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To actually feel sorry for the woman driving the car in the Wimbledon car accident

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bagpuss90 · 06/07/2024 16:44

I’m sure I’ll be flamed here . I totally sympathise with the bereaved parents- I can’t stress that enough. I can understand them wanting justice . As we know the driver of the car suffered an epileptic seizure at the wheel - she had no history of epilepsy. I don’t see what she could have done differently. She has to live with what she did although it wasn’t her fault. AIBU to feel quite sorry for her ?

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MayaMoo123 · 12/07/2024 18:58

InterIgnis · 12/07/2024 18:49

She’s not the one arguing about it on mumsnet though, is she?

Disagreeing with you isn’t the same thing as trolling you.

I’m not arguing but unlike you prefer to keep an open mind. I hope the review provides all those impacted with closure.

InterIgnis · 12/07/2024 19:03

MayaMoo123 · 12/07/2024 18:58

I’m not arguing but unlike you prefer to keep an open mind. I hope the review provides all those impacted with closure.

There’s nothing ‘open minded’ about failing to understand and/or acknowledge such things as the difference between a witness and a significant witness.

letsgoooo · 12/07/2024 19:06

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 12/07/2024 18:48

Being a witness to something and being a key witness are different.

Being a witness to the aftermath if something doesn't mean you will give a formal witness statement for the investigation.

It seems like the teacher was spoken to. But not a formal witness statement taken. But we dont know, until anything more comes out or the inquest.

Not necessarily. It deiebdsxwfat you mean by aftermath

Of you mean immediately after the car hit the dc and stopped there could absolutely still be key evidence.

If a driver got out brandishing bottle if vodka and slurring for example

ShouldhavebeencalledAppollo · 12/07/2024 19:42

letsgoooo · 12/07/2024 19:06

Not necessarily. It deiebdsxwfat you mean by aftermath

Of you mean immediately after the car hit the dc and stopped there could absolutely still be key evidence.

If a driver got out brandishing bottle if vodka and slurring for example

I didn't say seeing the aftermath means you definitely do not need to give a formal statement. I didn't speak in absolutes.

Seeing the aftermath doesn't mean you are also a key witness. It might do or it might not. Again not speaking in absolutes.

So I don't understand which bit you are saying 'not necessarily' to?

MayaMoo123 · 12/07/2024 19:59

Emilyontmoor · 12/07/2024 18:01

Apart from the fact that given she was unconscious her driving ability is irrelevent, I have already pointed out that it is highly unlikely that the school would have witnessed her driving / parking. Unless she has a child in the school she would not park outside it and the road leads only to a golf course and common car park. Both will be packed with SUVs and not a few of them are, in the normal probability, terrible drivers. It is hearsay and not credible either.

Allegedly unconscious. Were you there?

MayaMoo123 · 12/07/2024 22:16

InterIgnis · 11/07/2024 14:37

It has been investigated to the full extent of the law. There is no murderer, or even someone that can be held accountable for causing accidental death.

Louder for those in the back:

”That there may have been a failure to adequately communicate with the parents, if indeed it isn’t the case that they’ve asked questions the police were not at liberty to answer, does not mean there hasn’t been a proper investigation. That the parents are deeply unhappy at the decision of the CPS also doesn’t mean that either.”

What is relevant is the woman’s behavior on that day, and what the medical evidence showed. It isn’t a case that she could just say ‘it was a seizure’ and be believed, it had to be and was thoroughly investigated. The accident wasn’t caused by driving she was in, in any way, control of.

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‘Louder for the insensitive person who wrote this post’ - read what the parents and teachers said about the investigation.

InterIgnis · 13/07/2024 07:34

MayaMoo123 · 12/07/2024 22:16

‘Louder for the insensitive person who wrote this post’ - read what the parents and teachers said about the investigation.

I did, as I also read the words of those parroting them. That’s precisely what I have been addressing.

Emilyontmoor · 13/07/2024 09:43

MayaMoo123 · 12/07/2024 19:59

Allegedly unconscious. Were you there?

No. But I would certainly take the word of the CPS over a conspiracy theorist on Mumsnet…

MayaMoo123 · 13/07/2024 09:49

Emilyontmoor · 13/07/2024 09:43

No. But I would certainly take the word of the CPS over a conspiracy theorist on Mumsnet…

Me too - which conspiracy theorist are you referring to? The bereaved families and teaching staff have flagged genuine concerns about the evidence / investigation process and the police are undertaking a review.

Emilyontmoor · 13/07/2024 10:00

MayaMoo123 · 13/07/2024 09:49

Me too - which conspiracy theorist are you referring to? The bereaved families and teaching staff have flagged genuine concerns about the evidence / investigation process and the police are undertaking a review.

The CPS have made a statement that the driver will not be prosecuted because this was a case of “automatism”. If there was any doubt about that, even some weakness in the medical evidence they would let it proceed to court for a jury to decide as they did with the case I was involved with. Whatever the concerns of the families and teachers, which they are bound to have, they do not have access to the evidence that led to the CPS decision. The families have not even questioned that decision, only the investigation process. If you think something else happened on that day to explain events, then yes I think you are a conspiracy theorist

MayaMoo123 · 13/07/2024 10:29

Emilyontmoor · 13/07/2024 10:00

The CPS have made a statement that the driver will not be prosecuted because this was a case of “automatism”. If there was any doubt about that, even some weakness in the medical evidence they would let it proceed to court for a jury to decide as they did with the case I was involved with. Whatever the concerns of the families and teachers, which they are bound to have, they do not have access to the evidence that led to the CPS decision. The families have not even questioned that decision, only the investigation process. If you think something else happened on that day to explain events, then yes I think you are a conspiracy theorist

The CPS based their decision on the evidence available to them at that time - those impacted have publicly queried the evidence collection process. If there are issues however with the evidence and / or new evidence relating to the circumstances of the incident become available as part of the police review and its deemed relevant to the case those impacted may ask the CPS to consider a review of their decision making process (an appeal). Does that make sense? You seem intent on a bun fight a personally I prefer to keep an open mind. Have a nice day (and stop throwing buns!)

OneTC · 13/07/2024 10:46

Famous conspirasist Rowley thinks something's up with the CPS

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/met-police-sir-mark-rowley-crown-prosecution-service-cps-cherry-picking-easy-cases-b1082022.html?trk=feed-detail_main-feed-card_feed-article-content

Thinking the police and prosecution service could be more confidence inspiring isn't much of a conspiracy theory

Emilyontmoor · 13/07/2024 10:58

MayaMoo123 · 13/07/2024 10:29

The CPS based their decision on the evidence available to them at that time - those impacted have publicly queried the evidence collection process. If there are issues however with the evidence and / or new evidence relating to the circumstances of the incident become available as part of the police review and its deemed relevant to the case those impacted may ask the CPS to consider a review of their decision making process (an appeal). Does that make sense? You seem intent on a bun fight a personally I prefer to keep an open mind. Have a nice day (and stop throwing buns!)

No it does not make sense! The CPS would not have determined that this was a case of autoism if they did not have definitive proof, beyond all reasonable doubt. Otherwise it would have gone to court. I was involved in a case where the medical evidence was fairly conclusive, but not definitive. The jury were asked to consider all the additional evidence, from witnesses, CCTV etc. to decide whether they were consistent with the medical diagnosis. The verdict was that the prosecution had not proved beyond all reasonable doubt it was not autoism but that the balance of probability was that it was.

You seem to miss the point that in the legal process once autoism is proved beyond reasonable doubt, as the CPS have decided it is, then all other evidence becomes irrelevant in the legal process. Whilst the families might understandably want all the evidence to come out it is not going to change the legal decision not to prosecute.

InterIgnis · 13/07/2024 10:59

MayaMoo123 · 13/07/2024 10:29

The CPS based their decision on the evidence available to them at that time - those impacted have publicly queried the evidence collection process. If there are issues however with the evidence and / or new evidence relating to the circumstances of the incident become available as part of the police review and its deemed relevant to the case those impacted may ask the CPS to consider a review of their decision making process (an appeal). Does that make sense? You seem intent on a bun fight a personally I prefer to keep an open mind. Have a nice day (and stop throwing buns!)

There is medical evidence to support her having had a seizure, presumably anomalies deduced by brain scans and markers in the blood. There is no suggestion that any relevant evidence has been discounted by the police, and unhappiness at the outcome is not in fact evidence of this in itself. Similarly, the head teacher believing she should have been asked to give a statement, does not mean a statement from her was necessary and would contribute anything to the investigation. That she does not agree with this does not reflect a failure to investigate.

The families seem to object to not being able to see the full body of evidence the police have had access to, but a significant portion of that evidence will be the driver’s medical records, something they do not have the right to access.

I doubt the investigation is going to change the outcome in any way, and isn’t merely a gesture to calm troubled waters. Perhaps there were faults in the investigation however, and if so those faults should be uncovered. The complaints printed in the media do not support this notion though.

Emilyontmoor · 13/07/2024 11:08

OneTC · 13/07/2024 10:46

Famous conspirasist Rowley thinks something's up with the CPS

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/crime/met-police-sir-mark-rowley-crown-prosecution-service-cps-cherry-picking-easy-cases-b1082022.html?trk=feed-detail_main-feed-card_feed-article-content

Thinking the police and prosecution service could be more confidence inspiring isn't much of a conspiracy theory

Except Sir Mark is saying that they are cherry picking easy cases to prosecute. I have evidence that in the case of autoism they do in fact think that they are easy cases to prosecute if there is any reasonable doubt about the medical evidence. That makes sense. If an accident results in people, especially children, being killed or severely injured and there is the slightest doubt that the driver was not suffering autoism then a jury is going to be examining that doubt very closely as they did in the case I was involved with, where a child nearly died and spent six months in hospital. I hope the parents over the three days the case took felt that justice had been served though the evidence gathering about the events from that day was actually inadequate to the point of negligence. However what did emerge was consistent with the medical diagnosis, hence the verdict.

MayaMoo123 · 13/07/2024 11:36

I’m not a lawyer but this is what it states on the CPS website:

‘If our prosecutor decides the case doesn't pass our legal test, the suspect will not be prosecuted.
In these cases, victims have a right to ask us to look at our decision again. A different prosecutor will review the evidence and decide whether the original decision was correct or should be overturned.
They will then write to the victim to let them know the outcome of this review and explain how they made their decision’.

Emilyontmoor · 13/07/2024 11:47

MayaMoo123 · 13/07/2024 11:36

I’m not a lawyer but this is what it states on the CPS website:

‘If our prosecutor decides the case doesn't pass our legal test, the suspect will not be prosecuted.
In these cases, victims have a right to ask us to look at our decision again. A different prosecutor will review the evidence and decide whether the original decision was correct or should be overturned.
They will then write to the victim to let them know the outcome of this review and explain how they made their decision’.

It’s good that they give the victims that right but in a high profile case like this and with the time that elapsed before they were given the evidence do you really think they took a decision not to prosecute without conclusive medical evidence? That provided they do not need any other evidence and, provided with further evidence, even if that proved she was a terrible driver, managed to get out of the car after etc. etc. etc. the decision is not going to change. The school community have every right to question the process but they have legal advice and are not challenging the legal decision not to prosecute.

MyNDfamily · 15/07/2024 08:53

Sirine1708 · 06/07/2024 17:11

I think it's a very convenient diagnosis - human brain is so complex, they can't prove she didn't have a seizure. Never heard of a person diagnosed with epilepsy at 40 though - I believe if you have it, it starts at the childhood.

This driver lives in a detached house in Wimbledon (worth millions in that area) and her car was not the cheapest one so apparently she could afford good lawyer and suitable diagnosis.

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It was a private school in one of the most expensive areas of the country, all involved would be wealthy.

I grew up not far from there, in a much cheaper part of Wimbledon. I am in my 40's, I remember Mum's complaining back when I was in Primary school about those huge cars that the rich women were using. I do agree that in an area like that, were the roads are narrow and there is lots of traffic, limited parking, that those cars are not necessary.

Rosscameasdoody · 17/07/2024 13:54

MyNDfamily · 15/07/2024 08:53

It was a private school in one of the most expensive areas of the country, all involved would be wealthy.

I grew up not far from there, in a much cheaper part of Wimbledon. I am in my 40's, I remember Mum's complaining back when I was in Primary school about those huge cars that the rich women were using. I do agree that in an area like that, were the roads are narrow and there is lots of traffic, limited parking, that those cars are not necessary.

And what’s the relevance of any of this. Doesn’t matter how expensive her lawyers were, if there’s evidence that she genuinely had a seizure at the time of the accident then she’s not responsible. Doesn’t matter how wealthy she is, how narrow the roads are, what the parking was like, or what she was driving. It was an accident brought about by a seizure during which she lost consciousness.

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