I wasn't as did say anything but would I have been if...

[MascaraOHara]

I told the woman who let her 2 small-ish (but old enough to be told) hildren to stop staring at me whilst I was naked in a communal shower at the gym?

I didn't cover myself up as didn't think about it at the time but I did feel like perhaps I should have afterwards and felt a bit guilty.

I heard one of them say "mummy there is someone in the shower" and then they both came abck for a curious look.. now if it were me and dd I would have called her back and said to dd something like "please don't stare, concentrate on what you're doing" instead ofleaving her there to have a good old stare at naked woman..

They were there for a fair while.

Would I have been unreasonable to call out to the mother that I was naked and perhaps she might want to stop her children staring at me?

What is the etiquette with stare-y children and nakedness in these situations?

lol @ adult nudity

of course you were naked, you are bonkers woman

Personally I wish I was 4 because I would love to have a good hard stare at some of the naked bodies I see in changing rooms, they are soooo fascinating!

I think I might feel a little uncomfortable if they were sniggering and pointing and, perhaps, throwing things at me. Otherwise I'd just shake me booty at em and flick them with towels.

Erm, in you OP you said 'I told the woman who let her 2 small-ish (but old enough to be told) hildren to stop staring at me whilst I was naked in a communal shower at the gym?'

I really don't understand..

a woman takes her children to the gym, and brings them to the communal showers and changing area, and you think they shouldn't stare at you? And that you should say something to the mother because you are naked? I don't really understand why there is a problem? Nakedness is not wrong! Surely the mother was not bothered otherwise she would have either kept a closer eye on what her children were up to, or not brought them to a gym in the first place!

It was meant to be "If I told" LOL.. hadn't even noticed that.

I can see where the wires got crossed now and can understand your posts but you're being quite agressive if you don't mind me saying.

Poor old MOH!

I wouldn't have worried about showering nude with starey children. Like Slur says - it's a changing room and nudity is a given.

I don't get people worried about others looking at them. Ditto, talking about them.
Let's be honest,noone is generally looking or listening to anyone else because they're all to wrapped upo in their own thing.

No, you shouldnt have said anything to the mother, but Id have been uncomfortable with it.
To be stared at whilst naked isnt the most relaxing pastime! And I think if I was showering whilst children were gawping at me, Id be a little embarrassed - not that Id have been naked anyway.

FWIW I would stop my child staring at another naked person. They don't need to look - they can see me naked if they really want to! - and I would be conscious that the other person might not like it.

I'm not being aggressive!

Sorry, but you are being absolutely ridiculous to say peoples young children shouldn't look at you while you get naked in public.

I really am not being 'aggressive'!!

FFS I'm not saying they shouldn't have looked at me!!! I'm asking if I should have let the mother know what I was naked.. not sure how much more clearer I can make myself.

I get you.

You were asking if you should have called to the mother to say you were naked in case she showers with her swimming costume on and thought you might be too.

Right, well no.

Why, why why would anyone think they should do that?!

If I was at the gym and someone came over to me and said 'I am going in the shower now, I will be naked. Thought I'd let you know' I'd think they were crazy.

Again, I apologise if you think I am being aggressive, I just think this is insane!

Im with squonk- the responses are a little harsh.

Im a prude and I always cover myself in communal changing rooms so Ive never had that problem.

I wouldn't have said anything to the woman or her children

but if my children had stared - and I had realised (she may not have realised they were?) - then I would say come on let's get dressed girls, hurry up, come away etc

dd2 likes to comment on why "that lady has a hairy bottom mummy, yours isn't hairy, why not, mummy mummy mummy? when we go swimming so I have to drag her away and muffle her

notjustmom, I find your attitude completely odd, a body part is a body part to a child, unless you make it more so

v odd

why would you not be naked in front of your child?

I understand what you are saying MO

I see your point too and if I were the mother it wouldnt bother me that you were naked but I wouldnt let them stare at anyone naked or not.

notjustmom, if you don't want your son to see naked women then don't take him swimming. Why on earth should anyone try and be discreet while changing? It's a pain in the arse faffing with towels to cover up. Why the shame?

and people who shower with their swimming costumes on

what IS that about

take it off fgs

It wouldnt and doesnt bother me in the slightest when dd aged 4 sees naked people and me and dh naked.

notjustmom I think if you are so embarrassed about your body and others then perhaps it is not wise for you to use communal changing rooms. It is perfectly reasonable to get dried and dressed comfortable rather than under a towel or tent.

I tell my children their naked bodies are gorgeous all the time so what sort of message would it give them if they didn't see mine?

mine do their "cutey dance" after their bath, parading round, very sweet

so, MP... if you went to my swimming baths. And saw the sign saying basically "leave your cozzie on in the shower" would you? Or would you go naked anyway? Or would you not shower and just go home?