To actually feel sorry for the woman driving the car in the Wimbledon car accident

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I’m sure I’ll be flamed here . I totally sympathise with the bereaved parents- I can’t stress that enough. I can understand them wanting justice . As we know the driver of the car suffered an epileptic seizure at the wheel - she had no history of epilepsy. I don’t see what she could have done differently. She has to live with what she did although it wasn’t her fault. AIBU to feel quite sorry for her ?

From everything I have read there are multiple people involved who do not believe this is a non crime.

I think it is easy to sit from afar and say that we would be ok with this result if we were one of the parents but having witnessed it firsthand myself I do not believe it is that easy.

My suspicion (and it’s only a suspicion so don’t flame me) is that there is more to this hence why they are reviewing some information again.

these cars are gigantic. Which word should I use? I didn’t say she drove dangerously did I? I said I regularly see people driving these types of cars dangerously. People in smaller cars also drive dangerously but the fact is in this accident the size and strength of the car will have played a part in devastation.
if my dog killed two kids I probably wouldn’t then post a picture of my smiling with dogs of s similar breed…

What utter rubbish. Seizures can happen for many reason not just epilepsy.
Epilepsy can emerge at any time.

An elderly woman had a heart attack at the wheel of her small Ford Fiesta whilst driving through our village. She demolished the ground floor of a local guest house. Car actually ended up in the lounge. Size of car means not much.

Ultimately, it's not the parents or any other victim's choice whether a prosecution goes ahead, that's not how it works

What justice can be achieved?

No one can come up with a vaguely reasonable reason she would not braked

I've seen someone lose control of a vehicle when they'd almost stopped at a roundabout, hit a cyclist and then full scale panic, punched the wrong pedal, which dragged the bike (luckily not the cyclist) under the wheels whilst the driver accelerated into a parked car about 10-15m ahead. She had her foot on the gas for ages and accelerated the whole time

That’s exactly what you are doing though - speculating.

Yes I do understand that but there are multiple people who are close to this case who do not believe that a just and fair investigation has been done. I don’t instinctively feel that the full story has been shared yet and perhaps this is why the parents and those at the school are wanting this case to be re-opened.

Anyway I’m very much not looking for a fight online and this is absolutely a very polarising topic. It will be interesting to see how this progresses (if at all).

No one is suggesting that smaller cars can’t cause devastation.

If it was my child I would be dreaming from the rooftops for the same I have every sympathy for the parents
my strong suspicion is that in the absence of any case against the driver the police investigation will be nit picked in infinite details until someone finds a t not crossed or an I not dotted and then they will be held at fault

I obviously mean to the unconvinced parents.

As far as they know the CPS have seen a report that says "she could have had a seizure, can't be proved otherwise" and then the CPS haven't got a case

The driver is a car sales rep? That’s news to me. Pretty bloody galling.

The CPS said that she’d had a seizure and has a subsequent epilepsy diagnosis, not that she ‘could have had a seizure and it can’t be proved otherwise’.

It doesn't have to start in childhood. My step father had late onset epilepsy. He had a fit and during that he hit his head and died.

Sadly for some people I don't think it would be. Look at the behaviour of Anne Sacoolas, who killed Harry Dunn. Some people are completely focused on self-preservation at the expense of justice. Some people compartmentalise these things and get on with their lives.

Horrendous for all involved. Most of all the parents of the deceased kids.

There but for the grace of God go I

Sorry for your loss,x

My neighbour killed someone else in the village last year while driving. He didn't leave the house for a long time, because he was very ashamed and depressed. So it wouldn't be unheard of behaviour in the circumstances, no.

A family member developed epilepsy at 60, she was luckily not driving during her first fit and has now had her driving licence revoked.

My Mum had childhood epilepsy and outgrew it.

I feel sorry for her too and there are some appallingly stupid people on this thread.

Even if it’s a pre-existing condition if it’s been under control with medication and the person hasn’t had a fit for a year, they are allowed to drive.

If someone has children and a job it’s not very easy to lock themselves in their house for a year. She would still have had to take her children to school/activities etc.
I mainly just wondered what the difference is between ‘swanning about’ and just ‘leaving the house and doing stuff’.

I feel nothing but pity for her, not even 1% her fault. Just a very, very tragic accident.