Heartbroken about DS's teacher

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DS is a great kid. He's smart, funny, musical and sporty. He is also incredibly polite and has a caring nature. He is always winning awards at school, and is liked by all. DS attends a lovely small school with only 2 year-groups.

His previous teachers were OK but in year 3, he's had the most wonderful teacher, Mr T. Mr T is DS's first male teacher and they also share a hobby. Mr T has really helped DS develop his confidence, pushing him more in academics. DS has had a great year.

DS is now moving to year 4. Mr T is also moving to year 4. But they won't be together. All the classes have been mixed to mix abilities, sexes and SEN.

One morning this week, I went to ask Mr T if this class allocation was final. The head came to join our conversation, and he said he will only move DS for an exceptional reason. The head added that the new teacher has made the best progress in her year group across the whole school. I really want DS to stay with Mr T.

Can anyone think of something?

Anyone else think Mr T maybe didn’t want OP as a parent 😂😂

also I read the OP in the voice of Amanda from a motherland

So would all the other kids in the education system but unfortunately we don't have that so you need to drop this. You get a different one each year that's the system.

This is why teachers and head teachers are burning out and leaving. The school has to deal fairly with every child and makes decisions on the basis of what will benefit the most students. If parents could just accept that sometimes they can't have exactly what they want then we would save a lot of time and stress. Unless the new teacher is unqualified or not dbs checked then you are totally unreasonable. Sometimes your kid will get a teacher they don't click with . That's the odds. It even happens in private schools.

Honestly you are being ridiculous. The next teacher could also be amazing.

Now you’re being ridiculous

Don't turn something incredibly positive into a negative for yourself or your son. He's had a fantastic year with a great role model. His learning has come along. Time to move on to another teacher and another experience. Hopefully this will be a teacher he remembers into adulthood. That teacher has already imparted their positive influence. Time for other kids to benefit now.

Yes, they will.
The system in this country, where kids get different teacher every year is insane.

I come from a country where for 4 years I had the same teacher and it was awesome!

It's probably now too late to change their mind, would have been better to have voiced this before they allocated kids. You can still have a conversation with the head and see what they say.

Hello op.

Your child is not a little Prince. He is very special to you, rightly so, but he no more deserves special consideration than anyone else.

Heartbroken is ridiculous. Hyperbole at its worst.

Keeping the same teacher for 2 years at primary school (Y3/4) may not be as good an idea as you think.
That happened to dd and were pleased at first, but the teacher did have some weaknesses which became more obvious in Y4.
It hasn't been mentioned so far, but it is a concern for teachers that some pupils are becoming too dependent on them and that a different teacher is needed for the pupil to move forward.

Don’t be ridiculous. The teacher isn’t a 1-2-1 tutor hired by you: other children in the school deserve to benefit from his teaching too. It’s selfish to demand your son is prioritised as well as very self-absorbed to claim that if he doesn’t get what you are asking for then it’s somehow a vindictive punishment for your child’s good behaviour, as opposed to all the other things schools factor in when timetabling. Your son isn’t number one on everyone’s minds - your attitude is baffling.

OP are you for real? Imagine if every parent wanted to choose their child’s teacher?!

Thought Mr T had cancer from the thread title.

Not necessarily- variety is the spice of life …!

What?! There's nothing punitive in this class allocation !

Do you realise how irrational this sounds - you are going to help set up a club that Mr T has to give up his time to run just to facilitate a relationship between your child and this man who has no relationship with your child other than being his teacher…..

I think the distance next year might be good for you - as you seem to be the one who has become too attached.

Do you understand how school works? This is completely normal. He will learn new things with his new teacher.

I'm sure he'll get over it he's got to suck it up I.. afraid.

OP, you may have to accept that it's you who is attached to the teacher more than your son. Don't offer to do a club with him- that's mad. If they want parent helpers for anything they'll ask.

The headteacher coming over in the conversation may indicate that there has been something flagged. Do you spend a lot of time chatting to the teacher before or after school or sending messages?

what a lot a codswallop!

1 There are other kids that will benefit from Mr T teaching skills.
2 You have no idea what skills the new designated teacher will bring.

You're getting a hard time on here OP. It's great that your DS has had such a great teaching experience but children have to learn to deal with all types of people including teachers. My kids had a definite affinity with some teachers and a tougher time with others. It's how they learn about life, not just academic stuff and it makes them well rounded. Let it go and support your DS to enable the change in teacher be a positive experience.

My DD is also at the end of year 3 and loves her teacher (as do I!). She has SEN and her teacher is the only one so far who DD has been comfortable enough to unmask with.

Unfortunately, her teacher is staying in year 3.

Some teachers do move up with their class (there's two out of the 14 classes moving up this year), and I think in most schools, it's more uncommon than not.

So YABU to expect it regardless and YABVU to expect them to rearrange the classes just for your son.

What happens next year when your DC moves to Year 5 and Mr T stays in Year 4 or if Mr T leaves the school.

Can’t see a legible reason to transfer classes…

So your child has no challenging circumstances, no disabilities, no history of abuse or trauma, no special needs, which might lead to him not just liking the teacher but having an actual need for continuity at this stage, and you view all that as being down to him being "good"?

Entitled much?

Teacher here. We can't always get what we want. Why not encourage child to flourish in new setting? Sounds like solid foundations to support this are there

There's also nothing that says the nicest teacher is the best fit.

My son had the most lovely and supportive teacher imaginable. Everyone was gutted when she left the school. The one he had this year is not so popular with parents. I didn't think this year would go so well but this is the best progress he's ever made.

I don't particularly love her style and if you'd asked me I'd have said it would be a bad fit. But I'm not an education professional and I'd have been wrong. And I certainly wouldn't complain about it without any reason.

If it's only a small school surely there's a chance your son will have that teacher again in future anyway.