to be an equally shit neighbour?

[SkyeB86]

In 2019 a new family moved in next door and immediately they started acting a problem. Then lockdown happened and it escalated. Big heavy basketballs thud constantly from morning till night, kids (6 of them) scream at each other (and I mean blood-curdling screams at times) they think it's fine to jump into my garden whenever they fancy. I had a word with the dad, his response was that other than them jumping in my garden, they're not breaking any laws so he wouldn't be telling the kids to quiet down. Fair enough, they're not.

So I've bought some Bluetooth speakers. Whenever they get too noisy, I play music in my garden which effectively drowns them out, and can only be really be heard from NDNs garden. The dad has this weekend asked me to keep it down.

AIBU to think that if they can have the 'fuck everyone else' attitude, then so can I?

You're not being unreasonable. There's children playing and then there's in neighbourly and unpleasant. We moved because of this kind of issue, best thing we ever did.

Come on people!

oh so quiet
chad and Dave rabbit
living on a prayer
man in finance ?????

final countdown

andddddddd windchimes

I've done a kind of reverse of this. My neighbours complained constantly for normal living noise but it's had the effect of me not even trying anymore

I think we'd need to start a poll. Who wants to put money on it that Becky aka despair 1's kids were allowed to do whatever they wanted and anyone complaining about them was unreasonable and a misery guts?

We do exactly the same as you. Sometimes you just have to give back!

Absolutely fight fire with fire. Just say 'like fuck will I be quiet, after 5 years of putting up with your 6 demons.'

I'd maybe go for a good classical radio station..

Bit of high pitched, glass shattering type music...

Entitled parents🤷🏻‍♀️

My next door but one neighbours' kids were out at 515 this week mon- fri screaming,music, all sorts... the oldest is 5. I felt like joining in the screaming. Dont blame you on the music

You need a bit of classical music. These are believed to be some of the best tunes for pissing off anti social people. It's a genuine thing and used a lot at railway stations to move people on. No offensive lyrics. No thudding bass.
Rachmaninov Symphony No 2
Shostakovich Piano concerto no 2
Beethoven Pastoral Symphony
Saint-Saens: The Swan

Glad I don’t live next door to you as you sound ridiculously entitled.

Yes, it’s pretty obvious to a reasonable person that to ensure harmony in the neighbourhood, children’s noise should be kept at a reasonable level so as not to disturb their immediate neighbours.

Unfortunately, OP’s neighbours sound like a pair of stupid cunts.

@SkyeB86 I recommend playing some choral music or even Gregorian chants. They might get the message eventually unless they’re particularly thick.

I think it’s kind of you to play music OP. I hope it’s opera. Or some Wagner. Very stirring.

Great minds, @@MessyHouseHappyHouse !

Not if it's excessive and it's disturbing neighbours.

It's called consideration. It makes everyone's lives easier.

I'm surprised you didn't laugh in his face, @SkyeB86! Talk about double standards! I would crack up if 6 kids moved in next door to me!

Absolutely ok I say. I could be friends with someone like you 😂

I am truly shocked and despairing at society today that someone actually think their little darlings are so entitled that they shouldn't moderate their volume in order to be considerate!

Growing up I lived a couple of large field lengths away from the nearest neighbour and we weren't allowed to make too much noise outside, and would have been brought in the house if we did! It's perfectly possible and utterly reasonable.

Glad I don't live near anyone with your mindset.

Indeed it doesn't!

Can I recommend the 1812 Overture for this purpose?

How is that different to a party, except that your party would probably be a lot louder?

What law prohibits a person playing music in their own garden?

How can you make sure that the music is very loud to drown out 6 kids, but doesn't disturb all the other neighbours? I don't know how this can occur...

Nice made-up little scenario there but a load of shite.

I never had a complaint from anyone about my children making excessive noise because they were brought up with discipline and taught consideration.

OP did not "expect them to not make a noise" [sic].

She wanted them to tone it down!

The other neighbours are probably relieved too if it's drowning out the racket of this entitled, selfish and ill-disciplined family!

No, that'll be the bad parents doing it.

You might find your neighbour doesn't care about noise like you do

Why do you think he's right to allow his children to be an annoyance to his neighbours? Only a person with zero manners would think that.

Mine hate Artic Monkeys and Paul Weller, blast either of them out and they shut the doors and that does cut the level of noise. I found an old Paul Weller greatest hits CD with 23 tracks and blasted it out on my DAB radio/CD player, door slammed shut within 5 minutes

Then that's win-win, surely? As amused as I am by some of the gold suggestions on here 😂 my purpose is to block out the noises that make me want to tear off my ears - primarily the incessant screaming and ball bouncing