention. Who doesnt want a bit of chill time occasionally, totally alone?

You mean he went out at 10pm a night on a Sunday and you just 'assumed' he'd gone to see a friend? Does he usually disappear late in the evening without discussing it with you first? That is frankly very strange.

I hate it when people put ‘I’m sorry’ at the end, as if their wild speculation is definitely what’s happened and they’re breaking the news to OP

So many responses spring to mind, but are you asking because you think I’m suggesting she check the bank for businesses with names like ‘Legover 4 U’?

Or because you didn’t read the bit about many food places working off industrial estates due to excessively high rents in the town centres? If his card was swiped at a business that sells food two minutes before he parked up, then it’s quite likely that he just wanted to enjoy a sneaky kebab without either sharing it or being told off for eating junk after he’d already eaten dinner. And then the OP has her answer and won’t need to either lose sleep, go investigating or start a row because she doesn’t trust her husband. Seems the most obvious first step to me.

So you don’t ever sleep together. How often are you having sex @Nachosanddips ?

You are concerned enough about his behaviour to snoop on his phone, and have found something odd.

I would be worried. Do you have a brother or friend brave enough to drive out there at night if you can’t?

There is something not quite right about this whole situation, the visiting friends every other night (does he fancy either of them?)

What is your relationship like generally?

Excuse my innocence- what are furries ?

This! I drive around for work and if I’m eating food in the car I want to be somewhere quiet, not outside someone’s house. He could have just been eating a takeaway, especially if there are food places near by.